Why must every relationship be DEFINED to fit into particular categories ??????
Sometimes you do click with a person , are on the same wavelength and enjoy being together because of shared interests or ease of conversation that you cannot share with another and not all those relationships need necessarily have some kind of pre-defined conclusion ............
I only wish every women was that bold.
They tend to name their relation some thing else all the time.
see AP I am dude. and unlike bytches on my peak I dont say "dont tell any one"
So I do what I do. I did what I did. Made my point loud and clear. got input too.
You should respect woman...
Hey what was the thread ,yes "star track" hahaha
I only wish every women was that bold. They tend to name their relation some thing else all the time.
thats almost always cuz they are looking for a certain relationship !
One has to know what one's priorities are and what expectations to have from a relationship and how to balance those expectations with the reality of things .
You should respect woman... Hey what was the thread ,yes "star track" hahaha
I never noticed it wasnt "start track"
I respect WOMEN when I find them. I swear.
I never noticed it wasnt "start track"
I respect WOMEN when I find them. I swear.
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Kabhi khaboo main bhi koi gal deekhi hai?
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Re: Girls! So there is this guy....
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thats almost always cuz they are looking for a certain relationship !
One has to know what one's priorities are and what expectations to have from a relationship and how to balance those expectations with the reality of things .
and funny thing is shnye in way I am the most open-minded/screwed up person.
I believe ANY one should be judged by the rule THEY set for them self.
Not by some-body/any-body else.
Like white chick have bf BUT they treat them like hubby no fooling playing with other men.
So we define persons character based on HIS/HER rules.
WHAT STUPID chicks dont understand here is I am against lying. Against deception.
And against having no principles.
They can still do what they want(who Am i stop) but plz dont expect any (extra)respect from me.
Re: Girls! So there is this guy…
I see queer has met his fate with a few too many over protective brothers 
Why must every relationship be DEFINED to fit into particular categories ??????
Sometimes you do click with a person , are on the same wavelength and enjoy being together because of shared interests or ease of conversation that you cannot share with another and not all those relationships need necessarily have some kind of pre-defined conclusion ............
The answer is because we are brought up to have legitimate relationships with the opposite sex. Our mentality is shaped and molded by our parents, society, even our peers look down on us for hanging around a man they know isnt our brother or father. That is why every relationship needs to be defined for a woman...its not our low self-esteem...its our cultural standards that the SAME men follow who complain about women needing labels. These men do actually look down on a woman who has a casual relationship with a man...unless he is your brother...what he hell were you doing with that guy on so-and-so day at so-and-so time?
Sheynie, I know you are a good person. Your mother, father and family know you're a great girl who would never do anything wrong. But what about the people your parents know on a social level? Do they owe you forgiveness or any excuses for behavior they consider inappropriate? What about your family friends? Do they owe it to you to look past any rumors spread about you and consider your younger sister for their eligible son? After all, you are her sister, right? These are practical questions and scenarios that every girl has to be ready to deal with. Like it or not, its our society and if you choose to live within it, sometimes you have to play by some of the rules. And the rules say...no hanky panky and no relationships outside of marriage. Now, lets say someone chooses to have a relationship outside of marriage...then they need to be ready to deal with the consequences...rumors, lots of backbiting, ruined reputation and not to mention your family suffering as a result.
I only wish every women was that bold. They tend to name their relation some thing else all the time.
PM...women need to. Agar aap kisi se shaadi karenge to aap ye to nahin chahenge na ke us larki ke das bees nameless relationships hon apse pehle? Mein nahin samajti ke aap aisi larki mein interested honge. Mujhe pata hai ke aap batein itni karte hein lekin apko bhi koi achi si larki chahiye hai. Baqi apke upar.
thats almost always cuz they are looking for a certain relationship !
One has to know what one's priorities are and what expectations to have from a relationship and how to balance those expectations with the reality of things .
You are right. The reality of the situation demands that unless you plan on disconnecting yourself from these societal pressures...you just have to live with them. Women need to be smart about these decisions. If a man proposes a casual relationship...its gonna stay that way. There is NO WAY a man will marry a woman he has a casual relationship with. At the end of the day Sheynie, he will marry a girl that can make him happy and his parents happy.
and funny thing is shnye in way I am the most open-minded/screwed up person. I believe ANY one should be judged by the rule THEY set for them self. Not by some-body/any-body else.
