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wow, what a post PCG!
may be few differences here and there but over all i respect your post and i really really like it.
cuz “Respect is Earned”
keep up the good word of spreading wisdom. :k:
The thing is, a guy who has got number 1, 2 , 3 and 5 covered, he will not want someone so bitter toward men to be the mother of his kids (see 4), not if he is using his brain. This should not be rocket science either.
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Judging from http://www.paklinks.com/gs/life-relationships/352386-what-cute-meaningful-acts-made-your-marriage-special.html , I now know women want men to…
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Not to disturb them in mornings.
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do domestic chores.
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take care of children.
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appreciate them for all the domestic chores and taking care of children.
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Constant reminders of one’s loyalty.
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^you forgot to mention:
- Buy them expensive gifts:snooty:
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its very easy to make a woman happy.. belive me its very easy. You just need to be a bit tricky :D
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Fairy-tale put it nicely. Its not hard to fool a girl. And despite what you girls say you want, you all know much of the time looserest of guys are succesful in pulling you.
However- PCG- I would say what makes you fink a dude wid all that education and money would go for err a mere you.
hehe :slaphead:
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Get a maid, cook. driver. guard, and personal massuese
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Shower her with expensive presents everyday
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Take her out every alternate day
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Learn to purchase everything she sets her eyes and heart upon.
That’s all..we’re very simple creatures, and hardly demanding.
Ok, I'm sick of hearing from guys - oh women, we never know what you're thinking, how are we supposed to read your minds....blah blah whine whine whine.
Let me lay it out for you clowns:
Get an edu-ma-cation. Get refined. Learn some good vocabulary. Learn to speak a full sentence in proper English grammar. Have a degree. Not an associate's - that's BS. Jaahil Aunties can do associates. You better have a bachelor's. You better have some further qualifying education - PhD, MD, JD, MBA, whatever. Anything that can qualify you for a 50,000+ job.
Get a job. Earn enough to pay bills and provide some minor luxuries at least for a wife, and be able to afford diapers. You're going to need them.
Cut the cord. You love your mother. We love our mothers. We get it. But she needs to stay out of your home. You are an adult. Start acting like it. Make your own decisions. Pay your own bills. Become independent. Try leaving home for college - that always helps. Try living on your own for a while - you'll gain more respect for things, and you'll learn to work hard for yourself.
Look for the right qualities in a woman. Not - yeah I can bang HER. Jeez louise. Be able to be her friend. Try being her friend, and see if that works out for you - can you tolerate her talking? You like having conversations with her? Would you want HER to be the mother of your kids? Basically, use your own brain.
After you marry with her. Stay with her. She may be annoying. Maybe she farts in her sleep. Maybe she tells you your sister's face looks like a mudpie and even if it actually does look like a mudpie, so what? Maybe you think her brother needs to lose 10 lbs. Shut up. Deal with it. Talk it out with her. Agree to move to a place where both of you are far away from inlaws. And do not under any circumstance leave her or act like a d*ck, because somehow our culure and religion gave YOU the upper hand. So be responsible, and act like a real man.
I don't know girls - is this rocket science? Judging how desi men are these days, you would think it is.
Good luck finding a nice guy who'll bear all this crap !!
Ok, I'm sick of hearing from guys - oh women, we never know what you're thinking, how are we supposed to read your minds....blah blah whine whine whine.
Let me lay it out for you clowns:
- After you marry with her. Stay with her. She may be annoying. Maybe she farts in her sleep. Maybe she tells you your sister's face looks like a mudpie and even if it actuall does look like a mudpie, so what? Maybe you think her brother needs to lose 10 lbs. Shut up. Deal with it. Talk it out with her. Agree to move to a place where both of you are far away from inlaws. And do not under any circumstance leave her or act like a d*ck, because somehow our culure and religion gave YOU the upper hand. So be responsible, and act like a real man.
But why should the guy tolerate the wife telling him his sis looks like a mudpie, but shut up abt HER brother who needs to loose weight?... Hypocrisy? :p Better - They should both just shut up abt each others inlaws and there will be peace!
Well what do women want , pop goes the weasel
Recently I have been told by some one that I cannot afford her , and mind it this statement was made for a guy who makes more than 100k ...
I don't think in this time and era , any of them - looking for a genuine companionship. its much better to Pray at the porcelain altar rather than starting a relationship thesedays .
