OK SO A MARRied female cousin of my husbands sends forwaded messages all the time, not just to him, but all her cosuins…not me though…hmmm, anyway my nand also said she sends same forwarded messages to her. thats fine. however she does this around midnight. and i dont like it. esp when kids are trying to slp, and his fones getting these messages, he hasnt saved her number so he asked me who is this number that keeps textn at night, it was hers i recnognised it. and he didnt like the late night ones either. so i asked her nicelt not to text at midnight as kids tryn slp, plus husband doesnt have female numbers saved in his fone except his sisters mum and me. she took offence and went and told this all to my nand and god know who else and thinks im unreasonable…
You're right...it is annoying, but not a big enough deal in my book to call her out on it, especially considering how delicate your relationship is with your in laws anyway. I would have just rolled my eyes and let it go. As far as late night text alerts...silence mode.
The way she reacted on you telling her not to msg at night obviously proves she has no sense and kind of a woman who will make a mountain of a little pebble. So best thing for u is to ignore her completely o and you really did the right thing. regarding other people thinking unreasonable, if they talk to you on this mater tell them to talk with ur husband about this. This is kind of habit of in-laws they hold u guilty favoring their own family members. Wonder when people will start using their heads:smack:.
I hate the same freaky thing....difference was that my cousin wasnt married and started talkin with my hubby durin 00.00/01.00. She said that the did the same thing with others.... My hubby also got annoyed so one day i answerd her myself;) and told her to mind her own business and not to stalk him again -.-
lets see by deleting the number and hoping husband dont remember the number or throwing his mobile away or end the battery by playing games on his mobile
If it was your male cousin sending you forwarded text message at midnight, the inlaws would have raised hell and suna you dil khol kai …
so I think you have done the right thing telling that woman off specially when your husband also doesnt like it.
If your nand goes all ninja on you just tell her politely that its not morally correct to have this kind of behaviour and you had to inform that woman coz even your husband wasnt feeling comfortable about this . That should shut the nund up nicely.
And if you want to be evil, then send some forward messages to her phone at awkward hours and see how how she responds
If she was sending romantic kind of messages to your husband, it would be a matter of concern and then you would be right if you’d raise that problem. But creating such a big fuss about forwarded jokes that are sent to everyone in the family really is a non-issue. If your kids get disturbed by those SMS, there is a “Silent” option on mobile phones.
if the issue was the kids’ disturbance mainly, i’d rather silent the cell phone instead of telling off a cousin who I know does not have any bad intentions (she only forwards the messages and that too, to many people, right? )
I found it annoying more at your part to be so discourteous as telling her off this way. As much as she shouldn’t be really forwarding sms to her cousins, male and married too, (I wonder how does she really manage to spare time for that) but well maybe this is why she does this around midnight when she is free and can manage to do such a service to the mankind :hinna:
As everyone has said silent mode would be the easy way to take care of it. But if you guys like to leave your phones on in cases of emergencies, then it's a different matter. After your husband also agreed that it was annoying, he should have called his cousin himself (or text her) and told her to take him off her forwarded jokes list. You didn't even need to get involved in this, especially as noted above, you know how fragile your relationship is with your in laws.
Nadz, like a broken record, I will repeat myself....you need to think through your actions and pick and choose your battles. Especially with your husband's family since you don't have a good relationship with them to begin with!
Firstly, I have no idea why you would be annoyed by his married cousin sending him jokes! She's not sending him anything inappropriate is she? Not only that.....she's also sending it to other family members along with him! So your husband is not being "targeted" by this female cousin in any way. Maybe she doesn't send it to your b/c you two aren't that close. So what? Get over it!
One of my neighbors just has twins a few months ago. Both she and her husband put their phones on silence every-single-night at 8:00 p.m. b/c of the babies (they also have a 3 year old). I know this b/c they asked us if it would be ok for them to give our phone numbers to their immediate families in case a life/death type of emergency happened after 8:00 p.m. and someone needed to get a hold of them. And yes, they have told their families and close friends that their phones are on silence at 8:00, and in case of true emergencies, they (the families) would need to call me or my husband so we can go knock over at their door.
Yes you have every right to be annoyed as a mother with 2 small children. But the way you handled the situation was completely wrong. All you needed to do is ask your husband that he put his cell phone on silence every night when the kids are being put to sleep. Unless his job requires him to have him phone turned on and next to him throughout the night, there is no reason why he can't put it on silence.
Nadz: I can see, your every action is either reported to your MIL / SIL. In this case, you need to think out of the box solution. Like blocking cousin number. No one can know what really happened, and you will remain in a winning position.
Again, your number one issue in this case is to provide proper sleeping environment for your children and your husband is also not interested in her cousin as he never saved it in contact list, which shows your husband is unwilling to keep her as perm. contact. Go a head and block her number. You can find this feature in his cell, or you may contact to service provider.
OK SO A MARRied female cousin of my husbands sends forwaded messages all the time, not just to him, but all her cosuins.....not me though...hmmm, anyway my nand also said she sends same forwarded messages to her. thats fine. however she does this around midnight. and i dont like it. esp when kids are trying to slp, and his fones getting these messages, he hasnt saved her number so he asked me who is this number that keeps textn at night, it was hers i recnognised it. and he didnt like the late night ones either. so i asked her nicelt not to text at midnight as kids tryn slp, plus husband doesnt have female numbers saved in his fone except his sisters mum and me. she took offence and went and told this all to my nand and god know who else and thinks im unreasonable...
So best thing for u is to ignore her completely o and you really did the right thing. regarding other people thinking unreasonable, if they talk to you on this mater tell them to talk with ur husband about this. This is kind of habit of in-laws they hold u guilty favoring their own family members. Wonder when people will start using their heads:smack:.
thats kind of tough one.
