Re: Has the West ruined families?
I know this one family whose eldest son got admission to Aga Khan Medical College in Karachi but the family thought it was better for them as a whole to move to the states; well, what happend is that the father become very westernized in his thinking and told all his kids to go out looking for jobs; he started calling his wife "maaci" (the cleaning ladies in karachi); and basically the whole family became a mess.
First of all, your reasoning that a family has become a complete mess because of certain things that seem wrong according to YOUR own personal standards is just wrong. For example, YOU persoanlly prefer a wife who would stay home because YOU think it would be better for YOU and YOUR kids; you're entitled to that right, however, when you start dictating that EVERY woman do what YOU want YOUR woman to do, then you are, without a doubt, in the wrong. I hope you get my point.
Now this particular family--Is this your own? because if not, then you hae no right or enough information to make a conclusion tha the family is screwed up. There is so much that goes on in side a home that outsiders such as yourself, will never see or hear. You don't know the relationships between the spouses or the parents with their children. Unless the family members themselves feel that they are "ruined," its not your place to say that, if they are happy wiht hhow they all are, have mutual love and respect for one antoher, then who are you to say anything?
Firstly, my condolonces to your husband and his family for the loss of his father; may Allah (swt) grant him janat-al-firdaus.
Secondly, it seems like you're taking out some frustrations on exchanges we've had in the past. Koi masla naheen; you can provoke me all you like, I'm not biting.