Maybe she tells you your sister's face looks like a mudpie and even if it actually does look like a mudpie, so what? Maybe you think her brother needs to lose 10 lbs. Shut up. Deal with it. Talk it out with her. Agree to move to a place where both of you are far away from inlaws. And do not under any circumstance leave her or act like a d*ck, because somehow our culure and religion gave YOU the upper hand. So be responsible, and act like a real man.
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So you mean find a common ground to biatch about your inlaws , poke fun out of them to make your relationship healthy :)
where I think , you both should be respecting your inlwas ... As you get what you give !
Being a Real man doesn't means that you have to support your wife / mother , whether she is right or wrong ...
if they are right , they are right , when they are wrong - they are wrong
A real man shouldn't biased or blind in love !
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My dear man if her statement is that you can't afford her, she is rubbish anyway. A woman who uses a monetary descriptor with regard to herself, simply cheapens her own value. Not worth it. Seriously is she a whore that she has a monetary value?
My dear man if her statement is that you can't afford her, she is rubbish anyway. A woman who uses a monetary descriptor with regard to herself, simply cheapens her own value. Not worth it. Seriously is she a whore that she has a monetary value?
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No I don't recommend ma behen gaalian.
But if anything is said in anger then fine, forgive and move on. Just like you don't disown blood relatives because they said something mean , likewise your spouse is your family and you have a responsibility to them.
Divorce is not the answer in those cases because she will take you for a monetary ride especially if there's children. You pay over 1000 per month for child suport with a halfway decent job.
maam, I can see where watching too much American TV can put a thought like that in your mind. Its true that you can get away with saying whatever about someones sister and mother here in the US. But, a mere sentence can land you in big trouble with a desi man.
A mere sentence is also be used to divorce you.
and i can see where watching too many pakistani punjabi movies can put a thought like THAT in your head.
i never said saying something like that is right, no wife should say that (without a reason) but if she does, her husband should reply verbally, not physically.
maam, I can see where watching too much American TV can put a thought like that in your mind. Its true that you can get away with saying whatever about someones sister and mother here in the US. But, a mere sentence can land you in big trouble with a desi man.
A mere sentence is also be used to divorce you.
BD this needs a whole new thread. As pakistanis we have that issue. Where we think we are all Changaiz khan's blood. How could some one said some thing to our face what we didn't like.
I mean If my older brother took care of me all his life, what if said some thing nasty when I annoyed him too much?????
I have heard a million time from my family "tum ny us waqat yeh kaha tha"
I tell them "haa--tum mery bahi ho--mera khoon ho---eger tum sy naheen share karoon ga to kis sy karoon ga----dobara bhi kahoon ga"
We do have this huge ISSUE to destroy evey thing based on shallow face value of a little nasty event.
We need not to forget the person.
I've seen how people leave their parents alone here (in USA) and also in Pakistan, when they need their kids the most. Its not fair to the parents.
But yeah, MILs should be more tolerant and accepting of the fact that their sons are now married and let them enjoy their married lives and not interfere (like mine). Also, sons need to let their moms know that they support their wives 100% and now moms better respect their DILs too.
But this whole business of the guy should leave the parents and set up the wife in a separate home is just not fair to the parents who raised their kids and sacrificed a lot selflessly in the process. At least one son should keep the parents with him, especially in their old age. And if they don't have sons, their daughters should be allowed by their husbands to keep them nearby or in their home (which I've seen some families doing and I think its great)
I would not respect any guy who didn't care about his parents.... PERIOD. He has to be man enough to balance out both parents' and wives' expectations without hurting any feelings on either side.
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^He should be responsible enough to realize that AND so do the other two parties (inlaws and bahu), they all need to behave and find a mature way to survive together.
leave my parents who were always there for me. leave my mother who carried me for nine months, went thru all that pain, changed my diapers, taught me how to walk, how to read, how to write, who always took care for me when ever I got sick, who cooked my meals 3 times what ever I wanted for more than 20 years, who did my laundry, who ironed my cloths, who… forget it.
Have you seen those threads and blogs ppl post pictures and talk abt their children and feel proud. I cannot doubt their love for their children. those women who work and take care of their new borns aswell, getting up at nights countless times.
you tell me to leave my parents when they need me for who .. . . . . .
lets say a girl like you who rants abt litrally every thing. lol
no thankyou, am better off alone 