Agreed with Deme. I am actually so surprised to see that so many people here think its not wrong for someone to make a habit out of sending texts at midnight !
Once or occasionally , I can understand its fine to ignore .. but no matter what the content of the text messages , I would clearly question the intention of the message sender at that hour .
Infact , if that cousin's intentions were right at all , she wouldnt have made a halabaloo of this incident infront of Nad's nand ! she would have tried to understand the situation , since she herself is married ..
and I can bet , the cousin's own husband doesnt know what she is upto at midnight .. I dont think any husband or wife with a right mind in place would allow each other this kind of activity at an odd hour , that too , with the opposite gender !
OK SO A MARRied female cousin of my husbands sends forwaded messages all the time, not just to him, but all her cosuins.....not me though...hmmm, anyway my nand also said she sends same forwarded messages to her. thats fine. however she does this around midnight. and i dont like it. esp when kids are trying to slp, and his fones getting these messages, he hasnt saved her number so he asked me who is this number that keeps textn at night, it was hers i recnognised it. and he didnt like the late night ones either. so i asked her nicelt not to text at midnight as kids tryn slp, plus husband doesnt have female numbers saved in his fone except his sisters mum and me. she took offence and went and told this all to my nand and god know who else and thinks im unreasonable...
anyone else agree with me?
I always put my phone on silent, or vibrate, once I turn the lights off.
You mentioned the word 'female' in your title. Would that be ok if it was male cousin?
Khudara, it is not hormones. I know myself. Trust me on this, I will and have raised hell over such seemingly “minor” issues. Fuzzypeach said it so well above: “There are limits and boundaries that help safeguard a person from vices.”
Those limits and boundaries will be imposed, both on myself and the husband. It is an unspoken agreement naturally. What is bad for the goose is bad for the gander too. Think about it.
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I wouldn't be annoyed regardless of the gender. i would probably says "who is it?" etc and then forget about it.
I mean really who cares if we're up and have our phones with us then meh.
i would not have any problems at all if my spouse is receiving msgs (including fwd msgs) late at night from an opp or same gender. its their phone so i have nothing to do with what msgs are received and sent. moreover i trust my spouse so i know nothing is going to be wrong from their side. and if the msgs are disturbing me at night then i will tell my spouse to keep the phone on silent mode or use it in the other room.
if putting the phone on silent was not a viable solution for whatever reasons, why didn't the hubby directly tell the cousin to stop?
why did nadz have to step up/in?
her relationship with the in-laws is strained already......why ask for trouble?
Why are some of you making it such a HUGE deal? Like a life or death situation. Killing people because of texts? Seriously? LOL
Or maybe I'm just too laid back :/
I think it's not that of a big deal. If HE thinks it's inappropriate, HE should talk to her and request her to not send him texts at odd hours. Why do you have to be his amma and step in? Put your phones on silent and go to sleep. There are bigger issues in life than 'rate my kapray' texts.
No, this thread is not funny. Nadz raises a good question and I believe that those messages are not decent. If that was the case her husband would reply back to everyone along with his cousin’s husband. You know what I mean.
