Have They Seen Your Soul?

[Muzna]

Re: Have They Seen Your Soul?

@SID_NY

My masoomana sawal is.. if they see your soul and other way around, why would a relationship ever come to an end??

Great question.
Just because someone has shown you their soul, doesn’t mean that you are bound to remain with them or vice versa.
People grow, people change.
Some come to the realization that what once was acceptable or good is no longer.

And then there are those that have bared their souls to people that are not their mates…

[akaprincess]

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@Muzna

why?

Because some things for me are meant to be kept private …

[Muzna]

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@akaprincess

Because some things for me are meant to be kept private …

Again…why?

[akaprincess]

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@Muzna

Again…why?

I feel like i will be judged by what i have done .. like what redvelvet said, even if a person is okay with your soul, they may still have mental notes and hold it against you- may not even be intentional, and i ddint want that.
and even in my current relationship, i told him i’ll tell what you want to know about my past relationships - i told him a fee things, but he ewsnt really interested. He just wanted to focus on us instead.

There is one big secret i have - and i realllllly wish i had told him while we were dating but i didnt have the courage and am kicking myself for i, i regret not saying anything. But now its too late

This is all pertaining to the not so pleasant stuff. But me, my personality, how ive changed due to certain corcumstances etc, that he all knows. Im not fake with him, im me, and he knows that

[Muzna]

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@akaprincess

I feel like i will be judged by what i have done .. like what redvelvet said, even if a person is okay with your soul, they may still have mental notes and hold it against you- may not even be intentional, and i ddint want that.
and even in my current relationship, i told him i’ll tell what you want to know about my past relationships - i told him a fee things, but he ewsnt really interested. He just wanted to focus on us instead.

There is one big secret i have - and i realllllly wish i had told him while we were dating but i didnt have the courage and am kicking myself for i, i regret not saying anything. But now its too late

This is all pertaining to the not so pleasant stuff. But me, my personality, how ive changed due to certain corcumstances etc, that he all knows. Im not fake with him, im me, and he knows that

Thank you for explaining.
I understand.

It really shows the biggest common fear that everyone seems to have: being judged.
And it’s precisely THIS that I want to highlight.
There are so many people out there that are in relationships where they still have a fear.
Wish it weren’t this way.

[akaprincess]

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In all honesty, no one on earth can be trusted 100% - relationship wise anyway.

And to a certain extent, i dont car eif he judges me, its human nature. But some things are better left unsaid. Its not going to really harm my relationship, but it wont benefit t either, so why bother ?

I personally know of a man who swore up and down left and right that he was a God-fearing man, and would make fun of all these americans who were one day with one woman, the next day another and so on. And that anyone can say anything about him, but can never ever lift a finger against his moral character.

Well, come to find out, this man secretly married another woman, never got his 1st wifes permission, and when confronted, he swore to the Quran, to Allah, to his dead mothers grave, while INSIDE MECCA, that it wasnt true. One day when he was sick, i asked him for the truth, for a few min he swore again denying. And then finally, said, yes its true.

SO- with that being said - why should i bear my soul to someone who at any given time may up and leave me? Its not that i dont trust my guy- i do. But at the end of the day, once fire starts burning in their heart for whatever reason, they can easily call it quits.

[Muzna]

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@akaprincess

In all honesty, no one on earth can be trusted 100% - relationship wise anyway.

And to a certain extent, i dont car eif he judges me, its human nature. But some things are better left unsaid. Its not going to really harm my relationship, but it wont benefit t either, so why bother ?

I personally know of a man who swore up and down left and right that he was a God-fearing man, and would make fun of all these americans who were one day with one woman, the next day another and so on. And that anyone can say anything about him, but can never ever lift a finger against his moral character.

Well, come to find out, this man secretly married another woman, never got his 1st wifes permission, and when confronted, he swore to the Quran, to Allah, to his dead mothers grave, while INSIDE MECCA, that it wasnt true. One day when he was sick, i asked him for the truth, for a few min he swore again denying. And then finally, said, yes its true.

SO- with that being said - why should i bear my soul to someone who at any given time may up and leave me? Its not that i dont trust my guy- i do. But at the end of the day, once fire starts burning in their heart for whatever reason, they can easily call it quits.

I understand your fear.
Perhaps sharing with a friend is better?

[akaprincess]

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@Muzna

I understand your fear.
Perhaps sharing with a friend is better?

My friends - know bits and pieces.. one friend knows 1-3 of my soul, while another may know 1,4,5 but not 2. Another may know 2,3. Get what i mean?

And this is also because of my other post- about the friendship thing

[akaprincess]

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For example - my mom was (is) really sick recently and i told my friends … most of them only asked once how she is … and that was it ./ i felt upset, cuz i thought, this is my mom here, God forbid, anything can happen, i need you.

I confronted only one girl and asked her why she didnt. Her response - “it was a personal matter and i didnt want to make you uncomfortable”. I will never understand that logic. My mom was in the hospital for about 5 months, you didnt bave the decency to visit or ask how i am cuz it would make me uncomfrotable.

Ok.

Yet- let you have a paper cut and act like you need surgery for it, and im supposed to always ask about it

So why would i bare my soul when they wont be there for me ?

[akaprincess]

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Im sorry -namely muzna .. now i just feel like im complaining but i cant help it

[Bobby1]

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@akaprincess

For example - my mom was (is) really sick recently and i told my friends … most of them only asked once how she is … and that was it ./ i felt upset, cuz i thought, this is my mom here, God forbid, anything can happen, i need you.

I confronted only one girl and asked her why she didnt. Her response - “it was a personal matter and i didnt want to make you uncomfortable”. I will never understand that logic. My mom was in the hospital for about 5 months, you didnt bave the decency to visit or ask how i am cuz it would make me uncomfrotable.

Ok.

Yet- let you have a paper cut and act like you need surgery for it, and im supposed to always ask about it

So why would i bare my soul when they wont be there for me ?

My wife has been through this path also despite my advice against it, you will not find any sincerity amongst general desis here, I saw people dedicate their entire life for the community and during the time of need, they all neglected them.
We dont socialize with desis anymore.

On the subject of baring the sole, humans are intrigued by mistery and if there is no mystery left we completely lose interest. You never fuse into each other, be independent and enrich each others lives.

[rolla_coaster]

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There’s always something new to a person. You can never truly understand someone or can you?

I occasionally share what goes in my head. I have brilliant ideas some days