It’s definitely more acceptable nowadays; I wouldn’t say my family are uber liberal or even that conservative but for my parents, me moving away has been a non-issue really and when I proposed the idea it wasn’t even discussed, we all just sort of got on with it.
Having said that, if I wasn’t moving away for work and just wanted to move out within the same city I don’t think they would accept it. Tbf I wouldn’t ever want to do that anyway.
Extended family, now that’s another issue - it’s all like hawww haye larki akeli jaa rahi hai, kaise manage kare gi, aap kitne pareshaan honge (to my parents), kaash isse qareeb job mil jaati, yada yada yada. Very annoying really. So yes I guess people do talk but meh.
Personally I think it is ok for a woman if she needs to live alone, but her intention should be to avoid that situation and sort it out as quickly as possible. It is not a good position for her to be in for several reason, and they are not because of what society thinks of her.
A woman needs companionship … but if she becomes used to her privacy then she becomes hard to live with if she does eventually choose to get married. Being a mother may make her very pressured to be someone in charge of others outside herself … Her social life will change drastically if she decides to change her status. This is why a woman tends to move back to her parents or brother’s house if her husband leaves or dies …
Independence is over-rated … especially for women … most of the time independence means the price tag of boredom and anxiety. But independence is sold in the West because it makes more people slaves to the system … independence means more houses being bought or rented, more loans being taken out and more consumerism …
I lived on my own for a while so I could be close to my work since I started 7:30 every morning and my travel time from home is 2 hours. It was not the greatest experience since I missed my family way too much. I did not find much difference in living alone versus living at home in terms of the positives since I get all that at home anyways.
I told everyone around me I am moving. Noone in my circle cared..lol, infact told me that is a good thing since now I will cook for myself.
And hahahahaha whoever suggested girls get behaya, that is the funniest thing I heard…
If you are a modest person, you will remain so regardless of where and how you live. If you are behaya to begin with, you will be that person no matter where you go.
That is not true. I grew up being really independent and I can tell you I am so much better with kids than some of my friends who have kids!..lol. I am also very social with my family and friends. Being independent does allow me to be the person I want to be and strengthen my personality so I can actually, wholeheartedly contribute to the society. I have seen people being so dependent on their relationships that the moment they have to be alone, they start getting insecure, or depressed. I have even seen women who are so dependent on their husbands that they wont step out anywhere with out them.
So a woman needs companionship but a man doesn’t? Why says independent confident women can’t be good wives and mothers? A strong confident woman be a better role model for her kids. In that case shouldn’t men not live alone either because they will not be able to cope with a woman and eventually kids. So you are saying women can’t be in charge of her own kids if she lives alone but somehow if she lives with her family she can. Interesting views!
When I came to the United States several years ago, I lived alone as a student. Those were some of the best years of my life. A great learning experience. Instilled confidence and a new perspective in my life and great deal of responsibility!
There’s nothing wrong with living alone or with parents but it depends on the need of the time. Why sweat over it. People will “talk” regardless but who cares at the end of the day?
The same can be said for a guy - becoming stuck in one’s ways and finding it difficult to share the same space with another person after having lived alone.
Not sure where you get your views from though. As far as I see it, it’s a personality thing. I can think of a few people who appear to be hard to live with, who haven’t lived alone.
Dear heart n soul ,
I don’t opposed your comment, But tell me who followed Islam in helping their citizen, according their healthcare, education and welfare? Pakistani government or UK Government?
WOW!!!
