Re: girls-would you let your husband marry again or divorce him?
A sad situation.................depend upon situation and Kids Stuff! Allah ye din na dikhaye Ameen!
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Whats with the mass complaining.
girls are so friendly and understanding amongst each other..so couldnt you live as sisters. And its not necceseray he reproduce with the second wife, he may want her for non-kid bearing purposes, which would exclude the extended family dilema.
Most girls dont mind a husband having been naughty in the past too
to add to your Horror Mia, your husband doent have to buy another house...fair divisions of his current possesions would suffice.
:p"
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Re: girls-would you let your husband marry again or divorce him?
I know the above doesnt sound ideal...and i wish to remain good and respected..the queries are purely curosity orieantated
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idea taken from another thread,
what would us GS girls do, realistically, if your husband wanted to marry again, would you let him, or divroce him, whats worse?
i always say i would leave him, if he wants to marry he can. but i would not be his wife anymore. we know islam says its ok for men to marry again, so why do we have such a problem with it??
DISCLAIMER-NO, my husband DID NOT ask me if he could marry again, its just a question i thought of reading the other post....secondly if he did ask me, me at 9 months preg, and nearly 4000kg, i wouldve sat on him.
there is a difference between marrying a majboor girl than marrying a who**. if he is marrying for a valid reason then why not cuz then it shows that he has senses and he will keep the balance between his wives. but if he is remarrying just cuz he cant control himself then its better to leave that pervert.
Re: girls-would you let your husband marry again or divorce him?
i would leave him, divorce him if he wants to get married again
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As much as I'd like to say that I'd be OK with him marrying a 2nd wife if the reasons were right, I think I'd be lying.
Re: girls-would you let your husband marry again or divorce him?
This is happening to my friends sister. She had a love marriage about 6 years ago to a guy from Bangladesh (she herself is bengali too but born in the UK). She has a four year old boy and is expecting their second child. Her husband wants to marry a girl who has been coming in and out of their house for years...she was a friend of the family and she turned to this couple during her second marriage breakdown. This girl was also a childhood friend of the wife. They have been having it off for five years now. The wife did not know about or maybe she never thought much of the signs she may have noticed. I feel so sorry for her! Her husband wants to marry the other woman. The wife cant bear her husband to have a second wife. Also the other woman might be pregnant...but nikah cannot be done for an adulteress who hasnt repented or one who is pregnant.
Another similar story....this happened to a women i know a few years back. She was also expecting when her husband told her about the other woman. He told her either you accept it or i will leave you too. She accepted it which the second women didnt think she would. The second wife also had a child but was very abusive towards the first wife. She wanted the guy all to herself. In the end the man divorced the second one as she started physically hitting and throwing the first wife (who was pregnant at that time) down the stairs! First wife won him back....does he deserve her is another question....
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no she does not!!!
Re: girls-would you let your husband marry again or divorce him?
out of curiosity.. a bit off track (maybe a lot), in Pakistan, i've seen that if the wife is infertile and unable to have kids, the husband get's married again but does not leave the 1st wife. But what if it's the other way around? That the husband is permanently infertile and unable to have kids, what is the option of the wife? Obviously she can't take another husband?
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She can stay with him and accept the fact they wont have children....or she can divorce him and marry someone else if she really wants kids.
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In Islam, a man cannot marry again without his first wife's permission, that's what I hav read anyway.
Re: girls-would you let your husband marry again or divorce him?
out of curiosity.. a bit off track (maybe a lot), in Pakistan, i've seen that if the wife is infertile and unable to have kids, the husband get's married again but does not leave the 1st wife. But what if it's the other way around? That the husband is permanently infertile and unable to have kids, what is the option of the wife? Obviously she can't take another husband?
I always wonder the same thing... the bond mothers have with their children is stronger than that which fathers have with hteir children. WOmens bodies were designed to bear children... hence bearing children is in my opinion a bigger deal to women. So if it's the husbands fault about their lack of children... I think it's terrible that the same rules don't apply for her.
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*** I disagree. Most women raised in the West who are educated and financially independent will not put up sharing a husband with a 2nd wife. Most women in the West would also receive emotional support from their friends if they were to leave their husband since divorce is so common here. In fact, in the West, polygamy carries more stigma than a divorce. I can see this being tolerated mostly by women raised in the east....or by women who can not financially support herself and/or the children (if any).
Good point!