If she's a friend.. there should be none of the "R" rated business.. be possesive if she's u're fiancee/wife. U can't respect a girl that u know like family..
She wanted me to take possession BUT I rather had her as "friend" with benefits.
Her parents weren't here so weren't mine, so no was there to tell that it WAS wrong.
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Aslong as they are not checking ur txt msgs an ringing u up every 5 min to check where an who u r wid its all good :D
I find it cute!
U liked her more than a friend.. she liked u more than a friend.. I suggest u look her up and propose straight-away! HOW can u even think treating a friend/potential gf like a sister?
CE, dont take this the wrong way but girls who like protective guys are the equivalents of mamas boys. big big turn off.
arent fathers allowed to be protective? arent brothers? then why not a bf/husband? i think it only shows that they care. dont get being protective confused with being controlling. one can be protective without overstepping any boundaries.
^ That is the issue AE, he's neither a fiancee or bf or husband or father.. I don't see any reason to be controlling or possesive.. if she's just a friend!
^ That is the issue AE, he's neither a fiancee or bf or husband or father.. I don't see any reason to be controlling or possesive.. if she's just a friend!
agreed
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i would definitely keep talking to the guy. just because im friends with a guy in a certain way doesnt mean he agrees to his sister doign the same thing. i think it would be hypocritical of him to say that but as siblings we are protective. ofcourse if his sister did end up having a friendship like that and he tried to get in the middle, then id definitely say something to him cuz its his sisters life, she can be friends with a guy if she wants as long as he is respectful to her.
I will answer simply because I am one of those guys. I am an older over bearing protective brother. A guy looks at my sister funny I go have a chat with him. And guys who hit on my sister....well they are lucky I am not in the same country as them. I will inform them of whats what and that I have diplomatic immunity so I can get away with a lot of ****.
Secondly remember you aren't their brother. Your job isn't to treat them the same. If it was you would never hit on a single girl let alone sleep with her. Hello incest? So girls who expect you to treat them like you would your sister are frankly retarded.
I treat my sister who is my blood, the one who will always back me like my sister. I treat a woman who i know like a woman. Meaning conversations are raw and can be R rated.
stupid convos (i've had my share o those), harmless flirting/being in a relationship, hell even consensual sex if u want to go that far...are "okay" (well "okay" for the sake of argument here).. b/c consent is mutual and intentions are known.
but no guys should be touching/harrassing girls, calling htem names, touching them. Sleeping with them or teasing them with promises of marriage. etc. how many examples we hear of guys who treat their wives like dirt, divorce them at the drop of a hat. THATS what (most) women mean when they say they want a guy to respect em like they would respect their sister.
And i don't do this bhai crap either. I have a brother and no one has a right to that position.
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Why must every relationship be DEFINED to fit into particular categories ??????
Sometimes you do click with a person , are on the same wavelength and enjoy being together because of shared interests or ease of conversation that you cannot share with another and not all those relationships need necessarily have some kind of pre-defined conclusion ............
arent fathers allowed to be protective? arent brothers? then why not a bf/husband? i think it only shows that they care. dont get being protective confused with being controlling. one can be protective without overstepping any boundaries.
AE, sure as much as sisters or mothers or girlfriends or wives are allowed to be protective of their men. any more and it is sick.
besides, what is so special about anyone's sister? every girl is potentially someones sister. get over the whole insecurity of "oh i must watch out for her, she is my blood" BS.
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the problem is that there seems to be a double standard- i.e. you feel it's ok for you to have a close relationship (even if it's platonic) with a girl, but if your sister did the same with a guy, you would not approve. I think you should live by the same standard as your sister. I would be really angry if my bro was being overprotective with me, while he was time passing- which nauzubillah I hope never happens, and I would just say "who are you to be telling me that".
Your friend I think wanted to know if you thought of her as a pastime or if you liked her. And if someone makes them selves accessible by always calling or hanging out, and you take advantage of that, then it's just as bad, because you are leading them on. Just because someone lets you treat them badly doesn't mean you should.
The way I see it, if you really want to ignore a guy/girl that is after you, it can be done- all you have to do is show no reaction to anything they're doing and be really annoyed. Most people's hearts are just not 100% into it, they like to complain about how someone won't leave them alone, but at the same time, they like the fact that someone wants them.
the problem is that there seems to be a double standard- i.e. you feel it's ok for you to have a close relationship (even if it's platonic) with a girl, but if your sister did the same with a guy, you would not approve. I think you should live by the same standard as your sister. I would be really angry if my bro was being overprotective with me, while he was time passing- which nauzubillah I hope never happens, and I would just say "who are you to be telling me that".
