OK I understand that I am setting myself up for a possible thread closure or at least a bucket full of rotten tomatoes (we do have a smilie for that, btw) but seriously, what’s with this new generation of girls coming to US these days right after marriage?
Not willing to take responsibility in marriage.
Not willing to struggle.
Not willing to work hard.
Demanding too much too soon from their newly established husbands.
Wanting independence from in laws.
Is this how girls are being raised these days or are the standards of living back home so high that the poor princesses can’t adjust here?
OK I’m ready.
Disclaimer: I know all girls aren’t like that but I am talking about the 3/5 that I’ve recently met.
How much work do you think Pakistani women actually do??
They don't have jobs, they have tonnes of servants to do the household work... seriously like my khaala does nothing but sit or lie down all day and order her kids and servants around...
We, (girls living in the west) however, actually know the meaning of survival! I have never had to ask my parents for money since the age of 16, when I started my first job. I take care of my own expenses Alhumdulillah. But come back to the little things like, washing your own dishes, ironing your own clothes, cleaning your own room, vacuuming the house, cleaning the toilets etc etc etc... how many girls in pakistan do that???
So when they come to the west after getting married, it wouldnt surprise me if they can't adjust.
answer to all this reply is MAAASI. without MAAASSSI, its hard for girls to adjust here. They gotta vacuum, mop (unless they have a hubby like me), cook, wash cloths etc etc. They dont do that back home. Only if they can bring MAAASI in JAHAIZ
Useless people deserve nothing but shot in the head.
Joke aside, I think it's very hard for Pakistani women to adjust in a completely new enviornment specially when one is raised with having servants and stuff around. Even I find it difficult and I had a bit of struggling life for few years in Pakistan after my parents' death.
People help around each other more in Asian countries but here everyone is for himself.
i agree with huma, I've never seen a girl in pakistan get off her bottom to do absoloutly anything, even when the 'servants' are cleaning in my house in pakistan i try to help them out, it jus doesnt feel right some stranger doing my work.
let me line up next to Niksik for the firing line cuz I have had this beef for soooooo long!!!!!!
and when I was given the exact same justifications that they have naukar chaakar to do everything for them in Pakistan hence adjustment is a painful process then I asked......
okay, so why do they not know how to cook except for using ready made packets?
why do they not know how to sew or mind children? why do they need to send their husband's pants out to be hemmed? why do their children run around the house like crazed animals?
why have knitting, crocheting, embroidery etc. all become arts that are pretty much extinct?
i agree with huma, I've never seen a girl in pakistan get off her bottom to do absoloutly anything, even when the 'servants' are cleaning in my house in pakistan i try to help them out, it jus doesnt feel right some stranger doing my work.
you should come to our village in pak and see how much work women do.
shawa kay nakhra gori da.. thanks for getting that song in my mind, lol.
i think people these days are impatient and unreasonable, and don't know themselves what they want.. mature people seem few and far between. but yeah the guy should understand that not everything is a nakhra either, everyone's got legit concerns.. lekin instead of point scoring, they shud just be open and honest with each other.. when you start playing games is when things go south.
and they don’t just sit around while the naukars work … they follow the naukar around to make sure they don’t miss a spot. Jeez, don’t call these women lazy.
but I am talking about the 3/5 that I’ve recently met.