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^ haiii, sara, come on... natural flow of conversation, remember? hahaha
mein tumharey peechay pari houn on this! :D
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Why diversify when you can consolidate?
I say we create a cake that has the best of both worlds: finest of choco-sponge cakes with ras-malaa’eee. At the heart of every cake slice, there’d be a soft sweet core of creamy delicious ras-malaa’eee with a pocket of yummy-licious ras-malaa’eee syrup.
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let me go tell my mom about this cake 
so i can start preparing her to make me have this cake 
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What is meant by symbolic haq mehar??? Never heard of any of these things
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i think that its a small amount so that the contract is fulfilled... not an actual amount actively negotiated between bride/bride's family and groom.
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On btw, referring to what Khumar is saying, i have noticed most maulvis will automatically assume you dont want to the right to khula'a. And they will cross it off. I wonder how long it will take to change this mentality.
They do it, not because female right, but because they dont expect the marriage to break anyway. I asked a molvi about it & he said, Divorce? Khula? We are adjoining two people with hope that they will spend rest of their life together why even think about divorce or khula this time? Although, we should think about all possibilities yet most of the people just think about bright side.
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What is meant by symbolic haq mehar??? Never heard of any of these things
If I am not wrong it the price of certain amout of silver, 25 grams or 125 grams (or equivalent in local currency), something like that. Thats the minimum amount a man must pay as Haq Mehr before consumptions of marriage.
I usually dont agree with symbolic haqmehr, but I dont agree with some huge amount that is not payable or for which a man goes under extreme tension or is not able to earn/save. I paid HaqMehr within first week after marriage because I don't think its adequate to delay it.
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man, i think you mean consummation....right?!
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yeah i think he does :)
and i think his definition of symbolic haq meher is spot on!
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consummation.... yes - ignore consumptions - that the problem writing on GS - being at work - mix up of words.
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What is meant by symbolic haq mehar??? Never heard of any of these things
in Islam haq mehar is a right of a wife over her husband, she can ask for any amount of money, she can also refuse to take any money from him.
A man has to pay money to his wife at the time of Nikah.
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whts the reasonable amount for haq mahar ? i remember my cousin had £1000
how much shud it be anyway ?
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as much as you think your husband can afford easily to pay........
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So is haq meher paid at the time of nikkah or is it paid if the couple get divorced? and also, haq meher is mentioned by the molvi at the time of nikkah, if the girl forgives it and doesn't get anything then does the molvi say that?? and is it normal for the boys fam to ask the girls fam how much they want for haq meher? i thought the boys fam just decided themselves what they want to give?
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as far as i know, if the haq meher isn't paid at the time of nikkah, like you didn't cross off the box where it said it's upfront or whatever, it has to be paid when a divorce occurs. if the woman decides to waiver it, or decided to recieve it later on (there is a specific word for it but i can't remember it) the molvi does mention it. as for the guy's family asking...umm not too sure about that. i guess it depends on family to family. how enlightened or unenlightened they are.
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haq meher by de fault is due at the time of nikkah, however the bride and groom can agree to pay part of the sum at the time of nikkah and the rest at a later date (specified or unspecified) if the groom cannot afford to pay the whole sum upfront
in the event of divorce however, the meher becomes due and the husband MUST pay it --- this aspect of the law comes into play in a lot of marriages where the meher is intentionally kept ridiculously high in order to deter the husband from divorcing the wife on whim
there is no set amount for the meher, but it depends on and should be given according to the social status of the bride (note the bride-- not the groom)
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that is really true, most things that we are taught about islam are taught from the male perspective, and that is why its crucial for women to step up and learn all this and then PASS IT ON TO OTHER MUSLIM WOMEN
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oh i guess i should answer the actual question as well :D
i havent gotten mine yet but im debating between having it used to pay for my diamond ring or saving it so i can use it to pay zakat on my jewelry--- b/c u never know later on i might choose not to work and then in order to pay my zakat i would have to sell some of the jewelry every year and thats such a hassle, any thoughts?
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^ wouldn't your huband pay zakat if you're not working?
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How come the girls here have already gotten the money - isnt it supposed to be if and when they get divorced or is that some other money?