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^It's not a matter of what should or shouldn't happen, but a matter of what does happen. I'm sure we are all aware that the rishta market places an emphasis on earnings for th guys, and youth and prettiness for the girls. Yet when I present it in this thread people are up in arms. Sounds like denial to me. And then we wonder why the good rishtas never materialize.
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muslim
good education
height - taller than me by just 3 inches cause I'm already a tall girl
good job/income
nice loving mom/dad
attractive
I prefer single unit
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Don't worry, your parents are obviously better than you at picking a partner according to your preferences, especially in the "good lover" category. I'm sure they'll pay special attention to that one.
My parents were after each other like two puppies in love since they were like 10. Or whenever it was they hit puberty. Theirs may be a unique experience, I don't know, but I think people back in their day were generally more open to love marriages because of the whole hippie era. At least, it wasn't uncommon in the urbanized in Karachi.
I know they were totally horny for each other. They're 60 years old and they're STILL HORNY for each other. Believe me. At least a few times per week, they shut the door and lock it before going to bed, and I know, because I can't get in and use my mom's face wash before going to bed.
You have no clue how embarassing this is. I'm 28, and my parents have a better sex life than I do. And they're Pakistani to top it off.
I can only HOPE that other couples are this functional.
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A few times a week at 60 is... extraordinary. Good for your dad. If I'm reading it right, it was a love marriage. Just confirms that in arranged marriages, parents don't care to pick a "good lover" for you, just a good provider, sometimes not even that. To put it another way, in arranged marriages, there is better arrangement, and in love marriages, there is more love.
Your post seems to suggest that your parents have a better sex life because they are more active. I'm not sure what makes a good sex life for a woman, my understanding has been no sex = good sex life. I'm reluctant to change this assumption, it explains a lot of men and womens behavior very well.
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They both work out.
I don't think it's a bad thing really. More couples need to infuse some Cupid action into their marriages, maybe they'd be less annoying.
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TBesides, my post was directed at Sandals post which
oops, I didnt see the posters name, my bad...
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I'm not sure what makes a good sex life for a woman, my understanding has been no sex = good sex life. I'm reluctant to change this assumption, it explains a lot of men and womens behavior very well.
Dude how old are you???
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^21
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muslim good education height - taller than me by just 3 inches cause I'm already a tall girl good job/income nice loving mom/dad attractive I prefer single unit
I have yet to see a really tall Desi girl.
How tall are you?
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I have yet to see a really tall Desi girl.
Oh there are a few around. I know a few Desi girls near and over the 6' mark.
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Oh there are a few around. I know a few Desi girls near and over the 6' mark.
Oh yeah? I haven't really seen any 6ft plus. I know it is rare.
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I have three cousins who are all over 5’10" and I’m 5’9" 
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Ouch! Were same height. Lol.
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^21
Don't know where you're getting your ideas about women and sex life from.
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^Observing people's behavior and their comments.
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Muslim/Pakistani
.. Good Family...background
Education.. Job...
loving/caring blah blah blah
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Muslim -> a must
Pakistani-origin ->not only Pakistani origin but also a Karachite
education -> a must as well
height -> Shahid Afridi height <3
good job/ income -> ticked
good family background -> ticked
nice/loving mom and dad -> it depends if we live dnt live in a joint family then it doesnt really matter
you find him attractive in appearance -> not too important but shud be dekhne k qabil
possible family setup you'll be living in -> wud prefer separate
Conservative/ moderate/ liberal -> well depends im brought up in a conservative family but living in europe for the most of my lfie so able to cope with all kinds of situations
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^ All of that is too much to think about. He should be young, dumb, and easy on the eyes. Everything else is negotiable.
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Oh there are a few around. I know a few Desi girls near and over the 6' mark.
wow, a 6 foot desi girl. I must say that must look really unnatural. I don't think she would find many desi guys taller than that. For us, anything above 6' starts looking really ridiculous, almost like an elongated pole. Anything between 5'9 and 6'0 is a perfect height for a desi guy.
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I kind of want to scratch that list and make my own. Rebel am I.
Good lover. I'm 28, certain things matter as you come closer to 30. Will make a good father - in other words, will actually pay attention to his kids and love them to tears, and will GUIDE THEM and TEACH them GOOD THINGS. Protective A good friend NICE Flirtatious - and not any fake bakwaas. Like real stuff. He compliments and he means it. Enjoys spending his time with me. We have fun.
Believes in one God. Believes in Islam and actually tries implementing those virtues into his life. Doesn't have to be perfect at it.
Will like holding my hand. Randomly.
Cares what I think about.
Is content just sitting next to me, and being in my presense. Like any good friend.
IS A GOOD PERSON.
Your list of requirements, different as it might be compared to the rest, seems the most genuine and honest. It seems you are looking more for a life partner who you can share your life with than a business partner who can share his money with you. Ladies, use this as a lesson. When you start ticking off all the worldly requirements like education, job, money, height etc instead of qualities like honesty, loving, friend, life partner, you tick off guys who possess all these worldly qualities and much more but do want to share them with a person whose eyes are on only our money or education. God forbid, if we were to lose any of these qualities, you wouldn't even give us the time of day. We are not impressed by women who are only impressed by our worldly qualities, rather we want to know, are you capable of being faithful to us if all of it is lost due to any circumstances?.