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^ Chotey Bhaiya
** Hugs**
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This girl should maintain a postive attitude, and be prepared for having a love marriage to a non-desi. I hate to say it, but it will be very hard to find a desi guy who's family would approve of an infertile girl. I know a lot of people (desi) who have adopted children, and all of them are happy and love their children to bits.
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^ oh how little faith we have in our desi menfolk. Allah karay all you westernised girls find naik and shareef non desi whites. Ameen. dua ke liye uThae haath wala ismaili
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and this is called "generalization"
These girls stereotype desi men, yet ignore the most basic differences between a desi man and walaiti man
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not true…it all depend on getting the right hormonal treatment…and no doctor know how to do it 
but not having children is a big risk factor of breast and uterus cancer:hoonh:…who kill many more women than ovarian cancer:bummer:
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I know!! I was looking at the bright side and that is the reason I did not include the above cancer types. However, my first quote had certain connotations which I dare not to elaborate on here.
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Lol Witchy, gotta hand it to u for ur eternal optimism :)
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Having both experienced infertility and worked in the field for a while, I'd like to point out that there is still a good chance that this girl CAN have children - not her own biological children - but those of her husband and an "egg donor". It a straightforward procedure called In-Vitro Fertilization and SOME health insurance plans will cover at least part of the cost. She can have the opportunity to find an egg donor with similar looks to herself if she desires, she can carry a baby and give birth. The only difference is that the baby would not be biologically related to her but she would be the mother in every way and her husband would be the father biologically.
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^ I’m not positive, but I don’t think that’s allowed in Islam.. :halo:
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Actually, it is. Its when the paternity isnt kept within the family that it becomes a problem. Islaam is a Paternal religion, the importance of maintaining the "line" thru the father is of utmost importance. But in a case like this, paternity would be the biological father and all is well.
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NO, NO
I don't think its allowed, bcoz the egg donor is 'not' the wife of husband and he cannot impregnate the egg of someone he is not married to, the child will be born out of wedlock.
If u have any opinion contrary to this from scholars plz let us know.
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Absolutely I have little faith in desi menfolk, based on thousands of anecdotal evidences. You'd have to find a desi guy who was head over heels in love with this girl and was willing to fight for her (which could happen), who has parents who are okay with not having any biological grandkids (which is unlikely). Maybe if they have other sons who have kids, they'll be okay with one who doesn't.
Come on, our culture is the same one in which a man will easily divorce or marry another woman at the same time if the first wife is unable to have kids. That's one of the most common reasons for polygamy and I've seen that happen with my own eyes.
But that's not to say she can't find a progressive, open-minded desi. I say she disregard culture, and go for a Muslim who loves her regardless of her infertility. There is nothing wrong with adoption.
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I knew a guy once who lost his testis in a surgery. I can see so much sadness on his face…
Like who wants to marry a guy with no balls?
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Hello?
Can you please expand on your comment?
How is my opinion expressed here going to make her feel like chicken ****?
And from where do you fathom that I would say any of this to her?
My post is directed to all the people that are offering condolences by suggesting that adoption is an option. I’m trying to make them realize how un-realistic their solution is.
I’m actually trying to help everyone understand the enormity of the tragedy here, not belittling it.
If you want me to post the same thing that everyone else is posting and merely say, “It’s okay, some understanding and compassionate desi man will marry her(cuz the world is just brimming with Pakistani guys (and their mothers) that will marry a woman that can’t have kids), they will adopt a daughter and a son and then walk of into the sunset with their perfect family”, then sorry. I’m a bit more grounded than that.
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those who lost hopes and dreams are old…no matter how old they are:clown:
i disagree…call me a dreamer, a utopian…but i don’t think all desi are chicken who have no pride and bow heads down no matter what crap their jahil mother is saying…no i do think there are desi guys who are educated, who have educated mothers maybe too, and who would behave with pride and moral and marry for love instead of old hindu traditions of caste and purity of the lineage:D
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I’m so totally with you here. Everyone keeps harping on how others should/will accept her, especially her future husband. What about her, how she feels, what her emotions are and how she is to cope with something like this? Everyone’s offering solutions on marriage, but the hell with that for now. Yes life is of most importance, obviously, but every tragedy has its own grieving level. I hope and pray that she’ll come out with the acceptance of whatever she’s lost, and realize that she’s no less a woman.
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Right, no, we really ought to tell her if we get the chance to start looking for a white guy whose mom is most likely dead.
Well, I mean, that’s pretty grounded. :halo:
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would u seriously consider marrying a penis less man? its not that easy is it.