Girls - Would you?

[Crystal_Bracelets]

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@DaffyDuck

I am just saying if income isn’t a worry and your house gets effected due to your lack of attention with your job, your husband doesn’t like it either - would you still go for it? or you’d be good with other activities like classes, courses, voluntary work, any passion you want to get on with, free lance work that can be done from home?

If that’s the case, I would definitely leave my career. I actually did that. but if the guys asks me to quit before we are even married and just because he doesn’t like it, I probably won’t marry that guy. It should be my decision whether I want to work or not. If a guy makes it a condition, that I should stop working before I marry him, I simply won’t marry that guy. If the option is left to me, I probably won’t work, if I don’t need to.

[stoppit]

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Lol, well refer them back to your old thread.

And what different reason’s are their SO’s giving that were different from yours?

And I’m disturbed that I’m agreeing with Nomi, but yeh. Also, I’m sorry to say but in Pakistan plenty of girls become doctor’s and give up their jobs as soon as they get married, so if their fiance’s are making that assumption, I can’t blame them.

Desi culture is for the most part the same and hasn’t changed that much yet, it doesn’t matter what you did before, marriage = children and staying at home. So the onus is on the women to make it clear that they have other plans.

[NomiCA]

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@stoppit

Lol, well refer them back to your old thread.

And what different reason’s are their SO’s giving that were different from yours?

And I’m disturbed that I’m agreeing with Nomi, but yeh. Also, I’m sorry to say but in Pakistan plenty of girls become doctor’s and give up their jobs as soon as they get married, so if their fiance’s are making that assumption, I can’t blame them.

Desi culture is for the most part the same and hasn’t changed that much yet, it doesn’t matter what you did before, marriage = children and staying at home. So the onus is on the women to make it clear that they have other plans.

can i do anything to make you feel better?

[Deeba1234]

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@stoppit

Lol, well refer them back to your old thread.

And what different reason’s are their SO’s giving that were different from yours?
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And I’m disturbed that I’m agreeing with Nomi,** but yeh. Also, I’m sorry to say but in Pakistan plenty of girls become doctor’s and give up their jobs as soon as they get married, so if their fiance’s are making that assumption, I can’t blame them.

Desi culture is for the most part the same and hasn’t changed that much yet, it doesn’t matter what you did before, marriage = children and staying at home. So the onus is on the women to make it clear that they have other plans.

You’re not the only one..

[Sweetmoi]

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@DaffyDuck

Say the guy is well settled, earns well, has proper accommodation … everything and asks you to leave your job/career before the wedding, since he can provide for it all and is not comfortable with you progressing on career. He would prefer you to focus on home.

Would you leave it for him since he is providing you a comfortable life on his own as well?

I probably would if everything else is on place.

[Deeba1234]

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Would be interesting to have a poll on this..

[yeswekhan]

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I know plenty of girls will probably get all indignant over this but at the end of the day, if it’s a good rishta, most Pakistani girls will jump at the opportunity and the career can go fvxk itself.

[Guac]

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I also agree with NomiCA. Also, girls can have various reasons for wanting to continue to work other than ‘freedom’

[khattichic]

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@Crystal_Bracelets

If that’s the case, I would definitely leave my career. I actually did that. but if the guys asks me to quit before we are even married and just because he doesn’t like it, I probably won’t marry that guy. It should be my decision whether I want to work or not. If a guy makes it a condition, that I should stop working before I marry him, I simply won’t marry that guy. If the option is left to me, I probably won’t work, if I don’t need to.

Like ^^^ says, it all comes down to the girls/womens/wife’s CHOICE! If a potential hubby/fiance is forcing the decision, I’d RUN in the opposite direction…

[Sara516]

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what’s the point of going through higher education and the stress of finding a job and working and stuff if all ure gonna do is chuck it to become a housewife? (usual disclaimer-not talking about SAHMs)

[ShahreyarKhan]

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whats the point of prayer if you find out you are going in hell anyway

@Sara516

what’s the point of going through higher education and the stress of finding a job and working and stuff if all ure gonna do is chuck it to become a housewife? (usual disclaimer-not talking about SAHMs)

[Sweetmoi]

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@Sara516

what’s the point of going through higher education and the stress of finding a job and working and stuff if all ure gonna do is chuck it to become a housewife? (usual disclaimer-not talking about SAHMs)

I dont think your education or work experience ever go wasted just because you’re a housewife.

[Guac]

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@Sweetmoi

I dont think your education or work experience ever go wasted just because you’re a housewife.

True, I understand that nothing is ever wasted. But I don’t understand the point of going through years of higher/professional education (since the OP mentioned a doctor), spending a heck lot of money, etc or in other words work your ‘rear’ off and when the time comes to actually reap the benefits of all your hard work you are told to let it all go…I’m sorry but I just don’t see the logic

[Sara516]

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your logic is flawed lol. don’t ask me how…i don’t have time to explain.. but it is. lol

@ShahreyarKhan

whats the point of prayer if you find out you are going in hell anyway

[Sara516]

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@Sweetmoi

I dont think your education or work experience ever go wasted just because you’re a housewife.

its all about mindset…but there’s something really off about a guy who doesn’t want a working wife–why not just look for someone whose a simple matric pass/BA pass..why go for professional/highly educated women. like i said…the game changes when you have kids.

Of course the guys who would rather their wives sit home and clean the toilet and do teh dishes would disagree with this. as already shown.

[ninja_hattori]

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Even actress with bright future…left acting for marriage

so wtz the loss if few doctors,engineers and professions left their job…

lot of male sacrifice their risky,time consuming jobs so wtz the big deal…

if the girl is ready to leave the job then its fine,if she is not she should find other guy and vice versa its also fine

after all its ur own life.

P.S. i m not agianst working women…

[ZareenKhan]

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Yes i would I believe a women’s best job is @ home :k:. So i would happily take up that job and serve people of my family as oppose to strangers Maybe i am just not career oriented or ambitious that way!

[Demilitarize]

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I think you meant to say each has to make a different sacrifice?

@ShahreyarKhan

if a husband and wife want to live together and age, one has to make more sacrifice than the other.

[ShahreyarKhan]

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nahi - i meant one (wife or husband) has to make more sacrifice than the other - and generally is it the girl

@Demesne

I think you meant to say each has to make a different sacrifice?

[Demilitarize]

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As for those asking why bother educating yourselves if you are going to stay at home anyway, education isnt just about preparing yourself for the job market.

Education is supposed to also bring about what is known as “sha-oor” ie wisdom/personal growth.