Re: Full of advise looser.
Knight, everyone is entitled to defining success differently based on their definition. People goals are not necessarily to chase higher ranks. Their priorities could be spending a well-balanced life where they don't need to deal with too much work stress and have enough time for the family or other things that they love... Being extremely rich comes with bad consequences and I have seen it in the family. Some people can't get out of their situations who are doing least desired jobs because they have tried their best. You can't compare people with one another because everyone possess different skills. Some people are born smart, some people struggle to become smart, some people can't comprehend at all, some people have pure bad luck, and others have disabilities.
If you were to ask my definition of success, I'd look up to the person who is higher than me but it is not gonna be the same for my brother and I am Ok with his mentality. We as humanbeings need to learn how to coexist and accept others. Let's stop acting like animals by degrading those people who has less than us and be thankful to God for what we have.... Yes, the lazy people can go really far in life if they don't procrastinate. My post is not about slackers rather I am discussing the ones who really try hard but couldn't gain success.
Socrates is one of my influences in life and he defines success as happiness, what people want out of life is definitely different, here is how it goes for me, I make short term, medium term and long term goals, if I beat my goals I am happy, what my strategy gave me is beyond what I had ever imagined. This is how it goes, you make personal, social, spiritual, financial, physical goals. You make plans and strategy to meet your goals, you reassess and strategize periodically. One of the goals the course facilitator shared with us that she wants to have better relations with her children, do we ever plan our relationships with our children. What I planned for my children needed a lot of time and energy, we sat and thought as to how we will do this and decided to completely stop socializing, that freed up 30 hrs a month, since N has to drive them around we decided to let the house stay dirty, maybe many days just sammich. I have planned my relationship with N 20 yrs from now IA. You may see me as Joe Blow right now but my goal is to see my children with world fame, the 16 yr old is ripped and shredded better than any one in Hollywood and Bollywood and that happened by planning and learning from winners, he has modelling agencies circling after him, but we won't allow that yet and it has to be his decision.
there are a couple of families that observing us has changed their lives. Humans and Elephants are the only two species that learn only by observing. my boys coach is my biggest hero, they are dirt poor but happy and have other areas of success. She has two toddlers and her husband works out of town, she would be out in the river in freezing temps with the toddlers at 5 am
