Some guys just want to take things real slow. With the texting age now in swing, seems like this is becoming more and more of a trend. They will want to text you days upon days. Short brief conversations “Hey, what are you upto?”, some small talk, few texts exchanged, then silence, then maybe two days later another “Hey wutsup”. If you give them your number to call, they won’t call. You ask why not, they say “Woah you’re rushing it” or “Why are you so aggressive, we’re just chatting now”.
Maybe it’s because I was born in the 80’s and we didn’t have computers back then. People picked up the phone and talked, and that’s how it was for me until college. I think I joined GS when I was 19, so tail end of high school, but really started using it as a social network in college. Texting didn’t come in until WAAY later, I think I got an iphone in grad school.
So most of my life, YEAH, we picked up the frikkin phone and called each other. Or we visited each other.
I mean, I’ll talk to guys who live in my state, and they don’t even want to pick up the phone and talk. They think moving to the phone line is “too fast”.
WTH, that’s how people communicate! They TALK TO EACH OTHER.
Is this how rishtas are going to be in the future? Endless texting and then omg, when we get to the phone, darn, we know it’s really getting serious up in here!!
Snapchat is a messaging app just like whatsapp, but when you message someone, the message displays for 4 seconds, literally - and then it vanishes (hence a very popular app amongst teens for sexting). With the level of commitment that guys are showing nowadays, I think they will be at peace knowing that their message is going to poof off from your phone in 4 seconds.
I 100% agree with you but texting is easier and more convenient can do it anywhere..calling and having a phone convo requires more time, effort and a suitable environment. And if they dont ever call or make it an issue–move on they’re not interested and are just doing time pass out of boredom.
As a guy, if I am interested in someone I would call… maybe its not possible everyday but if you want to develop a relationship with a girl, you wouldn’t keep it to texts only unless maybe if its like the 5th backup option or something.
Calling was used when texting wasn’t even introduced yet. Texting is more instant and more casual. For me calling requires some sort of effort to communicate. With texting not so much. It also elevates the awkwardness of phone call conversations. It’s just the new age/generation of communication.
There was this one guy who kept asking me for my number, but I wouldn’t give it to him. We used to be friends, then he started liking me, I didn’t- and he had trouble staying just friends, so I stopped keeping in contact with him.
Then he started asking me for my number via email ( I had changed it due to getting a new phone plan etc) and I wouldn’t give it to him. He kept trying to throw it in my face that I don’t truts him and being unreasonable for no reason blah blah. Finally, after a couple of months, I did give it to him, guy never even called/texted me once, but did email me a few times.
Haha, yeah, alot of people are surprised to know that about me. Just cuz I’m nice, doesn’t mean I don’t know how to stick up for myself or know how to endure tough times hehehe
Hmm how do I break this to you… this is just my 2 cents but its what I found:
If his pattern consists of 3-4 texts, silence, then 4 days later another few texts… it more than likely means he is texting other women too.
sorry but if there is anything i have learned from living in the western world my whole life and having the misfortune of talking to several men in my more shameful days, its that when a guy is interested he is interested. he doesn’t hold back. he doesn’t care if he is rushing. if he likes you, if he wants you then trust me he won’t leave you alone. he’ll want to hear from you everyday, he’ll want to call you and text you and push you to meet him. they don’t hang about.
but if hes going slow, like as slow as a snail, then it means hes holding onto you as a backup but you are currently his number 6 or 7. hes spending more of his minutes badgering number 1 and 2. but she is probably treating them the way he is treating you. your classic love triangle, you want him, he wants someone else but she doesn’t really want him but she is keeping him on his toes just in case she can’t find anyone else and needs a back up plan and he is doing the same thing to you. sorry but thats how todays society is. players, people with a huge sense of entitlement, no one who knows what they really want. exhausting stuff and this is why there are soooo many single people out there
turn the conversation into sex (not telling you to do this, i’m just being hypothetical) and watch how quickly they perk up. now he suddenly wants to text you every single day… yeeeah men are that simple
Before it was just a guy thing but more and more pakistani women are doing same thing now..it’s a mess..facebook, whatsapp, gupshup, texting, skype, viber, chatting, cell phones, ipads, etc etc have just made it soo easy to interact and find new people that people are always looking to do better and have a grass is greener mentality..that’s why people these days are just fooling around as time pass and entertainment while waiting for the “best option” because it’s so easy to interact these days (can easily hide from parents now also these days using cell phone so the barriers for meaningless interaction are essentially nonexistent these days as compared to late 90s/early 2000s) but in process people are hurting themselves and others
OP don’t waste your time with those guys who are just looking to use you as time pass when they’re bored or as a self esteem booster when they know you’re really into them but they’re not..when a guy is interested and serious about you, it will be very obvious to you
Unfortunately the world, and people in general, are going to be more on the text thing, with that they can avoid having to actually face feelings/emotions and talk to another person. Nowadays there are people who just won’t pick the call and will just reply by text. People won’t call so many things just because they’re not used to anymore.
Like they’ll just arrive at a bus stop, with a $700 phone in their hand, but won’t call customer service number to find out when the bus is scheduled but just stand there puzzled.
