you are probably belong to that ultra modern female brigade of feminists who think living with their common law partner out of wedlock is okay and that saying otherwise will be restricting their freedom ..
Yet another assumption of yours, Soni. Unlike you I didn't attack your character....nor was I rude to you in my post up above. I simply asked you a question. You can preach that we should argue respectfully, but you don't seem to practice it yourself. No, I don't think it's okay to live with someone out of wedlock. I live at home with my parents...always have. So does my brother. My sister goes to med school and lives in a dorm. She tried to get admission into one closer to home, so that she could live with us....but it wasn't meant to be. Her manner of dressing hasn't changed and neither have her moral values...she's still the same person...only more stronger, responsible, and independent. She's nothing at all like the image you have in mind. For a girl who lives at home ....you don't seem to embody whatever positive qualities you think such a one would have......namely tameez, which is a big one. You're sorely lacking in that...along with being tunnel-visioned.
My sis lives alone in a totally diff country from my folks. She puts in a lot of effort to live life so no one can think low-ly of her... instilling all of my parents teachings into her daily life. The way she dresses, what she eats, who she meets.... Everything...
It takes a lot of confidence and courage to live a muslim life, when u are all alone and swimming against the tide...everyone else, your friends included partying it up... You so alone and feeling left out but still...continue to stay strong....
What you are saying disrespects and throws thanda paani on all her efforts. She has done nothing to warrant these kinda words from desi ppl like you. Its like.... You cant win... No matter how right you live by muslim and sesi standards... Just the fact that u are living alone means you are easy, loose in morals, islamic and cultural sense and are just generally....behaya.
Its really really unfair. She may aswell dress as a ho and party hard... Cuz girls like my sis dont even stand a chance when there r ppl with a mentality like yours.
PLS sit up and take notice of what you are saying and how ****ty it makes someone who are doing theif level best to not do anything that would make ppl doubt their moral values, feel.
WHA!!! I lived with my folks until i got married… Ive never lived alone… And i cpuld be that girl u just mentioned above. Having confidence is an awesome thing. Confidence in oneself doesnt make you behaya.
It takes a lot of confidence and courage to live a muslim life, when u are all alone and swimming against the tide...everyone else, your friends included partying it up... You so alone and feeling left out but still...continue to stay strong....
*What you are saying disrespects and throws thanda paani on all her efforts. .
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Especially the bolded bit. I wanted to say that and couldn't find the words.
Even if you reason respectfully with her, she won't be able to open her mind. She'll just assume the worst about your character. It can be said that the one who assumes ill has the behaya soch. Oh well. Here's to hoping she's just trolling...cuz it would be very sad indeed if it were otherwise.
rv you cannot balance everything in life .. oh dont tag these people its not fiar bla bla .. political ocrrectenss wont change what is .. our arguments have nothign to do wtih tameez of girls who live with thier families .. nor did i say that girls who live with their families are all tamezdaar .. discuss only what im talking about .. dont bring in other useless things .. be forthwright and direct to the point with your replies pleez .. stick to what is being argued
What diff does it make? If anything… Students dorming whilst studying are at a higher risk for idiocy than grown up ladies who live on their own.
You are who you are, student or a grown up person.
I just dont understand the argument…that its ok if u are a student and arw forced to live on ure own… But if u live by choice… Thats not ok?
discuss only what im talking about .. dont bring in other useless things .. be forthwright and direct to the point with your replies pleez .. stick to what is being argued
OMG....this is very reminiscent of a certain absent hasti on GS.
I been living alone for last 5 years in the UK because of my job. I am not behaya or anything like that. I live in London and my parents and siblings live about 3 hours drive away. Im the main breadwinner in the family, I not only pay for the roof over their heads but also my own. My parents are incredibly proud of me.
Only downside is that I have had ppl refuse rishta just becasue I live alone and it upsets my parents but I gotta remind them that I wouldn't want to marry in to a family that has such a ignorant view on life anyway.
