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Someone I knew in Pakistan lived alone in an apartment after she got widowed (no kids ) at the age of 26 despite having her parents and in laws in the same city. This was in the 90s and she lived in defence though. My sister in law got divorced and lived with her 5 kids (all under 13) in a rented place in Karachi despite her parents living in the same city.
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yeah cuz for study they dorm with whole bunch of students and are usually close to university/college and have soem type of watch form them .. even from other types of students .. but i know girls who leave their nice big homes and stay in aorad coutnires and wear g string panties and short skirts and sit in boys laps and trap other peoples sons for marriage using their behaya sex appeal and kissing and touching techniques .. and then come and destroy the family and teach the boy that hell wtih your family and play mind games with them so that he goes against his own fmaily .. all for a behaya larki who god knwos how many boys laps shes sat in
LMAO LOLZZZZZZZ
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[quote=" Im the main breadwinner in the family, I not only pay for the roof over their heads
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In UK I don’t think that your family depend on you. In UK social system is very good for their citizen.
It is nothing wrong if you live alone with Islam.
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Wow soni u need to scroll up and just see how you threw so many women living alone under the umbrella of trampy girls!!! There is a big world out there and there are all sorts of people and if you start judging ppl from the depths of your imagination, you are going to find that negativity coming back to you in a different way altogether.
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But you haven't met ALL girls, so your observations can't be the rule. The stereotype is disrespectful to those who are the exception.
Living on your own can bring about a positive development in one's character as well....**such as building confidence, independence, **responsibility, etc. Why do you see it as a strictly negative thing?
Those can be negatives to some ppl..
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*In india lot of muslim girls live at hostels...or with friends.... while completing their education *
Girls living alone is not a common sight as even boys studying or having a job still prefer to live with some room mates....:)
Not in India, but my mum and her sisters all lived in halls when they were at uni.. and this was 30-odd years ago..
I don't think it's considered a big deal for a lot of ppl nowadays if there's a practical reason such as education or for a work opportunity.. I have a cousin from 'back home' who moved to China on her own, likewise I have a few female cousins who've moved to the US to study and one who is planning to come here to London..
I know of many desi girls here in the UK who lived away for uni but the majority return back to their parents' homes afterwards until they marry..
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Oh man! This was super fun to read 
I didn’t know there was such ignorance and made up stereotypes associated with girls living alone. But then again… the spelling, grammar mistakes, and random Urdu words thrown into an (almost complete) English sentence makes me giggle to myself and explains the reasoning behind it. 
So like… Do do boys who live on their own cross their legs differently, and that whole bit too?
And so.. Girls who don’t live on their own are supposed to sit with their legs wide open? I don’t understand this. Perhaps you could draw us a nice diagram explaining?
I didn’t know girls had to live alone to be comfortable in their own skin.
I’m pretty sure, no girl (or guy) want’s to just move out to be “cool”. It’s to become independent and spend their life mooching off of their parents. Not every girl is OK with just living alone not being anything until she gets married and just goes from being a daughter to becoming a wife/ mother.
That pendu desi mentality that girls shouldn’t have freedom/ independence because they’ll be come corrupt was back in the 1960’s.
Not every desi girl wants to be “gori”. Not everyone has a “nice big house” or “measly dumb jobs”. And most importantly, it’s spelled “F-A-I-R”. 
For starters, my family isn’t super modern, I’ve never been pregnant, I don’t believe in premarital sex, I am a Muslim Pakistani-American, I have been raised to believe that anything a boy can do a girl can do just as well, and most importantly, I have not done any thing in my life to make my parents doubt or not trust me, Alhumdililla.
I lived alone, not because I wanted to be a “gori” or I had some “wicked agenda.” Not because I wanted to be cool, fit in, or get away from my family. I love my family more than anyone or anything on this earth.. My family lives very comfortably, mA. I moved out, initially, because I could support my self and I didn’t want to be a burden on my parents.
I didn’t have a “measly job” and wasn’t struggling with rent, or anything else. I had enough saved up and could afford to live on my own. Yes, I did take advantage of the location I was in and furthered my career and education.
So now. What is your desi argument to what I’ve stated?
I look forward to reading your assumptions and accusations of my character and my family.
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How can building confidence, being independent, and gaining responsibility be negative? 
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Some ppl genuinely think a girl driving, working, being independent is a negative thing cos they think she’ll become ‘proud’/over confident, not listen to her husband or family (or not have to put up with cr*p).. Some ppl think dependency is better..
Much more of a minority view now tho.. There was an interesting show here called Muslim Driving School (it can be viewed on Youtube).. It showed some good examples of the changing attitudes and lifestyles of UK Pakistani women..
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Some ppl genuinely think a girl driving, working, being independent is a negative thing cos they think she'll become 'proud'/over confident, not listen to her husband or family (or not have to put up with cr*p).. Some ppl think dependency is better..
Much more of a minority view now tho.. There was an interesting show here called Muslim Driving School (it can be viewed on Youtube).. It showed some good examples of the changing attitudes and lifestyles of UK Pakistani women..
Sounds interesting. I'll look into the show :)
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@ Surat. Errrrrrr do you live in the UK by any chance? For your info I actually work in that social system that you speak of so u cant tell me anything about it that I dont knw. Anyone that has the slightest bit of self respect would rather not sponge of the system like so many ppl in Pakistan seem to think its there for.
Seriously you sound like my ex freshie husband that actually suggested we move back to the UK from Pakistan JUST so that we could do what u seemed to have suggested to go and sponge off the amazing UK social system!!??
I told him where to take his idiotic ideas thoughts and beliefs about how amazing the welfare system of the Uk must be. Tried explaining its made for genuine poor ppl that had no where else to turn, but the idiot started saying that we wer poor too. Asthighfirullah made my blood boil to think even after Allah had blessed us wid so much he suggested we were poor!!! Ufff!!!!!! Get a life yourself and leave me to keep my self respect in the eyes of Allah and the Uk law.
Urgh some ppl really get under my skin when they talk like they actually knw about something which they have no clue about.
Surat why would I want my parents to be on the dole when I am quite capable of looking after them on my own????
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At work I have these freshie security gaurds that think that just cus I live, work and drive alone I must be some easy cheap hoe that my parents and brothers dont care about just cus they have allowed me to be independent. One even forced me to go the extent of getting him fired from his job cus he wouldnt leave me alone. Ufff!!!!!!
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them freshies i tell you............diseased pieces of muck.
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^Tell me bout it! LOL Sorry I only use that word except when im annoyed wid stuff they say or do.
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And the freshie bashing starts again.
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soni, where did you get your observations from?
i mean from pakistan or the west?
maybe like where are you at?
or is it the elite community in pakistan you are talking about and not the norm cases??
really appreciate it if you tell ...
but then i do believe there are pakistani mens and aunties who have the same thought as you but its disturbing for a young girl ....
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Yeah I always make sure it's a drink (ain't alcohol, Soni) I'm consuming and not food when I'm reading threads. Food would be a choking hazard.
Wise disclaimer. Lest you be accused of being a booze-drinking, g-string wearing, suggestive leg-crossing tart who lives alone.
Which reminds me, I really should learn the Heimlich maneuver.
LOL! I love this thread. Thank you Soni!
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I knew there was a reason I used to read life1 threads!