One shouldn’t apply for a job that she is qualified for . Isn’t it a commonsense ? :halo:
These parents should just send a maasi in the jahaz.* *
what ? you dont get servants along with Jehaz ?
IMHO It wont be homicide or suicide - let it be genocide 
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Why does it bother any of you if a woman from Pakistan has any nakhray, has never worked, cannot cope with her life here..etc.etc.etc.?? I fail to see how it affects any of you. If someone chooses to get their work done from maids or naukars, it's their choice. Why should you people be commenting and judging them for their choice of a lifestyle? So all of you are hardworking, good home makers, independent, best at everything...good for you! Now leave those shezaadiz alone.
It's interesting how I don't see a single man here complaining about these girls, whereas they are the one most likely to be affected by this. Especially if they choose to marry someone from back home. What one person decides to do with their life is their own business. Why do some people here have to open a thread on this same topic every few days and start bashing other girls. Does it give you some sort of satisfaction? "Hey, look we are so perfect" blah de blah.
It's a bit unfair to paint all Pakistani girls with one brush, because not all girls in Pakistan can afford to get everything done by naukars. And there are still plenty of households where the parents ensure that they learn basic skills of life so they can survive in any environment. But that is irrelavent...the main point is that if someone is inept at housekeeping etc., it's their problem, not yours.
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foreign bred and born pakistani are attracted to pakistani girls (living in Pakistan)...well what else we can do if they like princess.
Why does it bother any of you if a woman from Pakistan has any nakhray, has never worked, cannot cope with her life here..etc.etc.etc.?? I fail to see how it affects any of you. If someone chooses to get their work done from maids or naukars, it's their choice. Why should you people be commenting and judging them for their choice of a lifestyle? So all of you are hardworking, good home makers, independent, best at everything...good for you! Now leave those shezaadiz alone.
It's interesting how I don't see a single man here complaining about these girls, whereas they are the one most likely to be affected by this. Especially if they choose to marry someone from back home. What one person decides to do with their life is their own business. Why do some people here have to open a thread on this same topic every few days and start bashing other girls. Does it give you some sort of satisfaction? "Hey, look we are so perfect" blah de blah.
It's a bit unfair to paint all Pakistani girls with one brush, because not all girls in Pakistan can afford to get everything done by naukars. And there are still plenty of households where the parents ensure that they learn basic skills of life so they can survive in any environment. But that is irrelavent...the main point is that if someone is inept at housekeeping etc., it's their problem, not yours.
It sure as heck bothers me. It bothers me when the pool of eligible gentlemen here dwindles, because they go back to Pakistan to find an innocent and ghaireloo type larki, when the larkis here are just as innocent and ghaireloo, but are discriminated against because God forbid, we were raised here. When in fact, the stereotypes of girls back home, at the end of the day, don't really hold up either.
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This is irony PCG. You foreign born and raised lot look down upon Pakistani born and raised men - thinking they are backward paindoos and fobs, so you want foreign born and raised men thinking they are superior. Foreign born and raised men look down upon you lot and want Pakistani born girls, perhaps thinking they are superior. Sucks, doesn't it.
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^Well PCG,at least you are being honest:) A lot of girls here won't admit that this is the real reason why the 'nakhray' of Pakistani girls get under their skin. Unfortunately, stereotyping is done to both types of girls(Pakisatni born and foreign bred). People should learn to look at things more objectively, and not judge a whole class of people based on the few 'specimen' they have met. Every person should be given a chance to judge them on their own merit, and not be lumped together by generalizations.
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I don't believe I have said I look down on girls from Pakistan. I don't. I know many who have come here and done wonderful things. I have an issue with the princess syndrome and u can fond such girls in the west too. I have an ace bhabhi from Pakistan and friends who have wonderful wives.
Khair.. If u didn't get my point, that is ok
I don't believe I have said I look down on girls from Pakistan. I don't. I know many who have come here and done wonderful things. I have an issue with the princess syndrome and u can fond such girls in the west too. I have an ace bhabhi from Pakistan and friends who have wonderful wives.
Khair.. If u didn't get my point, that is ok
You don't have princess syndrome, good for you. I don't get how it's the girls fault when the people who went to Pakistan to choose her has their bahu failed to look for the qualities they are want for their DIL
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Aunty goes to Pakland to get a bahu. There are three possibilities.
1) She gets one from the pind. Or one from the poorer neighborhoods from a family of modest means with no naukar in their house. Viola, she gets what she wanted: someone who would most likely slave around the house and tend to every whim of the spoiled brat husband. In short, the epitome of "seedhi sadhi" bahu.
2) She goes to one of those bling-bling bungalows in a neighborhood àla NY’s Scarsdale with four cars and half a dozen naukars. If she is fantasizing about a stay-at-home bahu who would excel at household chores then she is either blind to the wealth that is oozing around her as she sits there sipping chai while discussing the rishta or hopelessly naive to have such an expectation.
3) She goes to the same bling-bling bungalow but with different expectations. May be she absolutely wants, say, a Kashmiri or a Bihari or whatever (parochial, I know!) and can’t find such a match where she lives. In this case the girl might have nakras but the mil- and hopefully the son- got what was the highest priority. More likely, the potential bahu is, say, a doctor and the son an engineer. Yes she might not have a predilection for household chores but she will also bring 200k income, at least twice what the son earns.
