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Aray is mein ew ki kiya baat hai? Don’t older people have sex drives? Or do you think libido dies after 50? For someone who acts all unorthodox and fancy, you sure are narrow minded. I’ve got news for you sugar, if you’re in your 20’s, chances are that your parents are still at it, God bless them.
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I think that she should be upfront about her inability to have children and not keep anyone in the dark. However, as far as infertility goes as mamaof3 pointed out, you may not even know if you are infertile until much later in the game and unless you have had tests done, would you like your husband/wife to leave you if you found out after marriage that you could not conceive, would you leave your spouse if you both found out after marriage that they could not conceive?
what about secondary infertility, i.e. you had a child but can not conceieve now, many times it can not be explained as far as why you cant have another kid, what do you do in that case.
I agree with Muzna on the adoption issue also. The decision to adopt is not an easy one and both peopel ahve to be on the same page. It is expensive, you have to have families that would accept the child or be ready to keep family at arm's length to provide a positive atmosphere for the kid. Then there is the societal stigma, not the one against the adoptive parent for adopting whether they have their own biological children or not, but for the child.
as far as the egg donor issue goes, I dont think I have read anything that allows it in Islam...heck forget egg donor, I have not seen any scholar agree to a getstaional surrogacy i.e. if a women loses her uterus due to molar/ectopic pregnancy but can still produce eggs, thru IVF you can make an embryo and have it implant in someone else's uterus. have never seen any scholar even accepting that, and some of their reasons are a bit flimsy. My wife and I have faced many challenges after the loss of our twins 2 years ago so I am very familiar with much of these issues and the current rulings on those.
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That reminds me of a story from the news a number of years back where a 16 year old boy shot dead both his parents after he accidently found them making love.
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Did he shoot hte mum coz she was enjoyuing it 
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it's my personal view
My best wishes for you.
I believe there are all kind of people in this world. As I said before, for her the major problem will be how to over come this tragedy. If she is able to cope with it, she will surely find someone who will make her forget about her condition.
I know another situation which I would like to mention here. We have a very close Pathan family friends. Very well off, Mashallah. Pathan culture puts a lot of focus on children. Unforunately, God did not bless them with children. They tried all sort of therapies but nothing worked out for them. But apart for their deep longing to have children, they were one of the most happiest couples I have ever met in my life. They really enjoyed their married life.
Suddenly, after 7 years of their marriage, they managed to conceive! And now after 12 years of their marriage they have 2 boys and a girl. The point is that not having kids is not the end of life, if one can understand.
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Because he was so ashamed and astonished that his parents are still doing that.
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That is a very interesting point. It seems nature punishes those who do not want to participate in the procreation process. I also read that menopause gets delayed in those women who have higher number of pregnancies and given that they have healthy pregnancies, their life expectancy could be higher. But higher number of pregnancies have other complications. Pregnancies get complicated as women age and risk of osteoprosis increases as well. I wanted to find out what was the optimum number of pregnancies a women needs to have for maximizing her life. Is there any study on that?
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it's my personal view
Wieredest of health problems!
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No it’s not weird.
I have a relative that suffers from endometriosis. The symptoms can be debilitating and the best cure is to become pregnant, carry the child to term and deliver.
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no women no cry by ........... bob marley :)
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I hope and pray that she finds someone who will love her besides this fact. We had a family friend who went through all this after she got engaged. Her ovaries were removed too and she also cudnt conceive. Everybody in her family thought her fiance would no longer marry her but he married her after 3 weeks of the operation and they are the most happiest couple i have seen. He loves her very much and she is very very satisfied with her married life, mashAllah.
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-late menopause and early menarch (onset of periods) are both risk factors in breast and uterus cancer
-interesting question, i'm not aware of it, but historical statistical studies suggest that woman who have children later in life live longer than woman having children early in their life. Although all modern science explanations tend to prove us we must conceive early in order to lower cancer risk and avoid late pregnacy complications....personaly i beleive that happiness is far more important for health than most of these "risks factors" doctors investigates, and the statistics are quite proving it: having a child make a person life complete, and people care to live till their chilldren are adults, so having children late, increase lifespan just cause YOU WANT, truly want to live, for your child;)
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And then their daughter-in-laws come and that desire abruptly evaporates.. :D
However, your point is quiet true that happiness, a sense of purpose and healthy living plays a big part in longevity. God has created one of the most complex and amazing machines in the form of the human body.
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woah, the idiot better make the most of his time before his kid is 16, if that’s his theory. 
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Variety of treatments are avaliable, with success rate upto 90%, Okay pregnancy can offer complete resolution, but, insemination by someone other than husband, NO, NO
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I'm not talking about insemination by someone other than husband.
I merely answered your question about pregnancy being a cure.
And 90% is a great success rate until you aren't in that group.
My relative falls in the 10% that are not having any success through a variety of treatments.
She's been through surgery five times in seven years.
She's been "forced" to endure artificially enduced menopause and then had her system kick-started again, as many times as the surgery.
Tell her "variety of treatments are available, with success rate upto 90%" and see what she has to say to you!
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However, your point is quiet true that happiness, a sense of purpose and healthy living plays a big part in longevity. God has created one of the most complex and amazing machines in the form of the human body.
that's scientifically proven wrong:D! female human are one of the very few females in all animals who live after menopause!
most animal die after they stop reproducing, but women DO live long, because they take care of grandchildren, the granny is the most important invention of human evolution: granny cares about babies and young children, so her daughter/or daughter in law, can concentrate on making more babies:D, increasing the granny genes chance of survival;)
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inseminators know that artificial insemination have 90% chance of sucess only in some…animal species in farms 
for women it’s down to 30% due to emotional stress, oddly it’s also true for animals in zoos…are women wild animals in a cage?
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And 90% is a great success rate until you aren't in that group. My relative falls in the 10% that are not having any success through a variety of treatments. She's been through surgery five times in seven years. She's been "forced" to endure artificially enduced menopause and then had her system kick-started again, as many times as the surgery. Tell her "variety of treatments are available, with success rate upto 90%" and see what she has to say to you!
Muzna
Pregnancy is NOT a cure for endometriosis, hundreds of women get endometriosis after having children, do u think if pregnancy was a cure these women will get endometriosis?
Most women do get releif "during" pregnancy, but it will recur after the pregnancy.
I am sorry to hear bout ur firend, but if she has such a severe endometriosis and had so many surgeries, even getting pregnant may be quite difficult.