How many things out of, lets say a list of ten, should be ticked when deciding to marry a man or when you decided to marry him. Some wise aunties say that even if six of these things are ticked you should go for it. The list could look something like this: (of course it may be different for everyone acc. to their priorities)
Muslim
Pakistani-origin
education
height
good job/ income
good family background (to assure he’s shareef, good-natured etc. etc.)
nice/loving mom and dad (would be saas sussar)
you find him attractive in appearance
possible family setup you’ll be living in (single unit or joint or whatever)
Conservative/ moderate/ liberal (acc. to your preference i.e will have no problem with u working etc.)
How many and which of these need to be absolutely ticked for you to seriously consider marrying him?
Muslim
good job/ income
you find him attractive in appearance
possible family setup you'll be living in (single unit or joint or whatever)
Conservative/ moderate/ liberal (acc. to your preference i.e will have no problem with u working etc.)
Not fussed about** any** of the others.. (job/income isn't really a big deal for me either but I wouldn't marry someone who didn't work or do something constructive)..
Btw I don't think a good family background can assure he's shareef, good-natured etc., I've seen plenty of exceptions to this..
Muslim
Pakistani-origin
education
good job/ income
nice/loving mom and dad (would be saas sussar)
you find him attractive in appearance
possible family setup you'll be living in (single unit or joint or whatever)
Conservative/ moderate/ liberal (acc. to your preference i.e will have no problem with u working etc.)
The only thing wouldn't matter is height, as long as i find him attractive in appearance.
muslim .. haz to b
education .. nott goin wiv a man huz not educated properly .. or doesnt noe english ..
good family background .. he has to hav a clear background .. al gudd ppl ..
nyc lovin mom n dad .. tha has to b .. otherwise .. i cryyy .. :(
goodjob ..
Muslim - definitely
Pakistani-origin - defeinitely
education - at least graduate (as I am a graduate myself)
good job/ income - decent income to support the future family
nice/loving mom and dad (would be saas sussar) - always welcome, but this thing can only be known after marriage
you find him attractive in appearance - a plus point, but nature matters more which can be know from the interactions before marriage
muslim, of a decent height (taller than me i guess), similar personality/likings/views, pretty decent himself, earns okay, respects my family (as would i to his)
Muslim - Must
education- at least a bachelor's degree
good job/ income - not as such income but should have a good job.
good family background (to assure he's shareef, good-natured etc. etc.) Yes and maybe sometimes even their own family dont know about them!
Conservative/ moderate/ liberal - Yes he must pray at least 5 times a day.
possible family setup you'll be living in (single unit or joint or whatever)- prefer single unit always (seen this through experience!)
you find him attractive in appearance - ok cause im not too good looking either!
muslim .. haz to b
*education .. nott goin wiv a man huz not educated properly .. or doesnt noe english .. *
good family background .. he has to hav a clear background .. al gudd ppl ..
nyc lovin mom n dad .. tha has to b .. otherwise .. i cryyy .. :(
goodjob ..
all these matter the rest i dont mind ..
Same can be said about you! I don't think you should demand if you speak the way you type. :)
Origin: Pakistani, Saudi Arab, UAE or Arabian. (As long as he looks like my habibi, thats what matters) :P
education: A well educated decent man who has atleast graduated from Uni.
height: Yes, Indeed. Must be a bit older than me.
good job/ income: I don't mind much, but he **MUST **have a nice decent job to which he can support his family.
good family background: Ofcourse
nice/loving mom and dad : Ofcourse.
*you find him attractive in appearance **Duhhhhhhh! Aakhir mai jo meray habibi jo huay :P :P *wwink wink
possible family setup you'll be living in: I won't mind living with his parents or single. As long as he and I are close to each other thats what matters. Bas mai unko apni aankhon ke samne dekhna chahti hoon. :$
Conservative/ moderate/ liberal: If he has a good job, I don't want to work. I won't mind working only 2 days. Thats it, no more than 2 days of work for me. But Allah forbids, if bad time comes on us then I will support him by working.
Here are few things that I would like to add: He must respect my parents. He must travel with me. He MUST MUST MUST MUST MUST MUST PUSH ME TOWARDS PRAYING. And also he must take me to Masjid for Isha prayer. :D
Muslim-a must :D Pakistani-origin-I'd prefer that he be a Pakistani but it's not an absolute necessity. education-atleast a Bachelor's degree height-taller than me (I'm pretty short though) good job/ income-he should be employed and have some sort of income good family background (to assure he's shareef, good-natured etc. etc.)-a must nice/loving mom and dad (would be saas sussar)-well before marriage you can't always really tell what your inlaws will be like but obviously I'd like to have nice inlaws you find him attractive in appearance-he should be okay-looking. Personality is a lot more important. possible family setup you'll be living in (single unit or joint or whatever)-Prefer a single unit but I suppose I could accept living in a joint system Conservative/ moderate/ liberal (acc. to your preference i.e will have no problem with u working etc.)-Preferably with liberal views
muslim .. haz to b
education .. nott goin wiv a man huz not educated properly .. or doesnt noe english ..
good family background .. he has to hav a clear background .. al gudd ppl ..
nyc lovin mom n dad .. tha has to b .. otherwise .. i cryyy .. :(
goodjob ..
all these matter the rest i dont mind ..
men also consider most of these things when marrying no? except may be the income, in-laws and family set-up part since these don’t directly apply to them.
men also consider most of these things when marrying no? except may be the income, in-laws and family set-up part since these don’t directly apply to them.