Another downside is that now I am also very sick and Id really like to go and live with them again but circumstances are such that this is not possible so im gonna bring my mum to come up and stay with me for while till i get better.
See thats the thing that i dont get bout ppl that are staunch against it, is that how dare you can just stand over there and judge a girl without knwoing anything about her. Just becasue u knw of one such girl u think u can assume to judge every girl by that standard??? At least for gods sake have the decency to go by the thinking that maybe the girl and the family would rather they all lived together but that Allah has made such circumstances for them to live like that.
Hence Allah ki marzi which is true in my case. I actually dont enjoy living alone cus i get lonley and homesick but for sake of so many things I must. So two fingers to all those who judge me without knwing anything about me and my life.
yeah cuz for study they dorm with whole bunch of students and are usually close to university/college and have soem type of watch form them .. even from other types of students .. but i know girls who leave their nice big homes and stay in aorad coutnires and wear g string panties and short skirts and sit in boys laps and trap other peoples sons for marriage using their behaya sex appeal and kissing and touching techniques .. and then come and destroy the family and teach the boy that hell wtih your family and play mind games with them so that he goes against his own fmaily .. all for a behaya larki who god knwos how many boys laps shes sat in
to all the posters hwo chiming in i live alone im not like that thats not faair' .. im not talking bout when its a big need .. or a great job .. im talking bout they dont want to live in their nice big house but live a lone doing measly dumb jobs hardly getting theirough rent cuz they want freedom to wander around n be gori n continue to live in their wicked ways of existence
yeah cuz for study they dorm with whole bunch of students and are usually close to university/college and have soem type of watch form them .. even from other types of students .. but i know girls who leave their nice big homes and stay in aorad coutnires and wear g string panties and short skirts and sit in boys laps and trap other peoples sons for marriage using their behaya sex appeal and kissing and touching techniques .. and then come and destroy the family and teach the boy that hell wtih your family and play mind games with them so that he goes against his own fmaily .. all for a behaya larki who god knwos how many boys laps shes sat in
Wow...u do live in your own lil world dont u?
U Arent aware of it but a LOT of students do not live on campus and choose to live elsewhere to get AWAY from the dorm life CUZ its so crazy at times.
Ok i dont think i can get to you... U have been scarred or something, by such a girl.
IMO all girls living alone are not worng, they are living alone because of some reason like job or studies but that´s also true that some girls from pak forget about the purpose and get involved in the wrong matters.
so it depends on the individuals and also people always say bad about others whether they are right or wrong.
You sure do make a lot of assumptions about nice big houses and dumb measly jobs etc. Is that the only scenario for a Muslim female living on her own? Are you really so worldly that you're certain that the majority fall into your mold?
Your arguments and justifications are growing weaker and weaker. It sounds like you're nursing some very deep wounds. Did you get dumped by someone for a "gori wannabe" who has a penchant for naughty undies?
yes they stand differently cross their legs differently
BAHAHAHAHA.
Thank you for that, I have 7up in my nose now. You've piqued my curiosity. Can someone please check if I'm not crossing my legs like a .... lady of the evening.
Soni should host a game show. 'Think you're a strumpet? Cross yer legs and find out!'
I chose to not live in the dorms because of the crazy 'wild' lifestyle. Most of the kids were out drinking, partying hard and so on. And just because you live in a dorm there is no 'curfew' and no controlling your comings and goings.
I lived on my own and my family wanted to hide it from the community. I told them not to, the guy who judges me on living alone is not someone I want as my life partner.
A woman living alone, not partying and following Islamic values already is pretty lonely (because a lot of her peers are partying hard and living it up) add to that ppl judging her and her not finding decent rishtas would make anyone mad.
Isn't our culture just wonderful? A guy living alone to get an education is a hero and someone everyone would like as a daamad. But a woman out to get an education living on her own is a slut no one wants to marry. Sick
Plus those who are skanks don't need to be living alone. Women can do that while living at home.
