Re: Having Four Wives
you seem to be familiar with the Quran, so read that bit again. UNLESS there is war, famine, disease etc. and an acute shortage of men because of those factors, you cannot marry 4 women. islam is a very common sense religion and in those times, with those factors, it makes sense. but where in pakistan are we fighting a war or disease or conditions where there is such a shortage of men? we are not. there are no such dire conditions. so why the reason for 4 wives? again, the Quran specifically states that under normal circumstances, multiple wives are NOT permitted because you cannot do justice to them and treat them all equally, no matter what you might yourself think. that is stated by God himself. so therefore it is NOT allowed in times of peace... which, i'm pretty sure, is what we have in pakistan at the moment. so therefore, no, no one is rewriting the Quran and certainly no one is judging God, naoozobillah. we're just reading the ENTIRE rule including the conditions, instead of stopping at the line where it says "you can have 4 wives."
as for evidence of wife-abuse stemming from someone wanting 4, well im sorry, but there you have your blinders on. wife-abuse is very prevalent in pakistan- and it doesnt matter how prevalent it is in the west, thats beside the point. but it DOES happen in pakistan, people DO twist Islam and the Quran to suit their own purposes, and you would be very naive not to admit that.
Surah 4:3 states:
"Marry women of your choice, two, or three, or four; but if you fear that you shall not be able to deal justly (with them), then only one."
Thus, the ruling is clear: men are given the privilege of marrying up to four women. The rule then says that if the man "fears" that he will not be able to deal justly with them then he may marry only one. Thus, the person who is called upon to judge whether the wives will be treated fairly is the MAN himself. The test is therefore subjective: it is the opinion of the man that counts and provided he acts in good faith and directs his mind to all the relevant considerations, any opinion he reaches cannot be impeached by others. If the test were objective, it would say: "but if you or your people or your society fear that...."
Surah 4:129 provides:
"You will never be able to be fair and just among women (wives)...."
This states the obvious difficulty in treat four wives with justice and fairness, yet it does not abrogate the previous rule expressly, nor even by implication. If a co-wife feels that she is not being treated fairly and justly, she should be free to make a complaint to the husband, and if she is not satisfied with his response she should be free to raise the matter with the judicial authorities. However, Surah 4:129 does not say that it is conceptually impossible for a man to be fair and just among his wives, only that it is in practice quite difficult for the ordinary man to be so.
I don't see where the conditions that you're reading into the rule came from, i.e. that it can only be done in times of war or conflict.
My argument is that the rule is quite absolute in its terms. However, as with all rights granted by God one must always act in good faith and with the best heart: one cannot take refuge in God-given rights to inflict an injustice.
..acchi tarah kaam karti rahi to boss khush nahi to doosri nookrani dhoond loon ga.
.. yeh top shecret hai ussai nahi batana,please:bummer: …
