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hey i happen to tink desi guys r hawt 
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lol.. even if u were trying to put me down, do u really think it will affect my health in anyway ? i wud’ve been a mareeza of high blood presure if that wud;ve been the case 
go by my second statement.
LI= u r very annoying. either say something or dont say it all. agree or disagree.
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I hate gora guys, so even if I was gori I’d be hooked on tanned skinned dark haired, dark eyed, desi guys :love:
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Iv drooled over some really fit white guys but cudnt see myself with one till i developed a friendship with one and wev ended up being really close.. he's the type I could marry..
Desi guys white chicks much more acceptable than desi chicks and white guys..
plus they have really cute kids.. but the baggage .. the differences.. religion.. it depends how much importance u give to them actually.. i imagine it being hard..
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suroor,
u r very impatient. Real life is about shades of gray…not black or white or neela peela. Sometimes when you look at a problem or a truly burning questions, and listen to different points of views, you really feel that there are more than one way to address the sitoooooooashun.
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I totally agree with you and also in the Quran it says “and we made you into nations and tribes so you can get to know one another”.
How boring life would be if everyone just stuck to “their own kind”. Life is all about challenges and thats what I like.
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Why are we all sooo color conscious. I mean goori ho, kali ho, kasaylee ho, bhalay chaptee ho .. who cares? As long as the couple are happy, tou kia karay ga qazi?
Interracial marriages are great, and so are intercultural ones (Pathan/Punjabi/Blochi/Bihari etc.) Integrated households promote an integrated society, so rock on all those Desi with gori guys!! :k:
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Dawn says:
KARACHI: Fusion destroys cultures - expert
By Bahzad Alam Khan
KARACHI, March 3: Those who set out to fuse cultures, ashamed of or undervaluing their unique and distinct characteristics, end up producing an unconvincing and undigested mess of modish, cultural gestures.
This was the thrust of a talk delivered by former BBC World Service managing director Sir John Tusa at the Aga Khan University on Thursday afternoon. His talk was titled “East is East and West is West and a Good Thing too.”
“Even if achieved, the fusion of cultures contributes little, apart from making some people feel good and culturally inclusive. Worse still, globalization of culture - as if economic globalization were of itself a model to ape - which such activity leads to, is a code word for domination and all too often suppresses or destroys local cultures,” he argued.
Currently managing director of the prestigious Barbican Centre, London, Sir Tusa said his fear was that stylistic homogenization of cultures merged only forms, colours and omitted any real blending of substance.
"Like fusion cooking, the odd exotic flavour from one cuisine dropped into another becomes just a bit of palate tickling. Worse still, such a melange is too like the inter-breeding of a horse and a donkey - breeding the stubborn sterility of a mule.
So my conclusion, a reluctant one in some ways, is that stylistic crossing is a sterile process leading nowhere but doing so in a highly professional accomplished way.
East and West merge all right, but perhaps all it shows is that their differences, their distinctness are too great for the blend to create something greater than the sum of its parts," he said.
Sir Tusa explained that the idea that western notions of time and space in the arts were very different from Asian notions and artistic practice, was put forward by Professor Stanley Lai of the Taipei National University of the Arts.
"In detailed exploration Professor Lai says that western narrative has a very specific notion of time, one that is linear, very strictly defined, and as it were precisely measured and put into units of existence.
Time is much vaster in the Buddhist scheme of cause, condition and effect, and to see how cause and effect really work, one must see a unit longer than a single lifetime," he said.
Sir Tusa argued that some of the most powerful interpretations of Shakespeare - on stage and screen - came from Japanese directors. "Kurosawa’s version of ‘King Lear’ - his film ‘Ran’ - or his version of ‘Macbeth’ - ‘Throne of Blood’ - have put these most English of artistic expressions through the trans-formative prism of Japanese psychology, aesthetic and stage traditions.
The works stood revealed as new not because Kurosawa tried to conceal the intensity of the Japanese imprint on these English works but because he did so without any attempt at concealment.
To have made his films less Japanese would have rendered them artistically compromised and worthless," he said. The talk was followed by a question-answer session. The programme was conducted by Dr Nadir Ali Syed, convener of the AKU special lecture series.
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^ Integration is inevitable and so is globalization and cultural domination. Survival of the fittest my friend.
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Re-read your statement. In order to dominate let your culture grow within itself. BTW I cited an expert’s opinion on it.
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Aray bhai, expert ki opinion ka maiN kia karooN?
