why would a gorgeous or not so gorgeous gori fall for a desi guy? lets face it, not all desi guys are as handsome as some greek dude or arab guy or even latinos are pretty hot. and as most of the goris already have “experiences” with dating shaiting sex wex, why would they go for not so experience desi guys with so much “cultural bagage”? we know goris dont just “settle” for anyone. just curious about psychology and the reasoning ( besides falling in love) behind inter racial marriages. how do they handle the cultural/religious differences?
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i seen the opposite......"a desi hot chick with a gora" damm and it hurts
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did u just visit image 2 again 
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lolz
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hahahah 
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Majority of the cases I have seen involve the guy either being a doctor/dentist or a successful businessman. So, money is the motivating factor.
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no, whats in image 2? and it wasn't suppose to be a funny thread :-/
hmm okay i didnt see kaleem posting his pic before posting.. this thread is certainly not directed towards him. i typed it before i saw the pic. ( just to clarify things for u folks).
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The thought of marrying someone who doesn’t use a lota gives me the jitters 
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not all desi guys are as handsome as some greek dude or arab guy or even latinos are pretty hot. and as most of the goris already have "experiences" with dating shaiting sex wex,
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come on, which world are u living in. these days there is no difference b/w desi guy or a greek guy or an arab guy or an espaniol guy.....most of desi guys have a lot of experienece in everything....one more thing a guy does not need to be handsome to get a girl...i have seen many handsome guys not having any girls....it is a gift...if a guy has that gift then it doesnt matter if hes greek or italion or from sargodha...
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Actually I imagine their horror when they find out, “You do WHAT with your left hand??”
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And that’s why they’ll never be able to understand me …
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To get back to the original question, a lot of people here take many of their own qualities forgranted. Ofcourse, it all depends on the actual person, but educated desi guys generally tend to be more faithful to their spouse, more responsible and much more likely to go the extra mile to make the relatioship work. Just some of the distinguishing factors. Ofcourse, the point about cultural baggage, and many times an insistence to convert their spouse is valid… but like any cross-cultural affair all such issues can be resolved if there are enough positives going for the relationship.
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My brother is married to a non desi. Though I haven't meet her in person but talk to her on regular basis and I think she is one of the most decent and wonderful person I have ever known. Their marriage was not based on the degree of hotness, first sighted love, but the mutual understanding they had developed. My brother had very bad experiences with desis, they did every thing they could do to ruin his life. She was a great support to him during that time period. Though she is not at all the "pretty hot chick" in the eyes of general people, but it really doesn't matters. We all love her the way she is and actual beauty lies inside a person.
As far cutural differences are concerned they don't have that much a problem with it. Last eid she called to greet us eid mubarak(she actually said eid mubarak),she gave an eid gift to my brother and their son. My brother was unable to explain her all the concept of sawaiyaan and kheer on eid so she baked a special cake for him. This year she even went to the masjid for ashura, the year they got married..she wanted to fast with my brother but she was pregnant so she couldn't. On christmas my parents always ask my brother to buy her a gift from them.
At the end I would say it all depends on person to person. Every person has his/her own reasoning. And as far as they are happy and managing it well its all good.
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I am disturbed that you think or consider that a relationship is based on how hot people are. Sometimes people come together in pain and suffering. Sometimes they come togehter cause they have mutual interests. Those who want a partner just cause they are hot are pretty shallow IMO.
love has no boundaries. Certainly not Racial or Religious.
Goras/Goris arent really achoot. Just cause they arent desis or Muslims doesnt mean they arent good people.
As for Cultural Baggage, I know of Goras who consider this 'Cultural Baggage' to be very interesting and intriguing.
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<why would a gorgeous or not so gorgeous gori fall for a desi guy?>
WHy wouldn’t a gorgeous or not so gorgeous gori fall for a desi guy? Desi guys are human too 
I was talking about this cultural baggage stuff ysterday with a very good friend, a muslim, who carried the baggage of “marrying a muslim girl-or converting” her because his family would shut him out. He was raised in the UK.
In the end he realized that it is not the goris or kalas or muslims or hindus but actually individuals we marry and love. I ws successfully able to explain to him that people who come from desiland and their offspring create boundaries because they are scared of the unknown and the resulting prejudices remain as they have put themselves in a “box-muslim only, gujrati only, brahmin only etc” and limited their individual growth and outlook on life. While such thinking is acceptable while you are living in gilgit or gurgaon…it doesn’t go very far in Grand Rapids because of the cultural baggage here like “love conquers all” and “love is blind”..thankfully lighter baggage.
Net-net…he will be asking for forgiveness from the girl he loves and will pop the question. Peopole ask me..“Matsui-what do you get out of helping people”. I say..“People in love are the happiest people around…plus bachelor parties” :k: 
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^^ 
I looked at this thread as well and was tempted to reply in detail (have a few observations), but I am a desi guy married to a gori, might as well ask my gori wife why she opted to marry a prince in shinning armor like me.
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Suroor, why do desi girls choose to marry someone or not? even if it's not a personal choice, but her family's, I'm afraid many factors such as looks and money come into it.
I find the importance given to "the lota question" a bit overdone. So what if you never used it before. You can learn. Or you can learn to use a bidet. In any case personal hygiene goes far beyond whether you use a lota, and unfortunately there are desis who don't understand that.......
In the end, compatibility and happiness are made of some rather hard to define characteristics. Who knows, the right person to make you feel happy for the rest of your life may be a non-virgin, non lota user... or a gori girl may be purer and cleaner than a "guaranteed" desi... life is a big unknown!
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Being Pretty or Hot is not everything but hmm.. pple look first how hot pretty
that guy/girl is. The most important thing is how he/she is inside.
But many pple forget these things.
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Before defending poor "desi guys", all of you "defenders" should have asked surDoor why did she settle for hers.
Suroor, so tell us, why did you settle for yours? Was your marriage arranged? Pray tell. :D
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^Poor Desi huh
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I think Faisal made a good point. On average, desi guys tend to be more faithful and committed to a woman vs. a non-desi guy. How many of your non desi girlfriends do you see w/ broken hearts? or having a baby out of wedlock, and the guy leaves cuz he can't take the pressure? It is very common in Western society and I'm sure as our kids grow up here, they might adopt this part of the lifestyle as well (God forbid). But atleast for now, I've seen most desi men to be committed individuals and not running out on their gfs or wives.