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Fuzool mein ziada khush na hoein 
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if the 1st and 2nd are YES, rest is redundant as you already got a gem of a husband.
Yup because if anything more was required than many guys could not get married. hee hee
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pfft…:halo:
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achcha begum 
an intelligent come back from a pakistani woman ..
qiyamat qareeb hai bhaa’iyon ..
tee hee
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awww 
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It's not unreasonable and re: your ponit of entitlement, well I don't see the majority of girls here being unreasonable. No body wants to live hand to mouth/paycheck to paycheck for the rest of their lives, and attraction has nothing to do with it
Men don't marry women who tehy are not attracted to--physical beauty and being attracted are two totally different things, so a woman may not be in that 50% but that doesnet mean shes any less deserving of being married or being loved
I don't expect women to want to live paycheck to paycheck. But if they want a man to foot the bill entirely, then they have to have something to offer. For me, it'd take an attractive woman, but I concede other men may place premiums on other traits. Of course, if the woman brings in her share of the income, then attractiveness/"other desirable traits" are much less of an issue.
I almost feel like a union negotiator from Wisconsin. =D
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It's $15k per person, so with 1 kid, $45k. If the man contributes all of this (unlikely), then the women better be a very good mother lol.
Why is it unlikely for the man to contribute all of this?
45 K is around 3.75K/ month.
That's not unreasonable if you factor in the rent/bills/food/medical costs. These aren't luxuries we are talking about, these are necessities and the guy should be able to provide. If he can't for some reason, both of them would have to work. He can't really expect for them to live on like that if he can't provide that much especially if they're living in the West, where everything is so $$$
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^ Are you looking to get married or hired?
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^ looking into getting hired as a husband? It's very much like a job if you ask me.
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^ Strange job, I'm paying money instead of getting it!
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^ awww don't be sad... you do get stuff back in return. A dotting wife, a loving family... a lifetime of memories to cherish.
You don't mean to say you wanted all that for free, did you?
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and warm food and big hugs :)
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Deserve? What makes a man deserving of anything if he feels he is doing his wife a favor by providing? If a man possesses that type of an attitude, he doesnt deserve anything…as in nothing.
30K and this is what women are supposed to deal with? Meaning live life paycheck to paycheck and also put up with this attitude? No thank you. A man needs to be putting more on the table if he expects a woman to stick around despite the negativity.
Not worth it.
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How many things out of, lets say a list of ten, should be ticked when deciding to marry a man or when you decided to marry him. Some wise aunties say that even if six of these things are ticked you should go for it. The list could look something like this: (of course it may be different for everyone acc. to their priorities)
Muslim Pakistani-origin education height good job/ income good family background (to assure he's shareef, good-natured etc. etc.) nice/loving mom and dad (would be saas sussar) you find him attractive in appearance possible family setup you'll be living in (single unit or joint or whatever) Conservative/ moderate/ liberal (acc. to your preference i.e will have no problem with u working etc.)
How many and which of these need to be absolutely ticked for you to seriously consider marrying him?
obviously a Muslim with decent life style going good with society
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I kind of want to scratch that list and make my own. Rebel am I.
Good lover. I'm 28, certain things matter as you come closer to 30.
Will make a good father - in other words, will actually pay attention to his kids and love them to tears, and will GUIDE THEM and TEACH them GOOD THINGS.
Protective
A good friend
NICE
Flirtatious - and not any fake bakwaas. Like real stuff. He compliments and he means it.
Enjoys spending his time with me.
We have fun.
Believes in one God.
Believes in Islam and actually tries implementing those virtues into his life. Doesn't have to be perfect at it.
Will like holding my hand. Randomly.
Cares what I think about.
Is content just sitting next to me, and being in my presense. Like any good friend.
IS A GOOD PERSON.
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You put it perfectly… however! in an arranged marriage scenario you can’t find out about all these things beforehand can you…? You can infer some and investigate others but for many you’ll have to wait till you’re actually engaged to that person or seriously committed. This is based on a general assumption of course. What would you do and make sure of in such a situation than 
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Don't worry, your parents are obviously better than you at picking a partner according to your preferences, especially in the "good lover" category. I'm sure they'll pay special attention to that one.
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I beg to differ, I know people including myself who have lived on less than 30K..its enough for a single person or a couple with no kids, but it's still a good starting point.
I was saying most of us here, the lifestyles that a lot of are accustomed to doesn't fit in 30K. Savings, luxuries, social life, comfort tales a toll. Everyone can prolly survive, even the ones unemployed but it throws away the lifestyle.
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I dont know how that would make me shallow? I mean I'd be earning a six figure myself to live the life I want, based on the education, skill-set that is expected of me. I dont think there's anything shallow about yearning to make a decent earning :D
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I was saying most of us here, the lifestyles that a lot of are accustomed to doesn't fit in 30K. Savings, luxuries, social life, comfort tales a toll. Everyone can prolly survive, even the ones unemployed but it throws away the lifestyle.
That's true
I dont know how that would make me shallow? I mean I'd be earning a six figure myself to live the life I want, based on the education, skill-set that is expected of me. I dont think there's anything shallow about yearning to make a decent earning
I don't think that's shallow at all. Besides, my post was directed at Sandals post which suggested that **only **attractive women deserve to have husbands who earn that much. IMO that is being shallow and like Reha said....no woman should put up with that kind of pathetic attitude!