goris with desi guys

[minah_pa]

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I have said it before and I will say it again, the differences are not as great as you would think they are.

[abc1234]

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:) minah_pa i c...
thanks for the post...
i think desi guys have this mentality that western girls are "easy" b/c they easily date and socialise with guys more than pakistani girls....but i have never and will never approve of this mentality...
a person, any human being, has feelings, and should never be fooled or played with...its a sin

i have not associated very closely with many westerners though i did have friends who were like in my class or dorm etc and i did get some idea abt the western mindset regarding family...ofcourse u cant generalise...but i would still say that overall pakistani society is more conservative in that aspect...though there r exceptions and u will find more liberal pakistanis who have never been out of pakistan than white americans born and raised there..
jus my observation :)

[ahmadjee]

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minah_pa, actually desi girls I have talked to think that desi men consider goris better, especially at a work place. Not many women work in my office but women in engineering are a pretty diverse group and so I work with some Desi girls and couple of Chinese & some goris as well. The desi women at our office consider the goris a threat, especially if they are blonde.

[minah_pa]

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Irish temper and all that, flared out and now I'm sorry

Irem - nothing personal toward you, really, just another point of view, it was actually a few posts earlier that got me going. I guess I wouldn't be surprised by men saying things along those lines, but when women do it, I always wonder why. Things are hard enough for women, why can't we just stick together rather than tearing each other down.

Thank you though, you said everything very nicely and you are absolutely right.

Ahmadjee - I'm 40, so my personal experice goes back a bit. Things are different in the office nowadays, I know that.

[suroor_ca02]

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@minah_pa

Actually
I know my girlfriends and I growing up used to avoid Middle Easterners (usually Egyptians and Saudi’s) and Indians like the plague. They were so condescending to us and treated us as though we should be delighted because they happened to say hi to us and just spread our legs cause they told us to. Most were the “take you out to dinner then of course you were obligated to have sex” kind of people. Sort of like the attitute of some on this board, just for a lay nothing permanent. If you actually said no you didn’t do that, all of a sudden, they were offering you money for the night. It was degrading and it became a joke. The only girls that would associate with them were the ones getting paid.

Might be why some here have such ideas about american girls, who knows.

Indians and Middle Easterns would also put you down in class and at work, you were treated as though you were bubble headed, especially if you were blond. They would also say the most insulting things about your family, religion, or nationality without knowing who you are or how you were raised. After all, you don’t deserve the same respect as any of their own. The also think that even though they are 50, a girl in their 20’s would be thrilled to be latched to them.

Sometimes I get surprised about the attitude of some of the women posting about just using American women “just for fun” like there is no one who will be offended. I know how my prejudices were formed and overcame them, maybe others should do the same. It doesn’t take much, you know, just an open mind and the ability to realise that different people are everywhere. In New England, we are so reserved and frugal, it is a joke about the Yankee mentality.

That is so awful but sadly so true. i know couple of guys who treat woman especially goris like that. it sad to see them treating any woman that way.

[LuxuryItem]

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@minah_pa

I have said it before and I will say it again, the differences are not as great as you would think they are.

I agree.