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There's always conflict over that, for some its only in case of divorce, for others its upfront..i have no idea
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How come the girls here have already gotten the money - isnt it supposed to be if and when they get divorced or is that some other money?
no no see...on the nikah nama there is this thing...moajal and ghair-moajal. moajal means upfront. ghair moajal means not upfront. upfront means right after the nikkah. you can opt to say that out of 100 bux, 50 is upfront, that is i want it now, and 50 you can give it to me when i want it. if during the course of the marriage, the 50 hasn't been paid, due to whatever reason...the girl didn't ask for it, or the guy couldn't pay for it, and divorce happens, then in case the divorce happens, that other 50 that wasn't paid, has to be paid. under no circumstances can it be left unpaid. it is rightfully the woman's money.
i'm guessing for the girls here it was upfront.
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Oh ohkay - didnt know that, well come to think of it there are not many things i know about shaadi and nikkah because my mother never told me and i never asked since dancing and singing and clothes are the most important to me hehe ..thanks anyway.
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^ wouldn't your huband pay zakat if you're not working?
thats exactly the point though--- its MY jewelry, i own it, so its my responsibility to pay for it, not my husbands
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well if you are married then you pay zakat togather, it doesn't matter if it is your jewlery or his.
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There's always conflict over that, for some its only in case of divorce, for others its upfront..i have no idea
Husband has to pay haq mehar to her wife as soon as possible, ' only in case of divorce ' is a made up theory.
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Husband has to pay haq mehar to her wife as soon as possible, ' only in case of divorce ' is a made up theory.
That's true. However, you can elect in the contract that a certain amount be paid up front, and the rest be delayed. However, that is a debt, and must be paid before your husband dies. If your husband dies without paying this debt, then it comes out of his estate just like any other debt that needs paid, and doesn't count towards the share of your inheritance. If you die before it is paid then it is a debt due to your inheritors.
My husband and I have a rather large amount enough to take care of me for a little while in the event something would happen.
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I never got any haq meher type money after my divorce... just land.. can I still ask for it?
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your land could be your haq meher. it doesn't have to be cash...it can be in the form of property...as long as it was mentioned in the nikkahnama
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Same here, mine was set to 10.000 canadian dollars.
The "genius" have taken all my jewelries, designer watches, antique things I was willed by my late babajaan and other stuff.
There is a part in me, Id never be able to accept a single dime from him. I pray, his injustice back fires very severely. Turned out the one set of gold he had with him in a used box, at our wedding, was the gold of his sister's. He had to take it from me and give it back, then promised to make new in his life time or whatever crap one would try to hide shame and guilt. I returned it with a smile. Used things? Its really beneath me.....
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That's true. However, you can elect in the contract that a certain amount be paid up front, and the rest be delayed. However, that is a debt, and must be paid before your husband dies. If your husband dies without paying this debt, then it comes out of his estate just like any other debt that needs paid, and doesn't count towards the share of your inheritance. If you die before it is paid then it is a debt due to your inheritors.
My husband and I have a rather large amount enough to take care of me for a little while in the event something would happen.
Thats right.