Re: girls-would you let your husband marry again or divorce him?
I dont think I quite understood your question but here goes.
You did.
When a woman commits to a man, she commits emotionally, physically and mentally to him. That leaves no room to fantasise being with another man although we are all aware that there might be better men out there with all the riches, with alot more to offer to us. Cmon, who doesnt like being charmed and treated like a princess?
Id slap my wife for even thinking like that. It seriously not funny neither the princess part.
In every relationship, after a length of time its all a routine/boring but as commited descent women, they put up with it. Now if shes well groomed, looks, after herself, takes care of you, takes care of your children, offers respect to your parents and is fully supportive of you then how can you even have any nerve to think about wanting to bring another woman home?
Very good points. Your emphazing the heart and blood a wife puts in for her husband. She cold have done other things with her time/life, husband should value her.
How would you like it if your wife/gf/partner decided she wanted to feel "sexy" again, and considered spending a full day/night with a younger, more attractive man? (And please do not tell me its a totally different situation and men have more desires because they dont)
The sound of this is sick. Id say to her divorce me then do it.
I guess if you are okay with that then there is no room for complaint on her part if you decide to have sexual encounters/desires of other women eh?
They are very strong points-ok and you said women also have same tendencies. OK; But c'mon you have to agree the amount of attraction out there for us isnt the same for you. Men are not naturally made to be beautiful like girls. Most men out there you would agree are facially and physically average; we dont have the striking features of cosmetic beautifying, long hair, and curves women do. I would understand it if males were also made to exhibit beauty and so many also looked facially and physcially beautiful like male forms of hoor lept from heaven- (There is such a parable in Christianity). But luckily they are not, and there is little male beauties to cry about being be attracted to. Im talking about beauty here - not money, thats another issue. day in day out, there are so many angelina jodies, penelope cruzes, ashwariya rai's, karishma kapoor's, lara dutta's wannabees out there- no man can be safe from attraction even if he wished to. Ofcourse no girls purposly makes it easier by covering any bit up- as attention is what they are purposly hell bent out after.
Fact is, every woman wants to be the queen of her crib/house, that is her sanctuary. She rules it, she made it the home it is. To bring in another female into her sanctuary and take ownership doesnt go down well with anyone. Another point, no woman can stand to share her man. If you truely loved her, you wouldnt put her through such trauma because although she may behave like she isnt affected by it all, trust me most nights when you are not there will be hard on her.
Good point again. Well understood women sacrifices and labours to build her home. Well then what about just just going for the physical aspect from the other women-maybe daytimes. If no reply, ill presume even just the physical presence with another apart from wife is equally hurtful they same way it would be to a man.
ALL IN ALL: I understand from your intelligent and educating post, is that a women is also a human and no toy, that totally and fully gives herself emotionaly, mentally and physically to a man and a marriages sake on nikah, the same way a man would, and they are also loving and possesive like men, so it is absolutly a major issue for a wife to tolerate another wife or physical partner beside them.
I dont believe in putting my future wife or anyone through such torture. I was unaware it was this commonly a big issue...well to make the burden lighter on my soul.....one must admit the religious concepts of 4 wives, 70 eavenly hoors, prophet & co's promiscuousness, religious literatures of mens attraction etc does making it look appealing and maybe understandeble to the other sex...
Inspite, its acknowledged, a man havingi an additional partner to his good wife, is extremly hurtful, and when one loves thier partner he should not do it.
Another question does come to mind though....How ye ladies then going to handle your husbands 70 heavely hoors.
...dont bash Nutwer...
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Regardless. Nice and educating post K.
And Hareem, you just know your just saying what is ideal to say..I bet your personal feelings - which is what the thread is about, is the same as others.
so, I would like to see doosri waali kya hashar karay gee 
AND then he will realise my worth and THEN I will leave him ! 
Will have conditions for separate houses and all.