Having Four Wives

[Impulse]

Re: Having Four Wives

@Light Bearer

Aaa what AIDS/STD has to do with polygamy?

the husband would spread STDs from one wife to the other....and all sorts of yucky diseases.

[landaleav]

Re: Having Four Wives

The Qur’an addresses guardians of the orphans to marry the mothers of the orphans that are lawful to them if they fear that they would not be able to do justice to the onerous responsibility of protecting the rights of the orphans and taking care of their wealth and property. Men are allowed to engage in polygamy with two conditions:

1-Even for as noble an objective as the welfare of orphans, a person cannot marry more than four wives.
2-If a person is not able to deal justly with all four wives he should not marry more than the number he can be just with. Justice is a value that has to be maintained at all costs and cannot be sacrificed even for such a noble cause.

As the Qur’an states:

“And if you fear that you shall not be able to deal justly with the orphans, marry [their mothers] that are lawful to you, two two, three three, four four; but if you fear that you shall not be able to deal justly [with them], then only one, or those which your right hands possess. That will be more suitable to prevent you from doing injustice. And give these women their dowers also the way dowers are given; but if they, of their own good pleasure, remit any part of it to you, take it and consume it gladly„—Qur’an, 4:3-4

Qur’an encourages wives to adjust and adapt to the situation, but in spite of the wife’s efforts, if the family does not remain intact then its not her responsibility. As the Qur’an says:

“And even if it is your ardent desire, you will never be able to be totally just between women; so it is enough if you do not completely incline yourself to a woman altogether, so as to leave the other aside. And if you come to a friendly understanding, and fear Allah; Allah is Oft-Forgiving, Most Merciful. But if they disagree and [eventually] must part, Allah will provide abundance for each from His bounty. He is Bountiful and is Wise.„—Qur’an, 4:129-130

In the Islamic world, polygamous marriages constitute only 1–3 % of all marriages.

I think above text should answer all the questions. (information taken from Wikipedia, which is written using Mizan).

[landaleav]

Re: Having Four Wives

I believe that Polygamy section in Mizan is worth reading for everyone who wants to know this issue in a broader perspective of the religion.

[somegroovychick]

Re: Having Four Wives

@Impulse

read these verses from the QURAN:

**“If you fear lest you may not be perfectly equitable in treating more than one wife, then you shall be content with one.” (4:3) **
“You cannot be equitable in a polygamous relationship, no matter how hard you try.” (4:129)

one verse is an explanation of the other…it says you can only marry if you treat them equal but you cant treat them equal…HENCE only marry one.

yes, thank you. i said that a while ago and really, its the end of this argument. i dont know why people keep going on.

[Light_Bearer]

Re: Having Four Wives

@Impulse

the husband would spread STDs from one wife to the other....and all sorts of yucky diseases.

It cannot enter a circle of 5 people (1 man and 4 wives) until and unless one of them is sleeping around unprotected.

[Impulse]

Re: Having Four Wives

@Light Bearer

It cannot enter a circle of 5 people (1 man and 4 wives) until and unless one of them is sleeping around unprotected.

It can....how do these diseases start in the first place?? infections etc...and hence STDs can start in a person WITHOUT sleeping around....lack of hygience etc.etc. there are many reasons for diseases starting.....however they are spread with having sexual relations....hence there would be alot of things spreading around the more sexual partners a guy/woman has.

im a pharmacist, I know what im talking about.