A sikh friend’s sister of mine (S) got married about a year ago. The marriage was totally arranged and the couple were engaged prior to their marriage. Her mom noticed a few things about the other side and advised her daughter not to go ahead with the marriage. However, the daughter was adamant that this was the guy who was going to be her husband.
The wedding ( rukhsati day) costs of the wedding are supposed to be shared by both parrties in the Sikh culture. The guy’s side were not prepared to pay more than £300- £500 for a hall. You can’t actually get a decent hall for that price. The one that my friend liked was costing about £5000. Her dad agreed to pay for that. The other side also did not bother paying for anything except the Scottish band they had at the wedding so food, hall, Dj was all paid by my friend’s parents. Her husband’s side was supposed to pay for a stage but they didn’t even bother with it.
She was happy with him and wasn’t bothered about anything. A month later her mother in law took all her clothes away saying i’m going to keep them fo you. Whenever you need them you can ask me. S happily handed them over but whever she used to ask for hem her mil wouldn’t give them to her. She actually kept them for her younger son’s wife to be.
Whenever S comes home to see her parents her mil gives her a huge list of things to bring from home and whenever she asked for money. Her husband looks away and her mil says " ask your parents for it. We don’t have any".
The mil is so greedy that she charges her son rent to stay in the house and she won’t even let them move out. S’s parents had given her £10,000 to keep for as a deposit for her house ( for whenever she got one). Stupidly they didn’t put it in their daughter’s account and just handed it over to the mil. MIL took the money and refuses to give her son the money.
This is going to sound really petty but I was shocked when I heard this. One day S’s husband got back from the petrol station and bought her a packet of crisps. The mil started shouting at him " Kutta %!! biwi ke liye laya. kabhi maa ka nahin socha hayeeeeee" as if that wasn’t enough she actually ate them ( the mil and that’s when she felt better. she left the empty packet and went upstairs) 
I’m sorry it’s so stupid I know.
S and her husband were going out once with the mil. It was freezing so the husband gave his jacket to his wife. OMG! the mil started throwing a tantrum " Maaa ko nahin dia. Biwi ko de dia Hayeeeee" cry cry cry “kuttay *%!” ( and some other nice words).
It’s S’s wed anniversary next week and she asked her husband if they would pay for half their holiday and her parents would pay the otehr half. His mom was like yeah but a week ago she refused saying that they aren’t paying anymore. Therefore, her parents decided to pay for the whole thing.
I wouldn’t entirely blame the in laws because S’s husband is partly to blame too even though he was nice to her at the beginning. He expects his wife’s parents to provide for everything. The guy’s father is an accountant. S’s husband works at a solicitor’s firm and is in his final year of the Legal Practice Course at the same time so it’s not like they can’t afford it.
She rings home for things like " mom can you send me some contacts" " my foundation ran out" " I need money for clothes". My friend is getting really annoyed because her sisiter won’t stop asking and they have 3 other sisters whom their parents provide for too ( they’re unmarried and in school). S’s husband wont even let her get a job. I guess it’ll be the whole superiority complex issue maybe?
Oh on top of that S’s husband wants to have kids. Thank God she’s not stupid enough to agree because tomorrow she’ll be rining home for things like " mom can u parcel me some pampers for my baby?" " Mom send some clothes for my baby" " Dad I need money for my kids books". She actually stood up for once and said " You can’t afford to pay for little things that costs £10. How will you pay for your kids?" and to that obviously bhai saab’s tone changed completely.
S’s mom had become a bit suspicious of the other side but her daughter didn’t listen to her. Yes they made a few mistakes like not putting the money in their daughter’s account and showing it off to people by putting it out on display ( in a basket) 
Stupid I know but
I just don’t understand how can a man be so greedy? If you can’t afford a wife don’t marry her. She is YOUR responsibility now. It’s pathetic when You expect her parents to provide for both of you. You’re an ADULT not a kid anymore. It’s disgusting to see a guy with no self respect.
