I'm a proud Pakistani woman (born there, raised there, educated there) who is making over $6500 a month with my "Pakistani" degree. Who are YOU to judge Pakistani/Desi men and MILs and even Pakistani women in general?
Have you ever heard goraas stories? What their wives/husbands go through with all the cheating and lying and all? Haven't you seen all the drama on Maury and Jerry Springer and the rest of the talk-shows?? **Our issues are very small comparatively, **Grow up everyone. /end rant
First of all--those shows are fake.
second of all--I thank our lucky stars that our women still have some ghairat and will never end up questioning who out of 20 men teh father of their baby is.
Ugh!! Why are the poor MILs all put in the same category?
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Have you ever heard goraas stories? What their wives/husbands go through with all the cheating and lying and all? Haven't you seen all the drama on Maury and Jerry Springer
Lesson #2
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Oh and another thing, Whats with all this attitude here from American/UK born Pakistani women saying their MILs are jaahil and evil and categorizing all Pakistani men as Mama's boys.... oh please, get over your superiority complex
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I'm a proud Pakistani woman (born there, raised there, educated there) who is making over $6500 a month with my "Pakistani" degree. Who are YOU to judge Pakistani/Desi men and MILs and even Pakistani women in general?
PCG, I was working in Pakistan also (before my marriage) and hence I said "I GOT". I didn't say my parents gave me.... you assume too much.
Secondly, I initiated the discussion with my husband-to-be and we both are well-educated, open-minded individuals. He also said I'll buy it myself if you don't want to. Anyways, you're clearly biased, based on what you've seen around you so I won't waste my breath anymore.
To all the girls who are still unmarried, please please go with an open-mind into a marital relationship. Please be tolerant **and **diplomatic, learn to forgive and forget, as our older generation might not be that flexible and it is US who can change things, by being better Daughter-in-laws, by raising better sons who respect women and by slowly changing things.
You can't just go into a house and start acting like the owner, take things slowly..... it takes time to establish yourself. Just like it takes time to develop a good friendship. Thats what my mom taught me and I'm glad she did.
no man, what i gather from her post n from her being "americanized" is that by nurses she meant hired help, help that can be given by sons n daughters. not the specialized help. jeez
Hm.. if you have a hired nurse to come home and help, its usually because there is a medical necessity that cannot be fulfilled by family.
Usually, insurance is stingy about hired home help, so they don't cover for things unless its really bad and really necessary.
Which is why I didn't respond to your post. You think I have a superiority complex - fine. I'm calling it like I see it. I see enough man a-holes hovering on this website, and I hear enough stories from the women here to prove that Pakistanis have a MAJOR social problem on their hands. To ignore it and not want to talk about it, is well, its our loss as a community.
I would have said more, but in the end, it would just get me banned, because that's just how it works here. :) But in the end, between me and you and previous things that have happened, I'm well aware of how supportive you are of females. As long as she keeps her mouth shut, she makes a good paki wife, like a few here. Not all of us are like that.
You talked about your mother initially. You said she taught you a lot. I'm agreeing. What's the problem with that?
Learn to READ please. I said "it takes time to establish yourself. Just like it takes time to develop a good friendship.** Thats what my mom taught me and I'm glad she did.**"
I never said my mom taught me a lot.
I'm outta here anyways, back to work.
LOL, good job with the simplification.
Now I'm ready for the gola baari from the women with superiority complexes :D
ummm, i think you missed the point completely, otherwise you would not be grinning...
Which is why I didn't respond to your post. You think I have a superiority complex - fine. I'm calling it like I see it. I see enough man a-holes hovering on this website, and I hear enough stories from the women here to prove that Pakistanis have a MAJOR social problem on their hands. To ignore it and not want to talk about it, is well, its our loss as a community.
I would have said more, but in the end, it would just get me banned, because that's just how it works here. :) But in the end, between me and you and previous things that have happened, I'm well aware of how supportive you are of females. As long as she keeps her mouth shut, she makes a good paki wife, like a few here. Not all of us are like that.
and PCG misses the point too...otherwise you would not be on this bhashan trip and sarcasm about how things work here. But then what would I know, according to you I am the same person as Cheegum ;)
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I would encourage both of you to go read the specific sentences I had quoted, in the order they were quoted, and then you will understand the reason for the smile in the PS.
