Feel so sad for her

[strawberriesncreme]

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Would you marry a man who shot blanks ?

[Afridi786]

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@lollypop_man

would u seriously consider marrying a penis less man? its not that easy is it.

lol, that silenced the ladies.

[Sehar]

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@lollypop_man

would u seriously consider marrying a penis less man? its not that easy is it.

With all due respect lollypop man (and Afridi), this girl lost her ovaries, not her vagina. You don’t need ovaries to have intercourse. A male equalivalent of ovaries would be testis. Please take bio101.

[Afridi786]

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okay, so if a guy didnt have the ability to impregnate you and you wanted to have your own children, would you marry him?
I want children...my own children...how can I do that if my wife to-be has had her ovaries removed?
BTW..Sehar I know..I just wanted to see the response...and whats the difference anyway...a man can't impregnate a woman if he doesnt have a penis even if he did have testis...what about that?

[cat-woman]

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Why don’t I see the enormity of the problem like everyone else When you started your story I was beginning to think she’d either died or was going to be ill or crippled for life. But by the grace of Allah she is healthy and living, who cares whether she can have kids or not or who will marry her or wont.

[WitchDr]

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@Afridi786

okay, so if a guy didnt have the ability to impregnate you and you wanted to have your own children, would you marry him? I want children...my own children...how can I do that if my wife to-be has had her ovaries removed? BTW..Sehar I know..I just wanted to see the response...and whats the difference anyway...a man can't impregnate a woman if he doesnt have a penis even if he did have testis...what about that?

awkward silence

[WitchDr]

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@PyariCgudia

I knew a guy once who lost his testis in a surgery. I can see so much sadness on his face…

** Like who wants to marry a guy with no balls?**

more suffocating silence

[lollypop_man]

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thanks for human anatomy cliffnotes. im sure there are a lot of men who wont mind parking their cars in a garage with no roof… but then why park it at all. just to use the garage door? makes no sense.

@~Sehar~

With all due respect lollypop man (and Afridi), this girl lost her ovaries, not her vagina. You don’t need ovaries to have intercourse. A male equalivalent of ovaries would be testis. Please take bio101.

[Muzna]

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@~Sehar~

I’m so totally with you here. Everyone keeps harping on how others should/will accept her, especially her future husband. What about her, how she feels, what her emotions are and how she is to cope with something like this? Everyone’s offering solutions on marriage, but the hell with that for now. Yes life is of most importance, obviously, but every tragedy has its own grieving level. I hope and pray that she’ll come out with the acceptance of whatever she’s lost, and realize that she’s no less a woman.

Thank God! Somebody understands what I’m trying to say.
Why do people think that marriage is the be all and the end all?

@parissenoor

those who lost hopes and dreams are old…no matter how old they are:clown:

i disagree…call me a dreamer, a utopian…but i don’t think all desi are chicken who have no pride and bow heads down no matter what crap their jahil mother is saying…no i do think there are desi guys who are educated, who have educated mothers maybe too, and who would behave with pride and moral and marry for love instead of old hindu traditions of caste and purity of the lineage:D

You are right parissenoor…all desis are not chickens without pride. Take a poll. An anonymous one that allows men to vote without revealing their names. See if your utopian attitude, which by the way, I admire, is supported by the results of the poll.

I am not sure that you would be pleased with the results.

Heck, I’m being honest when I say that it would take a great deal of thought and a huge amount of emotional attachment for me to marry a man that is infertile. In fact, all parts being equal, if the choice was before me to marry someone that was infertile or marry someone that wasn’t, and this was the only distinguishing factor, then I would choose to have as many options open for my future family as possible. (Keep in mind that I’m not talking about someone that I may have developed an attachment to prior to making my decision.)

@PyariCgudia

Right, no, we really ought to tell her if we get the chance to start looking for a white guy whose mom is most likely dead.

Well, I mean, that’s pretty grounded. :halo:

No. That’s not grounded enough. The white guy’s mom can be alive.

@cat-woman

Why don’t I see the enormity of the problem like everyone else When you started your story I was beginning to think she’d either died or was going to be ill or crippled for life. But by the grace of Allah she is healthy and living, who cares whether she can have kids or not or who will marry her or wont.

