Say the guy is well settled, earns well, has proper accommodation … everything and asks you to leave your job/career before the wedding, since he can provide for it all and is not comfortable with you progressing on career. He would prefer you to focus on home.
Would you leave it for him since he is providing you a comfortable life on his own as well?
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I would rather try to balance both. Having a luxurious life is not an ultimate goal, but the sense of fulfillment and achievement is!!
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even if he isn't comfortable with it? you have the option of doing other things .. joining courses, taking classes, voluntary work etc that isn't as consuming as a full time job.
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Depends on the career I guess, how many years you've spent building it up etc etc.
Personally, no, I wouldn't leave mine. I don't see how an extra income can do any harm, and you can reduce your hours etc if need be, esp when kids come along.
In today's economic climate, I'd think it's unlikely that you wouldn't both need to work anyway!
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I am just saying if income isn't a worry and your house gets effected due to your lack of attention with your job, your husband doesn't like it either - would you still go for it? or you'd be good with other activities like classes, courses, voluntary work, any passion you want to get on with, free lance work that can be done from home?
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Sorry to jump into discussion, the job and career is not only for money but also empower them.
I have seen so many ladies suffer in silence because they are dependent for everything in the life on their man's mercy.
By giving them a career not only we giving them sense of security, but also putting the other party that they need to respect the marriage and wife.
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I'd still say no. Work is more than just about income, it's about your own achievement and independence. But then I guess I wouldnt marry a man who didn't have the same values as me. If he's asking me to give up work cos he's not comfortable, and I don't want to give it up but feel like I have to - there's gonna be some resentment somewhere!
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Sorry to jump into discussion, the job and career is not only for money but also empower them.
I have seen so many ladies suffer in silence because they are dependent for everything in the life on their man's mercy.
By giving them a career not only we giving them sense of security, but also putting the other party that they need to respect the marriage and wife.
What he/she said!
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Spot-on!!
if spending his money is a full time job then gals should leave the job.......
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Yes.
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^ leave the job of spending money..eh?
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they need to respect the marriage and wife.
a lot of men respect the marriage & the wife without her working also.
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I do have a proper job, alright. :pcg:
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That was a response to Ninja’s post :
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Dear DD......... what others think shouldn't matter to you...........
you need to weigh the prospects of your own case....and other countless variables and your own view/feelings relating to the issue ...
other people have their own views, circumstances,choices etc.......... which may or may not be similar to yours...
if you are going to decide about your own issues based on what others would choose to do in such situation..........i am sorry to say......its just not right thing to do IMO.
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Say the guy is well settled, earns well, has proper accommodation ... everything and asks you to leave your job/career before the wedding, since he can provide for it all and** is not comfortable with you progressing on career. **He would prefer you to focus on home.
Would you leave it for him since he is providing you a comfortable life on his own as well?
No way.
It's more the principle.. why would he have a problem with me having a career? Is he insecure or jealous because often money doesn't come into it and we just want to work to feel independent or do something we enjoy..
Also I've noticed people who don't allow their wives to work are often controlling in other ways..
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Nomi - hehe .. I am already married & happily as well, Alhamdullilah, I don't have an option. If I had to I would leave it for him.
I'm asking for those who aren't married and had the option to choose out of the two.
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Nomi - hehe .. I am already married & happily as well, Alhamdullilah, I don't have an option. If I had to I would leave it for him.
I'm asking for those who aren't married and had the option to choose out of the two.
i meant as in...general way.....
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The fact that he is forcing his decision on me is a big no no. It should be my choice if I want to work or don't want to work after marriage, he shouldn't mind. He should say to me that I can work when I want to and not work like when there are kids.