Well then I suggest, dont make it easy for them, you should stick around in the living room or whichever room they socialise at and be a 'kebab in the haddi' :D
damm i am so tired, its haddi in the kebab.
yawn
Re: Roommate Dilemme Update
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*Originally posted by Hum Sa Ho To Samne Aaye: *
It's been a week since the Chakravortys have been residing in my now-cramped apartment. Mom and daughter have taken over the living room and dad sleeps in my roommates room. Contrary to the popular advice, I have not tasted any of their cuisine yet because uncle is on a strict diet which means they all live on boiled vegetables and rice.
Uncle and Aunty spend most of their day sleeping and don't go out much at all. They have limited fluency in English and Hindi which means I cannot talk to them much even if I want to.
They go to sleep at around 10 pm and wake up at 7 am. This is not a pleasant situation for me.
Somebody is always in the bathroom taking a 2 hour shower. I guess it runs in the family.
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I allpaud your efforts to accomodate your roommates parents (even though you are doing it with a grudge or unwantingly)
I just hope your roomie can appreciate your effort and accomodate you if and when your parents/family visit you.
regards,
Aejaz
how troublesome ...........................
I'm not letting my parents visit me in this cowtown. They'll get bored to death. And I dont want her to appreciate anything. Who cares. I just need my space. Oh well, at least I'm looking forward to visiting my own family next month, InshaAllah.
And no, I hate to be a haddi in the kabab. I'm trying to make their stay here as pleasant as possible. After all, I would want anyone to do the same for my parents.
Alhamdulillah, it's not "as" bad as I thought it would be. I mean I am sleeping on the floor because I had to give up the mattress but hey! now I have zero back pain! Hurray!!
quit complaining.:p
Actually its understandable.But hey they came to see their daughter let them have their way for a while.And why dont you go out? Visit some other friends or just go out by yourself.Have fun.
How many times do I have scream out that I live in a city where the only thing you can do when out is go to a strip bar, the casino or just stuff yourself with food. I don't have a car so what do you expect me to do? I do go biking but I can't do that all the time now can I. Plus I get tired and hungry from being at school all the day so I need to come home eventually.
Yeah, I just wanna whine. So sue me.
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*Originally posted by Hum Sa Ho To Samne Aaye: *
I'm not letting my parents visit me in this cowtown. They'll get bored to death. And I dont want her to appreciate anything. Who cares. I just need my space. Oh well, at least I'm looking forward to visiting my own family next month, InshaAllah.
And no, I hate to be a haddi in the kabab. I'm trying to make their stay here as pleasant as possible. After all, I would want anyone to do the same for my parents.
Alhamdulillah, it's not "as" bad as I thought it would be. I mean I am sleeping on the floor because I had to give up the mattress but hey! now I have zero back pain! Hurray!!
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I am sorry to say but you are Contradicting and agreeing with me all in one post!!!
1st you dont want appreciation
2nd you want the same for your parents.
Hmmm
I give up!!!!
I also said that there's no way my parents will be visiting me here. That was just an example of how I treat her parents. Didn't mean that she would actually have to behave that way with my parents if they show up, which they won't, InshaAllah.
I meant that I would want "anyone" to treat my parents in the same manner. Not necessarily my roommate.
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*Originally posted by Hum Sa Ho To Samne Aaye: *
How many times do I have scream out that I live in a city where the only thing you can do when out is go to a strip bar, the casino or just stuff yourself with food. I don't have a car so what do you expect me to do? I do go biking but I can't do that all the time now can I. Plus I get tired and hungry from being at school all the day so I need to come home eventually.
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You can go for a walk.Jog.Hmm just make yourself some food and go to your local park and have a picnic.
Or take a book and go out to read- since your friend's parents are always at your place. Im sure you can go to the mall? window shopping. And humsa Im sure you can take a bus.
And if all else fail- go visit some other friends, classmates or something.
Yes, come to the Whining Side 
Well anyway, at least you should be able to feel all nice and warm inside with the comfort of knowing that since you’ve made all these sacrifices for your roommate, you gotta be a real nice person 
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*Originally posted by Hum Sa Ho To Samne Aaye: *
How many times do I have scream out that I live in a city where the only thing you can do when out is go to a strip bar, the casino or just stuff yourself with food. I don't have a car so what do you expect me to do? I do go biking but I can't do that all the time now can I. Plus I get tired and hungry from being at school all the day so I need to come home eventually.
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At the end of the day, you want to come home and have your personal space and just relax in anyway you want. No amount of walking/jogging/browsing books could be a substitute for the feeling when you just let go in your cozy little place.
Humsa if I were you, I'd start reclaiming the place. The visitors would sooner or later realize that you are uncomfortable. Good luck.
I so totally agree with you LI. How long can I jog or window shop or read books outside? I just really love the feeling of coming home to peace and quiet. I'm really not a party animal and have a limited social circle.
Even if they do get the hint that I'm uncomfortable, what's gonna happen? Nothing. It's not like they're gonna move out or change their sleeping schedule for me. It's dumbass people like me that do these things for others, not the other way round.
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*Originally posted by Hum Sa Ho To Samne Aaye: *
Even if they do get the hint that I'm uncomfortable, what's gonna happen? Nothing. It's not like they're gonna move out or change their sleeping schedule for me. It's dumbass people like me that do these things for others, not the other way round.
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View this as an exercise in being more assertive.
Have a chat with your roomate. Tell her that you are regretting the decision and wish you could have some downtime in the flat/apartment. If your roomate has any deceny, she will get the point. You never know, the roomate and the visitors just might surprise you.
Alright ,but I think what you’re doing makes you an extremely caring person.There might come a time when you will need some help- hope this friend will come handy then.
And if you cant do anything else.Well then just put up with it.And hey its not forever.
And its not as bad as having your two female cousins taking your room,bathroom- and your pc.I had to go through that.
In such matters, it always pays to be un-nice.
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*Originally posted by LuxuryItem: *
In such matters, it always pays to be un-nice.
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I disagree.I mean roomies often have family visits.And its never just one of them all the time.I think its just part of student life.It doesnt hurt.And like I said there comes a time (sometimes) when you might be in that situation.
However if it really bothers you- go and talk to the friend.I agree with that.Theres no point in putting up with it,if you're so miserable.
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*Originally posted by Muslim_Queen: *
It doesnt hurt.And like I said there comes a time (sometimes) when you might be in that situation.
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Wrong. It does hurt and causes a great deal of inconvenience. Reciprocity is a bogus rationale!
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*Originally posted by Hum Sa Ho To Samne Aaye: *
I also said that there's no way my parents will be visiting me here. That was just an example of how I treat her parents. Didn't mean that she would actually have to behave that way with my parents if they show up, which they won't, InshaAllah.
I meant that I would want "anyone" to treat my parents in the same manner. Not necessarily my roommate.
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It boils down to 2 things,
1st How good is your relationship with your roomie???
2nd How long are her parents going to be there???
1st if its exceptionally good, put up and quit whining, if not worth it, put your foot down.
2nd if its short term put up and quit whining, if not put your foot down.
Either ways think what your roomie would feel if she knew you were lambasting her behind her back???