Ok let me bring some seriousness to this conversation by sticking to the point. Couple of things that I do agree with from the first post.
Success in life has little to do with education and more with the right mindset. Both Steve Jobs and Bill Gates were college drop outs and probably had double PhD s working for them.
It's kind of hard to take advice from the people who have no fruit on the tree. It's like single guppans giving out advice on how to deal with mil and sil issues
The real issue that I see is not the fact that the advisor is broke or poor or likes to give advice, as he might be advising from his failures in life. We learn more from our mistakes than from our victories. Problem is that he carries a bad and bitter attitude. Now that is definitely an issue. OP should only focus on that and not on any other aspect of the person's personality.
You are probably right about that, it is menial considering that he has a masters degree and in the province we live in has the lowest unemployment rate in North America. If it is poor economy than it is fine to drive a cab with a PHD degree, but if you are driving it because you got fired for being rude to coworkers than I consider it menial.
All this proves is that he has problems. Most likely problems that could be overcome if his family and friends were to take a keen interest and help him. But if everyone takes your approach and condemns him then why would he want to change his ways?
What good example have you set for him to want to be a better person?
Ok let me bring some seriousness to this conversation by sticking to the point. Couple of things that I do agree with from the first post.
Success in life has little to do with education and more with the right mindset. Both Steve Jobs and Bill Gates were college drop outs and probably had double PhD s working for them.
It's kind of hard to take advice from the people who have no fruit on the tree. It's like single guppans giving out advice on how to deal with mil and sil issues
The real issue that I see is not the fact that the advisor is broke or poor or likes to give advice, as he might be advising from his failures in life. We learn more from our mistakes than from our victories. Problem is that he carries a bad and bitter attitude. Now that is definitely an issue. OP should only focus on that and not on any other aspect of the person's personality.
Agreed.
regarding bold part: I'm sure that the bad and bitter attitude has a root cause that can be addressed....whether it be through relatives or through therapy.
Ok let me bring some seriousness to this conversation by sticking to the point. Couple of things that I do agree with from the first post.
Success in life has little to do with education and more with the right mindset. Both Steve Jobs and Bill Gates were college drop outs and probably had double PhD s working for them.
It's kind of hard to take advice from the people who have no fruit on the tree. It's like single guppans giving out advice on how to deal with mil and sil issues
The real issue that I see is not the fact that the advisor is broke or poor or likes to give advice, as he might be advising from his failures in life. We learn more from our mistakes than from our victories. Problem is that he carries a bad and bitter attitude. Now that is definitely an issue. OP should only focus on that and not on any other aspect of the person's personality.
Thank you for trying to bring decorum to the thread, some people have behavioral challenges towards learning. Huge egoes and inability to connect actions and choices to consequences, he has been told many a times, he is very skilled in his profession and work also offered him counselling but he refused. Sometimes if you try to guide people they get very offended.
At work we are required to mentor juniors as long as they bring a good attitude towards learning, we are required to not waste any time on uncoachable employees.
He is in his 40s now, if he was willing to change his ways he would have done it by now.
It is 'loser' not "looser" in the context you have used the word here.
At least get your spellings right when looking down on people for having an opinion despite doing "menial jobs" like driving a cab etc..
Sorry about the spelling, luckily I never had to use this word before, absolutely nothing wrong with having an opinion nothing wrong with that at all, the way you overbearingly shove that opinion down someones throat is what matters, you may not like what I have to say but the right to occupy someones time with advice has to be earned. The guy who came to check my furnace was in my showhome for 5 min and charged 170 dollars, would you recommend a driving instructer that has lost his license for traffic infractions.
At work we are required to mentor juniors as long as they bring a good attitude towards learning, we are required to not waste any time on uncoachable employees.
He is in his 40s now, if he was willing to change his ways he would have done it by now.
I get to hear all kinds of annoying advice myself in gatherings. I'll do one of two things - either smile and nod or challenge the advice (interchangeable with lecture) giver.
One of my best friend is a taxi driver, he educated one of his daughters to be a physician and one a speech therapist, we are talking about possibly hooking up our nephew with the speech therapist. The kind of vulgarities you have posted about my family and general dishonorable behavior you display does no good for your familys image
When I see a better man than myself, I will admit to it. I consider him a much better man than myself as he worked much harder to raise his family. I will pay to listen to his advise.
I get to hear all kinds of annoying advice myself in gatherings. I'll do one of two things - either smile and nod or challenge the advice (interchangeable with lecture) giver.
The thing is that so much time energy and effort hs to be put into doing the dawat and this person ruins it for everyone. We all work very hard and get together to relax. Good advise though, I will keep it in mind.
I hardly challenge the advice, unless it comes in the form of personal attack or an insult.
When I challenge advice, one of two things usually happens--they'll either see my viewpoint or they'll either refrain from giving advice that they suspect I'll challenge.
When I challenge advice, one of two things usually happens–they’ll either see my viewpoint or they’ll either refrain from giving advice that they suspect I’ll challenge.
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I agree with your methodology too. I would rather have them stop giving me advice.