Obviously the above quotation was written for someone that is ending a relationship.
I’d like to take a step back and ask this:
How many of you have really, actually, very truly, bared your soul to your significant other?
Does he/she know of what goes through the darkest and deepest channels of your mind?
Do they know of the time that you tried…
Do they know of that fantasy where you…
How much of yourself have you shared?
How exposed are you?
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No, he has not seen my soul, no one ever has actually. And some things I prefer to keep to myself.
I have shared enough for him to know me and continue to know as time passes
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why?
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I have! He knows it all and loves me regardless… idk why
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Maybe it hasn’t been long enough? Once you are with someone for 10 years or so.. its hard to keep anything a secret.
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No, he has not seen my “soul” and he never will. I don’t have any desire to share all my deepest/darkest secrets with anyone including him.
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I am a person without depth. So doesn’t apply
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Better to keep some things to yourself. Familiarity breeds contempt, they say.
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I seem like a complex person but I have zero depth. Even my closest friends don’t buy that but I can’t reveal anything which I don’t have.
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Once I was talking to bae and they said Aisha I am telling you my weaknesses, please don’t hurt me. It is after hearing such things, where you realise that someone is really opening up and telling you everything. Someone is letting you see and feel your soul too. And I personally believe these kinds of relationships are the ones that have more depth to them. I enjoy it. I love the fact that someone trusted me enough to see their naked soul and experience their fears, secrets, inhibitions, insecurities etc. And guess what? I love them so much, I don’t care, I’ll always stand by this person. Regardless of whatever someone has experienced, or is experiencing.
I myself also believe in pouring the soul out, but only to one person and one person only.
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Even people closest to you will turn on you so never put yourself in a compromising position, just had that discussion with the oldest. He seems to blab about everything to his friends and gf. Everything that you say may and will be used against you. Plus there should be a mystery about you. I don’t care much for Vanilla!!
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Bared all but no one was interested in listening
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So much depth in one sentence.
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Wow…I’m actually blown away by some of the responses.
I don’t know why I was expecting everyone to say, “Of course I’ve shared everything I’ve ever felt…”
I like to believe that I’ve shared/bared all…but I also have to admit that as I meet and grow relationships I’m learning new things about myself. Things that probably belong in those dark caverns and need not be shared until absolutely necessary…
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It is never absolutely necessary, there is chit I will die with and it will never help anyone if I shared it.
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I have found that when you share so many of your mistakes and failings with another person, it’s human nature that the other person will mentally (either consciously or subconsciously) register those weak points. Since our mind naturally likes to organize information into patterns, a pattern of your thought process/mistakes/failings will form in the mind of the other person. He or she may not bring this pattern up or use it against you immediately, but somewhere down the road it usually does happen. And if they don’t actually bring it up to your face, it is also part of human nature for the other person to mentally dwell on your history of failings during a conflict and that can lead to inner feelings of superiority, or contempt, or the development of a grudge…it can influence the way they perceive you and behave toward you.
I’ve a close friend whom I shared everything with and I was taken aback when (during an conflict) she brought up my past mistakes (which were really not a big deal)..but she used that to make a decision regarding a matter and this was after several years. It has led me to be more selective about what I share. This is just one example, but I’ve seen it happen with other people too…even within a family…among cousins and other relatives. Heck, I will even admit to doing that myself. I may not bring up a person’s failings to their face, but a pattern will form in my mind.
There are very few people that we can share so openly with. If you have found that person, then more power to you. But I feel there is much wisdom in the sage advice that don’t give other your weak points and it took me a long time to learn this. I once came across a quote that the human mind can be a terrible thing and that’s true for even the best and kindest among us. It’s hard enough with the shaitan and our nafs attacking us with waswasay/whispers to turn us against other people…without us making their job easier with offering our innermost-darkest selves on a platter so easily.
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I see the danger and I’ve suffered first-hand from exactly what you describe.
It’s only recently that I’ve discovered the person I could share with was always right there in my life and now my mind turns to wonder about how many relationships there are where people don’t have this trust and have a side to them that their partner knows little to nothing about. Somehow I feel like it shouldn’t be that way.
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My masoomana sawal is.. if they see your soul and other way around, why would a relationship ever come to an end??
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Being private is different from not having trust. Women will never understand men anyways. We show them what they like to see.
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Well, I don’t think it’s healthy that one’s spouse knows “little to nothing” about them. But I think there are some things that should be kept to oneself. As for what things should be concealed…that’s a subjective matter. It’ll vary from person to person.