Cultural integration and dominance has always been at play since mankind came to being. It's a natural phenomenon like diffusion, chemical reactions and evolution. One can stick his head in the sand & protest or deal with it face on.
There is a reason why Greeks & Roman thoughts are dominant in the Western culture rather than Vikings or values of ancient German tribes. Just like Islamic thought dominates the Middle East. These days the so called popular culture is on the rise, tomorrow it may go extinct.
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the few desis i know that go out with goris treat them as sextoys and just to get it out of their system.
In the end they'll(FOBS) go back to Pakistan to get a shareef, bholi-bhali, decent, pious, virtuous and a virgin kurri. COnsidering how much they get around, i cant blame the desis to go for a taco rather than a grand canyon..if u know what i mean.. :)
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So true…
One of the girls in my math class said “Indian Pakistani guys are not at all consistant”…
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figures…
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I would be ok with the Fobz who go back home to get a pious wify after havin it their way all along if they would stop doin it afterwards and give their wives a little space. Most of them they keep their catalogue wife like she is a decoration piece! It ain't repentance, it's hypocrisy.
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I guess factor of novelty.
they find desi guys as their love of life and within a month of dating they(goris) ask them(desis) to get married. Desi guys are more like a shadi material.
experience.
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so whats wrong them asking to get married?
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Kakay how many goris have asked you to marry them? You must be one hell of a hunk, becuase, I had to move heaven and earth just so I could get the courage to ask my wife..
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I think generally desi guys have better personal traits, since they are taught those in our culture and religion, which is something missing in western culture.
In most good Pakistani families, kids are taught to respect elders, proper manners, how to speak in public etc (not to say that all turn out well) but mostly young people from middle class semi-religious Pakistani families are quite well behaved and also serious about their roles and duties in life (son, brother, husband, father).
Maybe this combination of good manners, responsibility and devotion to commitment is something that some goris find attractive since its not common in American culture? Not to say Americans don't have these in them, many do, and many desis don't, there are exceptions to the rule, but it is not something that is pressed upon in their culture as much as it is in ours.
Also the whole thing about the "exotic easterners" is perhaps another luring feature?
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Actually Irem, the opposite. "Exotic Easterners" we are taught to avoid, we are taught none of them are serious and they all lie, especially if they're married.
I know my girlfriends and I growing up used to avoid Middle Easterners (usually Egyptians and Saudi's) and Indians like the plague. They were so condescending to us and treated us as though we should be delighted because they happened to say hi to us and just spread our legs cause they told us to. Most were the "take you out to dinner then of course you were obligated to have sex" kind of people. Sort of like the attitute of some on this board, just for a lay nothing permanent. If you actually said no you didn't do that, all of a sudden, they were offering you money for the night. It was degrading and it became a joke. The only girls that would associate with them were the ones getting paid.
Might be why some here have such ideas about american girls, who knows.
Indians and Middle Easterns would also put you down in class and at work, you were treated as though you were bubble headed, especially if you were blond. They would also say the most insulting things about your family, religion, or nationality without knowing who you are or how you were raised. After all, you don't deserve the same respect as any of their own. The also think that even though they are 50, a girl in their 20's would be thrilled to be latched to them.
Sometimes I get surprised about the attitude of some of the women posting about just using American women "just for fun" like there is no one who will be offended. I know how my prejudices were formed and overcame them, maybe others should do the same. It doesn't take much, you know, just an open mind and the ability to realise that different people are everywhere. In New England, we are so reserved and frugal, it is a joke about the Yankee mentality.
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I think generally desi guys have better personal traits, since they are taught those in our culture and religion, which is something missing in western culture.
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Maybe this combination of good manners, responsibility and devotion to commitment is something that some goris find attractive since its not common in American culture? Not to say Americans don't have these in them, many do, and many desis don't, there are exceptions to the rule, but it is not something that is pressed upon in their culture as much as it is in ours.
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Irem - I don't believe these things are missing in Western Culture, I believe they are present and very much alive. I would wonder just how many Americans you have actually been exposed to and how educated they were. I will agree that it is not as important to us as a society. A person's right to express themselves freely tends to get in the way.
BTW - my husband is Pathan and was raised in a dirt poor family by a mother who was divorced and had to beg a lot of times. She was a very strong and very religious person who taught her family that education is everything right along with respect to all, regardless of religion and geography (a lesson some still need to learn). Needless to say, the family has changed a lot from what it used to be.
That respect for others, his devotion to his family, his intelligence, and his religious beliefs were what attracted me to him. He says the same attracted him to me.