Girls living alone...

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To be honest with you, I've heard nothing.

I think you're a great troll

You think 19 year olds in college are checking up on each other? Really?

There's no such brigade...you're making it up to defend a point that doesn't exist.

Stick to facts and reality...don't make things up or tell stories.

What do their legs look like when they cross them? Are they bow legged or something?

Are you serious?

Why do you make this stuff up? Do you have a job? Anything to keep you busy?

THere are no such girls out there...its a figment of your imagination. A runaway imagination. You should try to control it so you don't start believing these stories someday :(

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I'd like to live on my own and become independent..... Am I asking for too much? This decision is primarily related to work, being successful, and school for me.

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I'm surprised to hear some of the people in here, I didn't really think living alone for girls was an issue anymore. I moved out when I was 18 for university and then never moved back home. I would have loved to live with my family but unfortunately school and work took me away from them. My sister's the same way. I don't think anyone ever said anything. The way we always looked at it is you try to stay with family but if your jobs in another town or country you're not going to give it up just so you don't live alone. In todays global environment limiting your entire family to one location seems kind of difficult.

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It is an issue in my family due to girl's safety... How can you fight that?

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I guess most of the posters who posted in this thread are highly educated but I don't understand why have they failed to acknowledge certain things. In Pakistani society, it is very hard and almost impossible for a woman to live alone. I was harassed by a neighbor at the age of 14 and I wasn't even living alone. I know so many girls who've been through worse situations...in most areas you can't even go out alone.

In West, it's much more safer but obviously the immigrants (your parents) still have fears based on what they saw/experienced back in Pakistan. As simple as that. And I'm sure there are some dodgy areas in UK/USA too and you wouldn't wanna live there with or without family.

Now the generalizations made about girls living alone and also girls living with family are pure BS.

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^But don't most share with room-mates.. so safety is less of an issue than other things..

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I thought living alone meant living on your own without anyone staying with you. Living with room mates is like living in a hostel, isn't it?

As far as I know, a lot of desi parents are okay with such arrangements.

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I guess with the people who disagree with me here, I concede to their experience in these matters ... And they have taken the right to voice their opinion as have I ... Perhaps it was a lost in translation matter ... I would gladly take up some of the more contentious things that you feel I stated in order to increase my understanding and correct my perspectives.

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Perhaps there is a big difference between people who choose to live alone from those who have to live alone.

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Independence does not mean one must live alone ...

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really?
what does independence mean?

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I think you are independent when you feel you have the freedom to execute your ideas, and you are not only able to face the consequences you're also ready to take full responsibility of your actions.

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I asked your husband. does he have the same views as you?

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You’re testing him? :hehe:

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No, I just want to know if he has the same views as you :P because thats not being independent thats being responsible.

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So what is your definition of being independent?

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If you wanted to carry out your ideas without being held responsible for them then I would call it hedonism, not independence.

Other definition could be surviving on your own, without external help. Anyone can do that if they're subjected to it.

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I guess I was taking the thread as asking if it's considered ok for girls to move away from home rather than more literally living alone away from home..

There are girls who aren't allowed to move away from home even if it's to live at halls in uni or share a flat..

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Well, there can be several reasons for that.

Either the parents love their daughters and fear for their security or they don't trust them and think they're not ready to live far from home.

And yes there are plenty of cases where girls and boys living away from home have suffered.

Having said that, I don't know why a 25 years old should not be allowed to live alone. I mean a 25 years old is not even considered a "girl".

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Well in desi culture you stay a 'girl' until you married, no?