Like white chick have bf BUT they treat them like hubby no fooling playing with other men. So we define persons character based on HIS/HER rules.
WHAT STUPID chicks dont understand here is I am against lying. Against deception. And against having no principles.
They can still do what they want(who Am i stop) but plz dont expect any (extra)respect from me.
Yes, white chicks treat their men like hubbies but those relationships usually result in something. Either a break up or marriage. If you are white, you're not labeled as a slut if you date. If you are white, you can take your boyfriend home to meet your parents and even go on vacations with him! You can introduce your boyfriend to your friends, move in with him and NOT be labeled as a slut. You can have multiple boyfriends in your lifetime and its okay. Pre-marital sex is okay too. If a desi girl did all that...she would be ostrasized by her family and branded for life. She would have to get plastic surgery and move to a different state!
So PM, the standards that govern white chicks' lives are SO different from those that govern our desi girls' lives. Its unfair for you to compare the two. If a desi girl agreed to date you indefinitely, was open about it with her family and friends, was casual and did not expect anything in return...not even marriage...do you realize what she would face at home? If she cares about you then just to be with you, she would have to come up with something................................something like a label. :)
A white chick doesnt have to deal with that. She can date you, never explain anything to anyone and no one will even blink an eye.
Who is around you. Who is not your bf. Talks to you. Since you 2 are very close(some times) he gets to know little too many details. Never to mention discussion about hmmmm over 13 rated discussions. (natural when u are friends with some one for a long time.)
Reason for telling the story:: I had a girl as a friend like that. Every so often she will ask me "what if your sister was friends with some one like we are"
I would look away. and say nope!! and then she would get stuck there "don't u respect me??"
I MEAN You talk to me when i am taking shower(her standing on the open door--variation in her voice :@: I am in good shape) THAT is your choice!!
Question:
SO girls IF a guy treats YOU in a way he Would NOT want her sister to be treated Would you call him ?????
i looking at the whole situation lil differently...........
maybe she wanted to know if its right or wrong from a guy's point of view and thats why she asked u if u would allow ur sister to have same kind of relationship with someone.
Sheyn there are a few "set" norms though which I see PM is confused about,
Friends = no hanky panky or rated "R" scenario
Girlfirend = everything goes, possesive, protective
Wife = everything goes
Sister = no hanky panky, controlling..and protective
U have been giving her mixed signals then.. u have to define a relationship so both of u know u're boundaries..
The answer is because we are brought up to have legitimate relationships with the opposite sex. Our mentality is shaped and molded by our parents, society, even our peers look down on us for hanging around a man they know isnt our brother or father. That is why every relationship needs to be defined for a woman...its not our low self-esteem...its our cultural standards that the SAME men follow who complain about women needing labels. These men do actually look down on a woman who has a casual relationship with a man...unless he is your brother...what he hell were you doing with that guy on so-and-so day at so-and-so time?
Sheynie, I know you are a good person. Your mother, father and family know you're a great girl who would never do anything wrong. But what about the people your parents know on a social level? Do they owe you forgiveness or any excuses for behavior they consider inappropriate? What about your family friends? Do they owe it to you to look past any rumors spread about you and consider your younger sister for their eligible son? After all, you are her sister, right? These are practical questions and scenarios that every girl has to be ready to deal with. Like it or not, its our society and if you choose to live within it, sometimes you have to play by some of the rules. *And the rules say...no hanky panky and no relationships outside of marriage. Now, lets say someone chooses to have a relationship outside of marriage...then they need to be ready to deal with the consequences...rumors, lots of backbiting, ruined reputation and not to mention your family suffering as a result. *
PM...women need to. Agar aap kisi se shaadi karenge to aap ye to nahin chahenge na ke us larki ke das bees nameless relationships hon apse pehle? Mein nahin samajti ke aap aisi larki mein interested honge. Mujhe pata hai ke aap batein itni karte hein lekin apko bhi koi achi si larki chahiye hai. Baqi apke upar.
You are right. The reality of the situation demands that unless you plan on disconnecting yourself from these societal pressures...you just have to live with them. Women need to be smart about these decisions. If a man proposes a casual relationship...its gonna stay that way. There is NO WAY a man will marry a woman he has a casual relationship with. At the end of the day Sheynie, he will marry a girl that can make him happy and his parents happy.
