Re: Cousin’s In- Laws
See that’s the thing. Marriage is not about the wedding day and gifts you’re getting/receiving ladies. Its about the two people involved and what’s good for THEM. Grandpa gave money because he loved his granddaughter. Money doesn’t grow on trees but how will a guy who gets it all handed to him ever understand that? Working hard towards establishing yourself financially is **ALSO **a part of marriage…something crucial every couple goes through to become closer and establish trust and strength.
You wanted to gift the guy $15K, good for you. But where did that get your cousin? Who is using that money? Who will get that gift now? Your cousin’s sister in law. Bravo.
Walking away is not the alternative. Nor is it always brave. What would be brave right now is for her to swallow her pride, learn from her mistakes and make the best of what she’s fought so hard to get.
She has to suck it up and deal with it. She has to be the bigger person and let it go now otherwise her newly established relationship is on the rocks. Unless she has influence over her husband and his decisions - which judging by your posts she doesn’t - she cannot say or do much at all.
From here on forward though, her family has to refrain from cushioning her husband and his family.
Paisay se izzat nahin banti hai, insaan ke ravaiyay se banti hai.