Hi Girls,
what are some gift ideas to give to the groom’s side? I have to give to the following people
-Mother in law
-Father in law
-Brother in Law
-Jethani
-Oldest Uncle
-Oldest Aunty
-Uncle
-Aunty
For the engagement, we gave the following:
-Jethani: sari
-Mother in law: a pendant set
-Father in law: shirt and tie
-Brother in law: shirt and tie
PLEASE HELP! THANKS!
hey..i'm assuming u wana knwo gift ideas for wedding.
um..a tradition tat i've seen become more than common is as follwos:
mother in law: clothes and some jewelry (choories, kurray, earrrings , etc)
father in law: suit unstitched
uncles and aunts (in my family we try not to cuz it gets too much) but if u r interested: ladies clothes for women and unstitched shalwar kameez or unstitched suit for uncles
brother in law: suit cloth
sis in law: cloth n sometimes jewelry (earrrings, etch)
depends on how much u can afford n want to give n wat they r expecting. dont get urself too tied up in these things in my opinion.
my friend just got married in aug n they gave suits and citizen wataches to all the guys male cousins and uncles and clothes to all the womens and i thinks some jewlry. i thot tat was too much. nyways it's ur choice.
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^^ that how v do it too...n i m guess jewl. is in gold...n for fathe in law i plan to give him a nice $$ watch :(
do you have to give them stuff on the wedding if you already gave on the engagement?
yeah!! (sorry tat's teh tradition). i wish i cud say otherwise lolzz.
depends on ur realtions with them too if u r really like 1 family then i guess u dotn have to..but i've never seen or heard of such unless the guys family says "no we dont want it" lolzz
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they ALL say we don't want it but you know everyone talks if you don't give it. So they have to accept gifts or else ppl will talk that their bahu didn't give em stuff. Haye becharay susural :@:
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hahaha..funny but true!
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This is how we did it, keep in mind i dont have a mother in law:
Engagement:
Father in law- Dress Shirt and Tie
Husband- Jacket, dress paints, dress shirt, tie and PS3
1 sister in law- shalwar kameez
1 sister in law- sari
Wedding:
Father in law- stitched suit, dress shirt, tie, watch, cologne
Husband- Many, many many many dress shirts, dress pants, suits, ties, watch, ring, colognes
4 sister in laws- 1 pair of Gold earrings each,1 shalwar kameez each, 1 perfume each, 1 shawl and 1 sweater each
Husbands of the sister in laws!!- 1 suit each with a dress shirt
8 uncles of my husband- dress shirt and handkerchief
8 aunts of my husband- unstitched shalwar kameez and shawl
we also gave an unstitched shalwar kameez to them to give to the poor on behalf of my deceased MIL- i think thats a tradition. if MIL was still alive im sure she would either get a set or a pair of karae.
each and everything that we gave was way too pricey even to the people that didnt matter such as his aunts and uncles. my in laws had even told us not to spend much money on things for them but we decided to get really nice things unfortunately. i realized after the wedding that no one deserves sh*t and our traditions regarding marriages are awful. IMO the only people that should have gotten any presents were my husband and his dad, if even that. my husband constantly told me not to get anything for him.
i guess there is some tradition of when the newlyweds go to dinner at someones house for the first time, the bride gets money or a dress or some present from the hosts. every house i went to, i got a measly Rs.1000 meanwhile we had spent around Rs.5k on each aunt and uncle of my husbands and my husband had bought all of them round trip tickets from isb to khi to attend the wedding and when they came to our wedding in khi they stayed at my dads hotel for 2 nights and ate so much, ordered room service, did whatever they wanted!! pakistani people will never change and these people are just so disgusting. im glad my immediate in laws (FIL and SILs) are not like that or i would have had a nervous break down by now.
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At my wedding my parents gave:
MIL-4 suits, 1 pair of gold earrings
FIL-2 sets of dress pants and shirts, wrist watch
All BILs-1 set of pants/shirts each (i have 4 BIL's+1 nandoi)
All SILS (3nands and 2 jethani,dewrani)-2 suits each
My parents didnt do anything for uncles and aunts. And no one complained.
