Re: Girls - Would you?
Really? I think (speaking strictly in this case) a husband does his own share of sacrifice. Sacrifices time with family, time with kids, time on one's self, being dictated by a job day in and day out.
nahi - i meant one (wife or husband) has to make more sacrifice than the other - and generally is it the girl
Re: Girls - Would you?
Aight aight..Xtron believes that woman should be able to work independently as she wishes. There is nothing which stops women to do such except chauvinistic indiviudals. Xtron actually prefers wife who is doing something awesome with her life..and he would always encourage her.
Re: Girls - Would you?
imo its the girl when she becomes a wife leaves the house where she grew up and moved to a possibility new environment etc. she was to take up things she hasnt before adjust and eventually sacrifice - a husband too requires some sacrifice but not as much as the wife
Really? I think (speaking strictly in this case) a husband does his own share of sacrifice. Sacrifices time with family, time with kids, time on one's self, being dictated by a job day in and day out.
Re: Girls - Would you?
haan perhaps.
in general perhaps I would agree with you, but I have seen more nuclear married units than the ones where the husband and wife live with husband's family...hence that part kind of cancels out in my mind.
imo its the girl when she becomes a wife leaves the house where she grew up and moved to a possibility new environment etc. she was to take up things she hasnt before adjust and eventually sacrifice - a husband too requires some sacrifice but not as much as the wife
Re: Girls - Would you?
one of the confusion i have is - if both the husband and wife are career oriented and say the wife gets a super opportunity in a different city - what do the couple do? one has to sacrifice if they want to live together - either the husbands leaves the job and moves afters the wife or the wife sacrifices and stay stuck ... i dont know the answer to this question tbvh
Re: Girls - Would you?
in any case wife has to put up with new things more - husband can continue this habits while the wife may have to completely restructure her life and routine even more when she is living with inlaws - a girl maybe better off living away from inlaws
haan perhaps.
in general perhaps I would agree with you, but I have seen more nuclear married units than the ones where the husband and wife live with husband's family...hence that part kind of cancels out in my mind.
Re: Girls - Would you?
each to their own but i wud nt be comfortable being the sole provider or even the one who brings in more money to home! 
call me old fashioned or whatever but i still go by the idea of the husband being the provider or atleast the main provider so i would rather have him earn less then myself earn more than him.
i hope i made some sense!
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i totally agree with you here - this is the opinion i had 5 or so years ago - husband earns why in the world does the wife need to work at all - but this has changed since then
Re: Girls - Would you?
NO for me personally. I put too much time/money/ sacrifices into my education/ future career for me to give it all up and sit at home...and go to painting classes to pass the time. Hellz, even sometimes when i'm all blue, I wish I could just stop now, and relax at home doing nothing, but that is not my cup of tea. Those things sound good for a while, but then I need to be back in my competitive world, getting my goals accomplished in order for me to feel like I have some purpose.
these things need to be discussed before. After marriage, situations can change and THEN you can decide based on those circumstances....but if someone TELLS you before the actual marriage that you can't then it is a deal breaker since the values don't match. Like someone else said...you'll jut resent them & will be bitter after some time.
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You confuse me old man, I just want to say that :P :)
i totally agree with you here - this is the opinion i had 5 or so years ago - husband earns why in the world does the wife need to work at all - but this has changed since then
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maybe you can answer my question - so if both the wife and husband are career oriented - one gets a golden opportunity of a lifetime but its in the other city say or country? what do the couple do?
NO for me personally. I put too much time/money/ sacrifices into my education/ future career for me to give it all up and sit at home...and go to painting classes to pass the time. Hellz, even sometimes when i'm all blue, I wish I could just stop now, and relax at home doing nothing, but that is not my cup of tea. Those things sound good for a while, but then I need to be back in my competitive world, getting my goals accomplished in order for me to feel like I have some purpose.
these things need to be discussed before. After marriage, situations can change and THEN you can decide based on those circumstances....but if someone TELLS you before the actual marriage that you can't then it is a deal breaker since the values don't match. Like someone else said...you'll jut resent them & will be bitter after some time.
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yarr do you want me to confess that im XX in public??
You confuse me old man, I just want to say that :P :)
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I wouldn't expect such insecurity from a well settled, educated man.
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one of the confusion i have is - if both the husband and wife are career oriented and say the wife gets a super opportunity in a different city - what do the couple do? one has to sacrifice if they want to live together - either the husbands leaves the job and moves afters the wife or the wife sacrifices and stay stuck ... i dont know the answer to this question tbvh
tough question, but this is very common issue nowadays. The world has gotten too big for us now, and it is a challenge to keep up with all the changes that come with being global/industrialized/empowered what have you
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Uff kitnay tharki jhootay ho!
yarr do you want me to confess that im 25 in public??
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woops astagfiruallah
Uff kitnay tharki jhootay ho!
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one of the questions i personally havent found the answer to yet
tough question, but this is very common issue nowadays. The world has gotten too big for us now, and it is a challenge to keep up with all the changes that come with being global/industrialized/empowered what have you
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maybe you can answer my question - so if both the wife and husband are career oriented - one gets a golden opportunity of a lifetime but its in the other city say or country? what do the couple do?
I'd say both give it up and just move to a remote village and become sheep farmers. :) all joking aside, our choices depend on our situations and what we want out of the remaining life we have. I hope I am not put into this situation...... and if I am.... hopefully Allah will allow me to make the better choice for both of us.
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Woopsieeee
woops astagfiruallah
Re: Girls - Would you?
Facts of the matter stand thusly.
Children need mothers more than fathers. The mother WILL be required at home for the children, if absentee, the children WILL suffer.
Families should stick together. Tighten your belts more, but Allah prevent any sort of circumstance where couples feel forced to separate.
maybe you can answer my question - so if both the wife and husband are career oriented - one gets a golden opportunity of a lifetime but its in the other city say or country? what do the couple do?