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^ that point is really great.... all parents want to treat all their children equally...
so they should think, if they do this for one child, can they keep this up for the rest of their children?
You never know what your future financial position might be like either...
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since i posted my problem here ...of the 40 outfits my MIL is requesting for the extd. family, and many of u guys suggested i speak to my fiance, i thought i ll give u an update :D
anyways so i talked to him and told him how his mother is asking for so many outfits...he started to laugh and thght its was crazy too, but thn he ask if its tradition???
i was like not in my family. he said he doesn't think its wrong of her to ask if its tradition to give to everybody, but said he ll speak to her because i asked him to.
my mom said its not a big deal, we ll give the gifts but i am afraid my MIL will be asking for something else...so i guess v ll just wait n c.
oh and thank you all for the help :)
We hope Rabia everything goes well for you!
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My mom also asked my FIL how m any suits to give to my husbands aunts and uncles. He has about 15 aunts and 15 uncles together from btoh mom and dads side. we also had to get suits for his sisters and their husbands. i told mom not to get anything for my husbands extended family, i even told her not to get anythign for my SILs cuz i think its a waste and i think its a ridiculous and stupid tradition i said if u wanna get somehing just get it for my husband and my FIL. in the end ofcourse she got stuff for everyone.
also, my FIL gave shirt sizes to my mom for each and every man in the extended family. however, mom only bought the correct sizes for my SILs husbands. the other 15 shirts were random sizes cuz no one had the time to find a particular size for each damn person. so till this day my FIL occasionally brings up how the shirts dont fit anyone. i dont say anything, specially since my FIL is a sweet person but i really do wanna say something, dont know what to say though.
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^ i guess u mom gave the shirts and the other stuff bcuz of ur MIL (since he never said not to give)
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Rabia, hope everything goes well...
^ i guess u mom gave the shirts and the other stuff bcuz of ur MIL (since he never said not to give)
Mom gave the stuff cuz she wanted to. I dont have a MIL.
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oops sorry i meant to say FIL, good that they were frm her heart...that how it should be.
Gifts for In-Laws
Salaam
I was wondering what would be appropriate gifts for the boys family members?
So far we have for each family member
FATHER - shirt , perfume, sweater
BROTHER1 - shirt , perfume
BROTHER2 - shirt , perfume
MOTHER- really expensive kapra (cloth) for shalwar kameez, plus 6 other cloth sets for other shalwar kameez (nice ones) also to be given to daughter in-law and grandmother
Is this enough stuff? My mum is thinking of giving a small gold set to the mother and a gold bracelet for grandmother, but im wondering if that looks strange?
For Husband to be:
nice watch
2 everyday work suits
2 shirts
2 ties
1 perfume
1 designer suit to wear at registration
1 sherwani to wear at wedding
Is this enough?
I am totally clueless having been raised in the UK so any advice is appreciated,
also are we supposed to be buying stuff for aunties uncles cousins etc?
What should our family expect to receive?
thanks!!
xxxx
Salaam
I was wondering what would be appropriate gifts for the boys family members?
Nothing. It's a lame tradition and 99% of the time the in-laws don't deserev so much stuff anyway.
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nobody gave us anything when my bro got married, we got them stuff ..but that's cuz they live in pak and they prob expected some sort of gifts. nobody in our family has ever done this kind of thing buy so much crap for in-laws-- as if you don't have so many expenses as it is
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We are thinking of giving the groom's sisters and their husbands a gold ring and a suit for the lady and a suit for the gentleman.
For the groom's brothers, we are gifting one suit and a watch
For the groom's mother I think either a gold kara or earings
For the groom's dad a suit and a watch.
Thats pretty much it..
Does anyone know if the girl's family gets any gifts from the groom's side on the wedding day? My cousin is getting married and none of us have a clue , some are telling us you dont gift back, some say do it !
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Nope, girls side gets nothing.
except the huge bill of course
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Thanks Sara … 
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I never understood this concept of giving gifts to in-laws. It's so lame just like jahez! And it's always the girl's side giving gifts to the guy's family! What's up with that?? Another dumb tradition that needs to be boycotted.
Sanabanana, you have enough things already! I think you're fine!!!Relax and enjoy your wedding. It's your big day, not your in-laws! :)
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my opinion do not worry about all these things this is just bs .try 2 put ur energy n time in something else.i just hate this tradition of girls side giving gifts 2 groom side .my experience btw was very bad my mom got for my jaithaneeses ,jaites,nand and nandoee n saasoo maan suits n yes also nand n saasoo maan gold things also...............n guess wat happen they kept all gold things n sends all suites back to my mom n said we dont like these...........khair yaar chaddo tou dear dont worry let ur elders handle this u just enjoy ur wedding have fun n beautiful n blessed life....chill yaar
We are thinking of giving the groom's sisters and their husbands a gold ring and a suit for the lady and a suit for the gentleman.
For the groom's brothers, we are gifting one suit and a watch For the groom's mother I think either a gold kara or earings For the groom's dad a suit and a watch.
Thats pretty much it..
Does anyone know if the girl's family gets any gifts from the groom's side on the wedding day? My cousin is getting married and none of us have a clue , some are telling us you dont gift back, some say do it !
Girls side usually gets nothing. However on the day of the wedding my sister got gold earrings which was surprising cuz that's not a tradition. And then on the day of the valima my husband paid for everyones hotel expenses from my side of the family since the valima was in another city and a trip to the northern areas of Pakistan. So it really depends on the family.
Either way the whole gift giving tradition is retarded. At the time I was getting married it was fun and exciting to go shopping for sooo many people but afterwards you realize what a waste it was specially when u give gifts to loserish long distant relatives.
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Actually just like there's a law against serving food at weddings in Pakistan, there should be one against all this gift giving. It's utter nonsense.
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yeah all guppies r right, dont waste money on all this crap BIg No Noo to the gold set/bracelet. save it lady for urself or ur mum,
If ur family are too eager to give gifts then only one thing for each person wud also work, as its tradition in pk specially karachiets to give gift to inlaws, my uncle (chachoo) got married, larki walay sent gifts on the mehendi function in a suit case containing 1 dress piece foe each sis n a 3piece dress for MIL of girl, and pant shirt pieces for each bro, and 1 saree foe each bhabi. no other refreshments for Inlaws like purfumes/ties/wrist watches,
But this em telling story is of 97/98,I didnt see others following same tradition in recent marriages, myself not in favour of these craps extra n useless expences on Inlaws.
but ofcourse too much for Groom like Denim shaving kit, purfume, shirts, ties etc. although he as a groom deserves gifts :)
my opinion do not worry about all these things this is just bs .try 2 put ur energy n time in something else.i just hate this tradition of girls side giving gifts 2 groom side .my experience btw was very bad my mom got for my jaithaneeses ,jaites,nand and nandoee n saasoo maan suits n yes also nand n saasoo maan gold things also...............n guess wat happen they kept all gold things n sends all suites back to my mom n said we dont like these...........khair yaar chaddo tou dear dont worry let ur elders handle this u just enjoy ur wedding have fun n beautiful n blessed life....chill yaar
oh my god....that so rude returning gifts and saying that they doesnt like it...if this happen with me than i would start fighting with them......i think we should stop this thing, giving gift to boys family and i always tell this to my mom and than she always say that (agar nahi do to yeh na ho ke kal ko tumhari saas tanna marrai ke kuch diya he nahi.........