Household help is not too expensive if you have it for a few hours a week, which should be enough. All power to anyone who is capable of managing household tasks on her own but this trait, however commendable, is frankly not a prerequisite to marital bliss. I am not yet married but I am pretty sure I won’t mind if my wife did not turn out to be a domestic goddess. In fact, nakrays or not, I will urge her to get help for household chores and to eat out often. Money is earned for a reason and outside help means less responsibility for me to share after coming from work as well!
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not every person in pak has a servant/maid so we cant really say thats why they do nakhray maybe cos their idea of the west is slightly different hence wen they arrive here it takes them time to cope. my own cousins wife was something like this wen she came to england a year back she would be like i cant cook i cant clean i cant do this and i cant do that, her mother in law taught her how to do it , fast forward 1 year and she does all the things she couldnt do. maybe the saas or naands dont really make their dils do anything....
as far as princess syndrome is concerned then girls in the west do have that too
tammy's rite..y r they colmplaining bout bahu now?..theyr the one who got her from pak..chose her..or picked her..r whtvr..was their own decision..
nd whos 2 say they wouldnt hv hd probs if say their son had mrrd in their residing counrty?..
either they got her from pk bcs
- they dunt have enough connections where theyr living
- they dunt trust doing rishta in total strangers..meanning at least if they do in pak even in non-related at least someone they know well will know that fmly well..
- they tried n tried but r gettin nothing theyr satisfied with nd they looking 4 smthng specific like gori-chiti..or..doctor..or..wunt talk back will do work etc...
so when they got a bahu with these qualities 4 wc they searched n searched then y dont they accept the negtv wth postv qualities?..nothing s just black nd or white..
desis just wanna keep complaining complainng cmplng...'hai hame kitni iburi bahu mili heh..woe is me..humne usko choose kiya aur ab voh yahan ake akse karti heh'..yeah nd LIKE they r TOTALLY dood ke dulwe themselves..BS!
So what if these girls are lazy, don't know how to get a meal ready and are eager to break apart families. At least they are not those girls from the West who talk back to their husbands, have their own opinions, are too independent, can drive themselves anywhere, want to work OUTSIDE of the house and then have the audacity to expect their husbands to help them with their chores!!
Umm ..... your kidding right?? Because having opinions, ability to drive is just so wrongg.....umm OK
Someone who has never lived in US doesn't realize how the lifestyle can be tough over there. The aunties who look for bahus from pakistan should make sure they pick a girl who can be a good homemaker. If yo u don't like how these girls are raised like princesses, then don't marry them.
Those someones who are unaware of life outsid eof Paki really should do some research before saying yes to marry someone in a foreign country. Learning to take care of a household is a necessity! Regardless of how rich or poor you are. Moreso if you are living on your own, what if your well paid husband loses his job & can not afford a maid anymore? Should the girl wait until then to come into reality?? Life is full of so many ups & downs, regardless of how rich/spoilt a girl is she should know basic cooking/cleaning/household maintenance in addition to being educated.
how hard is housework . seriously !!!!!
like how hard is cooking and cleaning ??? when u have nothing else to do
i too have seen this whole maaasi attitude is pk , maasi agaye to bartan dhulenge , maasi ayegi to savai hogi , maasi ayegi to kaprey dhulenge . like what the hell.
massi ek din nahin aaye to qayamat aagayi .
i dont say this is teh attitude of all pakistani women in pakistan , no not at all.
but there are some.,
women need to understand that wherever they come from , the household responsibility is theirs , u dont know how to cook or clean , THEN LEARN .
and someone else said about the DIL wanting separation after a year , i know u were upset but thats her right , what abt when u get married and want to separate ???
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I met this girl a while ago in Chicago. It was some sort of function, we talked and exchanged numbers. She seemed nice enough and since she didnt know anyone in the US, I thought we could hangout, be friends, etc.
She had come from Pakistan a few years ago after marrying an engineer. She had a baby, lived in a really nice home, etc. But the more I talked to her, the more weirded out I got. She never wanted to stay home. She was dissatisfied with her life here. She didnt want to be a mom either.
She admitted she had this image in her mind of life in the US and nothing had lived up to her expectations. According to her, people here partied all the time, went out, got drunk, etc etc etc. She would call me ALLLL the time wanting to do something. While I enjoy being social, Im a busy gal and definitely not into the party scene. I dont have time to just hang out all weekend. I went to her house for lunch once, it was a mess. She noticed it and explained that in Pak, she never lifted a finger and it sucks that she cant have maids here to do it all for her.
At one point, she went to Pakistan and decided to stay there - left her baby here - for about 6 months! I didnt get that at all...asked her about it she would cry. She didnt want this life and didnt ask for it. Her home was beautiful, pretty area, money, cars, etc. But she wanted something else: a life of constant social interaction and partying. She was actually very upset that her husband was religious and didnt like to go clubbing. "Im very fun-loving by nature yaaar".
So yeah, after this and many more bad examples...we dont have the best impressions of foblets over here.
Not all of them are bad, but the good ones are in a minority.