Re: Getting married to a psycho??
every girl is bit upset when wedding approaches but this is non sense, she is bit too much.
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so are u married yet? I would say she just cant make up her mind if she wants to marry u or not.
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dude I tend to become a complete b!tch and do stuff thats totally out of my character when under stress.. Sit down with her and talk to her first!!
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You told on her to her mommy?? :D
She sounds like she is freaking out and that's about it. This behavior hasn't always been there and if she has any trust issues or insecurities, they would definitely come out at a time like this. To be honest, she doesn't sound like a psycho to me and it is not very nice of you to label her as one.
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I remember the OP starting a thread about his fiance a few months ago as well, about her erratic behaviour. So I don't think this is just pre-wedding stress. Or could be. Who knows. However someone demanding to speak to their significant other for at least 2-3 hours EVERY night, and if he can't do it then saying that he doesn't love her seems a bit too 10th grade to me.
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look around man. its true for paki women. you gotta work with what you got.
I guess then Pakistani guys have pathetically low expectations. Can't blame them when they're raised to believe the only thing they have to offer a woman is gifts and financial security. But then they might be ugly.
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I remember the OP starting a thread about his fiance a few months ago as well, about her erratic behaviour. So I don't think this is just pre-wedding stress. Or could be. Who knows. However someone demanding to speak to their significant other for at least 2-3 hours EVERY night, and if he can't do it then saying that he doesn't love her seems a bit too 10th grade to me.
hear hear!
Dude, think long and hard. I made the mistake of marrying such a girl thinking she is going to be 'normal' after the wedding. HELL NO! I was wrong. And I paid for it big time.
Every girl likes to be given importance and priorities but not to such an abnormal level. So pay heed to the advice, think selfishly here and then decide whether you can live with such a person for rest of your life or not. Good luck with that....
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Run...Forrest....Run!!!
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look at it as a challenge. a saxy one. tame the psycho with your love and MIL power. there is some mithun chakrabarty movie where he breaks down a psycho wife into ***. watch it!
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how do u manage to be so funny ^
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are you making fun of my looks again? 
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LOL! Where did you come up with mithun chakrabarty??? OMG, just died laughing 
Getting married to a psycho??
Again some Paki girls are over dramatic! That's what they learned from their surrounding and form movies, dramas....and some paki men love this suffocating type of love. It makes them feel special and great. But if this type of love is freaking you out now...I honestly don't know how you will deal with it later when the novelty of new wife and marriage wears off. Talk to her and her parents ASAP! it may be wedding jitters but you need to know if you tame her fears.
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Are you sure she's 26 years old?
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I dont think she's a psycho. Its just the cultural differences. A 'normal' behaviour cannot be defined with set boundaries. Every individual is different. Maybe she feels a little insecure, but then its normal for her because of the way people portray proposals coming from abroad.
Not everybody with normal behavior is compatible with another person of normal behavior. So its up to you to decide if you her behavior is acceptable for you or not. In the end, you will find out that you have to decide by yourself. You cannot reach any conclusion by asking others because there are some traits of that person which only you have seen, and felt. Only you are under-going through that experience, so only you know what to do.
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Here's a suggestion:
Try to talk to her on a serious topic, (maybe you've done that already ofcourse). Analyze her behavior on that, if she behaves maturely and wisely, I think there's nothing to worry about and this behavior can be typical with a lot of girls. I tend to behave very childish sometimes with my fiance, and I realize it myself too, I behave immaturely when we have a fight. But when it comes to real issues, I become serious, I try my best to co-operate and offer him wise advice, and that does not bother him. Maybe he gets irritated sometimes :D lol
Anyway, the point is, if she can handle herself in serious issues, she's pretty normal. If she can't, then there could be a 50-50 chance she might change and she might not. Some girls change after marriage but I've seen others who dont even when they have grandchildren.
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congrats you've definitely hit one of the neurotic ones...actually i feel like 80% of grls are like that (i was like that too in one of my relatioships). but we tend to act that way (wanting attention, bipolar behavior..one min i love u and ur a blessing, to i cant believe i'm marrying you) out of our own insecurities... i say u let her know where u stand...that its an arranged marriage, ur not madly and deeply in love with her, but are willing to make an honest commitment. you should tell her that u need space for ur social life and you cant put up with every one of her nuances...and if she's unhappy with u or the wedding then she should call it off. tell her that!...either she'll quit being a brat, come to her senses, shut up and become greatful for what she's getting or she'll be gutsy enough to realise that u dont float her boat and will call off the wedding. (and that may be a blessing in disguise for both of u)
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I dont think she's a psycho. Its just the cultural differences. A 'normal' behaviour cannot be defined with set boundaries. Every individual is different. Maybe she feels a little insecure, but then its normal for her because of the way people portray proposals coming from abroad.
I live in the US. In American culture, its considered a major red flag if the woman you're marrying is complaining about how much money you're spending on her. If someone tried to tell me that they were my gift from God and I need to appreciate them more, I'd show them a new definition of appreciation.
It doesn't work that way. Normalcy is not that hard to define at all. Being kind, good and understanding with each other are universal expectations.
This girl needs a serious talking to - if she doesn't want to be married then she needs to stop the charade right now. The wedding planning and festivities help you get TO the wedding day...but they don't help you create a home.
Let me be clear here - the people you feed on your wedding day are not around even a second after you walk out that banquet hall.
She is acting like she doesn't want to be married - she is just enjoying her wedding. This girl doesn't know that if she doesn't change, she may be throwing away thousands of dollars, countless hours of thoughtful planning, hurting peoples' feelings, ruining her own life and her potential husband's.
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I live in the US. In American culture, its considered a major red flag if the woman you're marrying is complaining about how much money you're spending on her.
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Yes, Reha. Youre right. But as I mentioned before, Pakistani men are raised to believe that all they have to offer a woman is gifts and financial security. Thats the only reason why a woman would be interested in them. and affection has to be earned from women that way.
I suggested this before and it offended a lot of people. Its good that a woman has stated the same
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I live in the US. In American culture, its considered a major red flag if the woman you're marrying is complaining about how much money you're spending on her. If someone tried to tell me that they were my gift from God and I need to appreciate them more, I'd show them a new definition of appreciation.
It doesn't work that way. Normalcy is not that hard to define at all. Being kind, good and understanding with each other are universal expectations.
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Being kind, good and understanding themselves can't be defined by set boundaries :) everybody has their own view of kind, good and understanding.