I am just saying if income isn't a worry and your house gets effected due to your lack of attention with your job, your husband doesn't like it either - would you still go for it? or you'd be good with other activities like classes, courses, voluntary work, any passion you want to get on with, free lance work that can be done from home?
If that's the case, I would definitely leave my career. I actually did that. but if the guys asks me to quit before we are even married and just because he doesn't like it, I probably won't marry that guy. It should be my decision whether I want to work or not. If a guy makes it a condition, that I should stop working before I marry him, I simply won't marry that guy. If the option is left to me, I probably won't work, if I don't need to.
And what different reason's are their SO's giving that were different from yours?
And I'm disturbed that I'm agreeing with Nomi, but yeh. Also, I'm sorry to say but in Pakistan plenty of girls become doctor's and give up their jobs as soon as they get married, so if their fiance's are making that assumption, I can't blame them.
Desi culture is for the most part the same and hasn't changed that much yet, it doesn't matter what you did before, marriage = children and staying at home. So the onus is on the women to make it clear that they have other plans.
And what different reason's are their SO's giving that were different from yours?
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And I'm disturbed that I'm agreeing with Nomi,** but yeh. Also, I'm sorry to say but in Pakistan plenty of girls become doctor's and give up their jobs as soon as they get married, so if their fiance's are making that assumption, I can't blame them.
Desi culture is for the most part the same and hasn't changed that much yet, it doesn't matter what you did before, marriage = children and staying at home. So the onus is on the women to make it clear that they have other plans.
Say the guy is well settled, earns well, has proper accommodation ... everything and asks you to leave your job/career before the wedding, since he can provide for it all and is not comfortable with you progressing on career. He would prefer you to focus on home.
Would you leave it for him since he is providing you a comfortable life on his own as well?
I know plenty of girls will probably get all indignant over this but at the end of the day, if it's a good rishta, most Pakistani girls will jump at the opportunity and the career can go fvxk itself. :)
If that's the case, I would definitely leave my career. I actually did that. but if the guys asks me to quit before we are even married and just because he doesn't like it, I probably won't marry that guy. It should be my decision whether I want to work or not. If a guy makes it a condition, that I should stop working before I marry him, I simply won't marry that guy. If the option is left to me, I probably won't work, if I don't need to.
Like ^^^ says, it all comes down to the girls/womens/wife's CHOICE! If a potential hubby/fiance is forcing the decision, I'd RUN in the opposite direction...
what's the point of going through higher education and the stress of finding a job and working and stuff if all ure gonna do is chuck it to become a housewife? (usual disclaimer-not talking about SAHMs)
whats the point of prayer if you find out you are going in hell anyway
what's the point of going through higher education and the stress of finding a job and working and stuff if all ure gonna do is chuck it to become a housewife? (usual disclaimer-not talking about SAHMs)
what's the point of going through higher education and the stress of finding a job and working and stuff if all ure gonna do is chuck it to become a housewife? (usual disclaimer-not talking about SAHMs)
I dont think your education or work experience ever go wasted just because you're a housewife.
I dont think your education or work experience ever go wasted just because you're a housewife.
True, I understand that nothing is ever wasted. But I don't understand the point of going through years of higher/professional education (since the OP mentioned a doctor), spending a heck lot of money, etc or in other words work your 'rear' off and when the time comes to actually reap the benefits of all your hard work you are told to let it all go...................I'm sorry but I just don't see the logic
I dont think your education or work experience ever go wasted just because you're a housewife.
its all about mindset....but there's something really off about a guy who doesn't want a working wife--why not just look for someone whose a simple matric pass/BA pass..why go for professional/highly educated women. like i said...the game changes when you have kids.
Of course the guys who would rather their wives sit home and clean the toilet and do teh dishes would disagree with this. as already shown. :)
Yes i would I believe a women’s best job is @ home :k:. So i would happily take up that job and serve people of my family as oppose to strangers Maybe i am just not career oriented or ambitious that way!
As for those asking why bother educating yourselves if you are going to stay at home anyway, education isnt just about preparing yourself for the job market.
Education is supposed to also bring about what is known as "sha-oor" ie wisdom/personal growth.
I believe a women’s best job is @ home :k:. So i would happily take up that job and serve people of my family as oppose to strangers 
Maybe i am just not career oriented or ambitious that way!