Re: Gori dey nakhrey, shaawa!
okay i am a lil confused, how do rich larkiyaan with naukrani etc. back in pakistan equate to being dehati 
if anything they are living a better life back in pakistan then here 
Enigmatica - it's not "dehati" - it's a carefree life.
i just said that at the 'booongi' bit ;)
and yes i agree it used to be totally carefree...now it's so totally not. :( suicide bombings, political insecurity, skyhigh inflation, loadshedding ....
but that's going offtopic (it also gets me down) so lets not get into that :)
dehati = as in simple oblivious..that’s the way i meant it ..
about rich larkiyaan lol, that is true, shahana life i call it …princesses
A girl being too independent is against our culture. It’s against the very foundation of our culture. We pride ourselves in keeping women at home and making sure they’re covered and not seen by the ravaging strangers that are lurking around outside! And she should not drive because god knows where she’ll end up going…and WORKING is out of question…she belongs in the kitchen and should be confined within the four walls of her home.
p.s: and that is why I avoid online forums. Sarcasm is so hard to convey.
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lol, ohhhhhhhhh :D:
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I want a naukrani and a cook and another maid that washes my clothes and another one that takes care of my children while I shop and lunch everyday in different restaurants.
I want a naukrani and a cook and another maid that washes my clothes and another one that takes care of my children while I shop and lunch everyday in different restaurants.
and I thought you are married :)
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my bhabi came from pakistan and she was like this...she started asking for her own place within a year and we were like gobsmacked.
It still hurts my mum alot...and in hindsight, I wish we never brought her over or got my bro married to her. He deserved alot better.
generation has totally changed....and the expectations of coming abroad have changed also
Back when my mom came over thiry years ago it really wasn't like this, she cooked, cleaned and worked OUTSIDE of the house (oh no!) also, she wasn't educated so she picked fruit from orchards for a living....she worked all day and came here with the expectation to make a life here, she knew it wasn't going to be easy....however throughout the years more families are here and born and raised here and well settled so when girls are no married to men here, usually families are settled so the girl doesn't have the expectation that she has to make a life here...its practiacally made for her not for all....i repeat not for all...but for some coming abroad is some sort of fantasy land...which in all reality it is far from it
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I only went thru the first page of responses here so apologies if I repeatwhat others have said. I have known a handful of princess types who are just completely shell-shocked when they come over. No one to clean house, do laundry, go marketing, ironing or anything else.
Its a HUGE adjustment for sure. Which is why, even if I hit the lottoand win 50 million bucks, my boys would still have their chores to do. Clean up after themselves. Help at mealtime. When they get older, help inmeal preparation. I want them to be independent - because evven if they dont find that special gal, I want them to be able to get out there on their own if they want to. And I want them to be successful at it.
... then why do u import S*hahzaadiyaaN from backhome? why cant you just settle down with the *MassiyaaN/ or very hardworking girls from west?
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^ I don't think it's the men who are complaining ....
^ I don't think it's the men who are complaining ....
...yeah i know its the jealous woman :D
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^ jealous of what?
In my personal experience, i have NEVER seen a desi woman who isn't into keeping her home, cleaning and stuff, whether shes raised in Pakistan or US etc
completely agree. comparing my gora friends here to desi friends, i have never seen this as an issue in desi marriages, surprisingly more in the gora ones, always a tug of war going on regarding household chores. btw the spouses are a mix of both local and pakistani raised girls, frankly all of them are spoilt rotten by their wives.
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I just wanted to see if someone else shares my views on the adjustments issues of girls coming in from back home. Some do and some don't.
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Waaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaait!!!!!!!!
Is it my right in Islam to demand a maid from my husband?