Manobillie, you are right. She should be thankful. But I reiterate, it’s easy for us to say that. Perhaps when she is over all the stages of grief she may see the bigger picture and be thankful that she is alive and is able to look after herself.

[nia_khan]

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@~Sehar~

With all due respect lollypop man (and Afridi), this girl lost her ovaries, not her vagina. You don’t need ovaries to have intercourse. A male equalivalent of ovaries would be testis. Please take bio101.

*rotfl

i cant believe poor sehar had to say that comment

[aahmed]

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I would certainly marry a woman who isn't able to have children. Children aren't EVERYTHING. You marry someone because you're attracted to them, physically, intellecutally, spiritually, not just so you can use her uterus. Children are the result of that physical, intellectual, spiritual connection. Just because you can't have children with the woman doesn't mean you two don't have a connection.

Besides, you'd save a TON on birth control.

[parissenoor]

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@WitchDr

more suffocating silence

my doctor told me the only cure for my health problem is to have a baby...so if my man was not able to impregnate me, i would do artificial impregnation by an anonymous sperm donor...to have my own children...as for health reason i MUST make my own children instead of adoption (it would ba selfish to adopt knowing you have high risk to die young cause of lack of pregnancies)

it's my personal view

[aahmed]

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@lollypop_man

thanks for human anatomy cliffnotes. im sure there are a lot of men who wont mind parking their cars in a garage with no roof… but then why park it at all. just to use the garage door? makes no sense.

Lully, that’s sayin you only have sex in order to make babies. Maybe you DO only have sex to have babies, in which case I pity you, but I sure as hell enjoy the act too.

[COCO]

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@Barfee

This is why desis will be desis.

So true!

[amana]

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@aahmed

Lully, that's sayin you only have sex in order to make babies. Maybe you DO only have sex to have babies, in which case I pity you, but I sure as hell enjoy the act too.

LOL! I was just about to comment on this! What happens when you and your wife are done having children - are you just going to stop? Trust me, the post-child-bearing years can be the most fulfilling.

[aahmed]

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@amana

LOL! I was just about to comment on this! What happens when you and your wife are done having children - are you just going to stop? Trust me, the post-child-bearing years can be the most fulfilling.

Ooooooh, DO tell us more…

[parissenoor]

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@Muzna

You are right parissenoor....all desis are not chickens without pride. Take a poll. An anonymous one that allows men to vote without revealing their names. See if your utopian attitude, which by the way, I admire, is supported by the results of the poll.

I am not sure that you would be pleased with the results.

Heck, I'm being honest when I say that it would take a great deal of thought and a huge amount of emotional attachment for me to marry a man that is infertile. In fact, all parts being equal, if the choice was before me to marry someone that was infertile or marry someone that wasn't, and this was the only distinguishing factor, then I would choose to have as many options open for my future family as possible. (Keep in mind that I'm not talking about someone that I may have developed an attachment to prior to making my decision.)

.

nice attitude....people say only truth hurts....and well on that topic....truth hurts a lot:(

[Mamaof3]

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Listen, most couples who face infertility - whether its hubby OR wife - are completely unaware of the issue until it smacks them in the heart.

THIS gal, she has had a tragedy that she must learn somehow to deal with and I give her my prayers to endure her grief and find happiness in her life. No small task, given the enormity of the situation.

The rest of you....unless you've been thru infertility testing ie., bloodwork tests at certain times during your cycle and ultrasounds for the gals, semen analysis for the guys....you dont KNOW whether you can reproduce or NOT. So dont be so quick to judge what you would or would not do or how you would handle it. One thing to think about it in theory, quite another to actually LIVE it.

[PyariCgudia]

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@aahmed

Ooooooh, DO tell us more...

Uh...

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[Pakap]

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It isnt *THAT *bad. It would be if she REALLY REALLY wanted a child of her own (she should be happy shes alive)... It might even be a blessing...No need for the 000XXX anymore...

I personally DONT WANT children, the responsibility is too great so is the cost, + romance stops after kids come in so kids are a BIG NO NO today. Being a DINK (Double-Income No Kids) is so much more a luxurious way of life... So shes still got good chance of marriage...easily.