Your friend I think wanted to know if you thought of her as a pastime or if you liked her. And if someone makes them selves accessible by always calling or hanging out, and you take advantage of that, then it's just as bad, because you are leading them on. Just because someone lets you treat them badly doesn't mean you should.
The way I see it, if you really want to ignore a guy/girl that is after you, it can be done- all you have to do is show no reaction to anything they're doing and be really annoyed. Most people's hearts are just not 100% into it, they like to complain about how someone won't leave them alone, but at the same time, they like the fact that someone wants them.
Finally a post I agree with!
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It seems she is emotionally attached to you already PM. If she is looking for you to be more then a friend to her then thats what it means. Girls can be somewhat idealistic and romantic at times...in some situations they actually bond with their partner via intimacy.
Anyway, if you were looking for only a friends with benefits type deal then you should cut her loose as soon as possible because otherwise you are asking for trouble and drama.
Much luck!
U liked her more than a friend.. she liked u more than a friend.. I suggest u look her up and propose straight-away! HOW can u even think treating a friend/potential gf like a sister?
She said "The relation we have; would you approve such a relation for your sister??"
BTW she was being possessive, she had my bank card/pin, my email passwords and stuff.
I never asked her for that stuff.
It seems she is emotionally attached to you already PM. If she is looking for you to be more then a friend to her then thats what it means. Girls can be somewhat idealistic and romantic at times...in some situations they actually bond with their partner via intimacy.
Anyway, if you were looking for only a friends with benefits type deal then you should cut her loose as soon as possible because otherwise you are asking for trouble and drama.
Much luck!
thanks!!!!
Girls always get emotionally attached. Hoping some thing would happen.
Till guy give that relation a name women call it "casual" "friend-ship"
While dying to get it some where.
I did cut her lose, I dont want to carry any dead(emotionaly) bodies.
the problem is that there seems to be a double standard- i.e. you feel it's ok for you to have a close relationship (even if it's platonic) with a girl, but if your sister did the same with a guy, you would not approve. I think you should live by the same standard as your sister. I would be really angry if my bro was being overprotective with me, while he was time passing- which nauzubillah I hope never happens, and I would just say "who are you to be telling me that".
Your friend I think wanted to know if you thought of her as a pastime or if you liked her. And if someone makes them selves accessible by always calling or hanging out, and you take advantage of that, then it's just as bad, because you are leading them on. Just because someone lets you treat them badly doesn't mean you should.
The way I see it, if you really want to ignore a guy/girl that is after you, it can be done- all you have to do is show no reaction to anything they're doing and be really annoyed. Most people's hearts are just not 100% into it, they like to complain about how someone won't leave them alone, but at the same time, they like the fact that someone wants them.
Thank you!!!
I agree its double standard. She still being there like she was selling her best years for less!!
arent fathers allowed to be protective? arent brothers? then why not a bf/husband? i think it only shows that they care. dont get being protective confused with being controlling. one can be protective without overstepping any boundaries.
hmmmmm good point. you know if I think about it now. where never stared at a guy while being with me. One I was on dead-bad terms with a dude. That dude happen to be in her circle too. She just shut him off.
Never had that controlling issu. matter of fact she use to tell me what to do.(good things)
hmmm and She use to take my suggestion how to write an email to a potential rishta and stuff.
If she said that she's pretty stupid! A bhai doesn't always know what their sister's are upto and that's how matches are made.. u can't confine women to the house and do as u please.
Everyone's sister is someone's potential/current gf and would-be-wife.. u're being her blood dosnt change the fact she'll be married.
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There is nuthing wrong with being protective, as AE mentioned theres a difference between controlling an being protective.......
In pm's case he doesnt need/want to be protective he just wants to have fun while the girl obviously wants to get serious......pm its quite simple, u need to end it
good luck
Loser-ish men and women who have little or no self-confidence, will take all the attention they can get, even if it means the attention is coming from someone retarded. Then same people would come on the internet to boast about oh-so-much attention that they get and of course complain about the person who is giving them attention!
So, carry on, losers.
Fo sho! 
mashallah SU you have a distinct way of looking at the things.
I am proud of you.
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I Think U shdunt Tell Too Much Personals to anyone. Cos tmorow you could regret it.
see AP I am dude. and unlike bytches on my peak I dont say "dont tell any one"
So I do what I do. I did what I did.
Made my point loud and clear. got input too.