Yes, white chicks treat their men like hubbies but those relationships usually result in something. Either a break up or marriage. If you are white, you're not labeled as a slut if you date. If you are white, you can take your boyfriend home to meet your parents and even go on vacations with him! You can introduce your boyfriend to your friends, move in with him and NOT be labeled as a slut. You can have multiple boyfriends in your lifetime and its okay. Pre-marital sex is okay too. If a desi girl did all that...she would be ostrasized by her family and branded for life. She would have to get plastic surgery and move to a different state!
So PM, the standards that govern white chicks' lives are SO different from those that govern our desi girls' lives. Its unfair for you to compare the two. If a desi girl agreed to date you indefinitely, was open about it with her family and friends, was casual and did not expect anything in return...not even marriage...do you realize what she would face at home? If she cares about you then just to be with you, she would have to come up with something................................something like a label. :)
A white chick doesnt have to deal with that. She can date you, never explain anything to anyone and no one will even blink an eye.
amazing!!
Nobel prize
very very true!!!!!what if women tend to call it "friends"(cuz they lie)
They do that all the time, they want men around them, and the come up most stupidest explanations!!! ohhhhhhhh he is this and he is that.
Friends can be men and women.. I find that women somehow men are better at listening and keeping secrets.. while women talk, they get jealous and cause trouble. Platonic friendship does exist where u can go shopping/watch movies.. and still not be smitted by each other.
I don't know much about the rest but my brother knows about my male friends and so does my mother :) so it's different for all of us.
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well parents are human too, my parents wasted many year of my life Not know what was good for me.
Keep pushing me to what they wanted.(to become a doc) I mean give me a break. lolzz
The answer is because we are brought up to have legitimate relationships with the opposite sex. Our mentality is shaped and molded by our parents, society, even our peers look down on us for hanging around a man they know isnt our brother or father. That is why every relationship needs to be defined for a woman...its not our low self-esteem...its our cultural standards that the SAME men follow who complain about women needing labels. These men do actually look down on a woman who has a casual relationship with a man...unless he is your brother...what he hell were you doing with that guy on so-and-so day at so-and-so time?
Sheynie, I know you are a good person. Your mother, father and family know you're a great girl who would never do anything wrong. But what about the people your parents know on a social level? Do they owe you forgiveness or any excuses for behavior they consider inappropriate? What about your family friends? Do they owe it to you to look past any rumors spread about you and consider your younger sister for their eligible son? After all, you are her sister, right? These are practical questions and scenarios that every girl has to be ready to deal with. Like it or not, its our society and if you choose to live within it, sometimes you have to play by some of the rules. And the rules say...no hanky panky and no relationships outside of marriage. Now, lets say someone chooses to have a relationship outside of marriage...then they need to be ready to deal with the consequences...rumors, lots of backbiting, ruined reputation and not to mention your family suffering as a result.
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PSquared , I totally agree with what you said about society pointing fingers at a relationship that is anything outside the norm and I would never indulge in any such relationships simply because my family's reputation means more to me than any other relationship.
**What I'm referring to is a platonic relationship , something that you would share with a best friend , cuz contrary to popular belief , I do think that one can be simply good friends with a member of the opposite sex without it breaching the norms of society. Of course , it requires that both are aware of the limits of that relationship and should not attempt to over-step those set boundaries. **
For me , personally cuz I wouldn't generalize , I knoe what my culture and society demands of me and I know what my limitations are and as long as I have faith in myself , I know I wouldn't do anything that would harm my family or my reputation.
Sheyn there are a few "set" norms though which I see PM is confused about,
Friends = no hanky panky or rated "R" scenario Girlfirend = everything goes, possesive, protective Wife = everything goes Sister = no hanky panky, controlling..and protective
U have been giving her mixed signals then.. u have to define a relationship so both of u know u're boundaries..
You????? I do not think PM is referring to me Gina !
PM knows what the boundaries are and that is why he is asking why the woman seems to have a blurry view of those boundaries.
Re: Girls! So there is this guy…
This video seems to be very relevant 
I totally do!!
It was just a genreal discussion. I had nothing better to do. It was raining so I could not go runing or biking. So I thought next best thing would be messing with ppl on GS. yeah I dont have a life 
PS too I believe is making a point!!
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he is my brother from other mother. hahah
at 4:50 emotional dating lolzzz