Re: Four Marriages for women!!!
"You will never be able to do perfect justice between wives even if it is your ardent desire. [4:129]" This is a reference from Quranic verse. I am sorry darling but Allah knows better than us. He suggested people to get married once only if you can't do justice. The rights of 2,3,4 wives have limitations that are hardly met these days. Do not incline too much to one of them (by giving her more of your time and provision) so as to leave the other hanging. If men are marrying after lust, they are already doing a gunnah by betraying their first wife in regards to treating her unfairly.
Don't forget the rest of it. I'm sure you made an honest mistake.
"So do not incline completely [toward one] and leave another hanging"
So you won't be able to treat a beautiful wife, like an old wife, but don't neglect the old wife, for she is still your wife. Doesn't cancel out 4:3.
No one is gonna be happy if her husband takes on a second wife, Ghost. Make all the arguments you want, it's a heinous thing to do. It's one thing if youre entire community is under genocide, which it essentially was during the time of the prophet , during which the provision was made to take on extra women. But that's not something that applies to today's society necessarily, and you see when there is no durress of survival on a population, polygamy becomes fairly tasteless.
Except that there are women, Arab women, who live under such arrangements. Are you calling something that is allowed according to Islam, heinous?
The provision for four wives was not made because of genocide, it was made to curb the men at the time, who had up to 8 or 9 wives. Don't forget that Islam is an Arabic religion.
Again, my point is not to defend polygamy. If you've read any of my other posts you would see that I'm not very religious. My point is to show the contradiction between supposed faith, and practiced culture. The difference between you and me is that I'm not trying to use Islam to justify my opposition to polygamy.
Do I think men should take second wives? No, one is enough.