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PS3 sumorani...really...thats no funny at least i dont have to worry abt that one...he just get one for himself :D
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looks like he demanded for for ps3 :P lol
my sister wedding
we gave mother in law : sari and 2 gold karay
father in law : 2 shirts and 1 dress pant
2 sisters: each got gold earrings and shalwar kameez suit unstiched
sister husband: shalwar kameez suit and dress shirt/pant.
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Im having the SAME dilemma but my mom is suggesting this:
For the SILs Im giving one formal suit unstitched and perfume
For MIL Im giving one formal suit unstitched, perfume and gold karhay
For FIL Im giving suit cloth, watch and cologne
For BIL Im giving suit cloth and cologne
Is this too much or too little? Im not sure...
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^ that's more than enough. u dont wanna spoil em either!
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At my Nikkah, my mom gave the following:
MIL- Gold set, suit, bangles/karay, perfume/bodylotion/bodyspray set
Hubby's grandma- Gold set (earrings, pendant), suit, perfume set, clutch. She is very fashionable mA as in she loves being all tayyaar so my mom didn't have to wonder what to gift her =)
Hubby's nani who was in Pak- Also gold set (earrings, pendant), suit, mithai, flowers.. I also sent her favorite body lotion/ perfume set that she likes from here. Since we were not there, my aunt in Pakistan took her presents to her.. I am very close to his nani so that was a must and I missed her alot at Nikkah.
FIL, both BILs- Formal shirt, tie, pants, belt, polo shirt, shalwar kurta, watch (the kind each likes), perfume/cologne set, wallet with name engraved, cufflinks.
Husband got all the stuff as his dad and brothers did but thrice as many clothes, also a movado watch my mom picked for him because once shopping before he had really liked it, shoes, cash and of course the sherwani, etc he wore to the Nikkah.
There were about 30 people or so who flew over with them and my mom gave all the women suits with bangles, clutch and perfume sets. The men got formal shirts, tie and cologne sets.
In my opinion, my parents did ALOT and I was not even aware of most things until they were being packed except the gold sets and presents for his grandmothers because I am close to both of them so I chose their stuff myself. If I had it my way, I would have told my mom to exclude a few items but she's like that- very caring and generous. This time I think she went more overboard because I am the first child and my husband has always been like a son to her. I was even a bit mad at her and told her she should have gone to a cheaper store to buy all the things but she said no, I have my own standards of giving things. If I don't buy cheap things for myself, why would I do that for others? Haha, gotta love my mommy. But for rukhsati, I am not letting her do that again.
Give what you want to give, to who you want to give. Getting a gift isnt a right that anyone has and no one should have the power to impose such an obligation on you. If they care for you, they will be happy to receive whatever you give with love
they ALL say we don't want it but you know everyone talks if you don't give it. So they have to accept gifts or else ppl will talk that their bahu didn't give em stuff. Haye becharay susural :@:
Thank God my susral at least are not so petty as that, I do feel sorry for those whose are!!!
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Hubby's grandma- Gold set (earrings, pendant), suit, perfume set, clutch. She is very fashionable mA as in she loves being all tayyaar so my mom didn't have to wonder what to gift her =)
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Thats so cute, I love grandmas like that
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She's such a cutie, I tell you. She was married into a very wealthy family so she always lived and dressed a certain way.. expensive clothes, jewelry and all.. and even now, she does it but so elegantly. She lectured me so much when I got married because I would be walking around in pajamas and she would want me to wear fancy clothes and all, haha.
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^ haha that's so sweet. though i get lectures like that from my mom all the time cuz i wear jeans to my FIL's house, no makeup, no jewelry, hair in a mess and i wear pjs at home pretty much all the time and she yells at me (to no effect) haha.
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^hahaha, i love that! we are the modern brides ;)