I have seen a few desi couples where they knew before hand that the grl was infertile but still decided to go ahead with the marriage.
One of my uncles best friend had his nikkah done with a grl outside family but during taht time period she had an intestinal rupture as well where they had to remove her ovaries.. family of the guy and the grl decided that they should end the nikkah since they all know she will never become a mom, but the guy decided to get the rukhsati done right after the surgery because he wanted to support her emotionally by being with her. Last I heard, they adopted a grl from Edhi center.. MashaAllah!
In this case, InshaAllah she will find someone who truly loves her for herself not for the sake of being a baby producing machine.
Perhaps this belongs in another thread, but adoption is a very difficult and trying process. Not to mention the expense attached with it.
It's a lot easier said than done.
Quite frankly, it's very easy for all of us that are capable of producing offspring to say, "Koi baat nahin. She can adopt. There are so many children that need to have parents."
But if I were going through this, I'd be suicidal!
May Allah guide her and give her the patience she will need to deal with the ramifications of this tragedy, ameen!
Perhaps this belongs in another thread, but adoption is a very difficult and trying process. Not to mention the expense attached with it.
It's a lot easier said than done.
Quite frankly, it's very easy for all of us that are capable of producing offspring to say, "Koi baat nahin. She can adopt. There are so many children that need to have parents."
But if I were going through this, I'd be suicidal!
May Allah guide her and give her the patience she will need to deal with the ramifications of this tragedy, ameen!
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She has had a tragedy alright, but it's people like you who make others feel like chicken ****. Imagine her being surrounded by a few people who think like you, the poor soul would commit suicde straightaway.
As someone said earlier, marriage is more than popping kids out. Some people may marry for babies but there are guys and girls out there who will marry the person and genuinely want to be with someone for who they are.
Adoption is a complicated process but well worth it. Also, there are a million kids out there who are rejected for adoption because they don't fit the right profile. So, in many instances, it depends on how picky the parents are. Adoption is a beautiful thing. There are many people who adopt and live full, complete lives and they don't feel any absence of not having their own child because they do have a child, the child they adopted.
I hope and pray that InshaAllah this girl finds someone who adores her, loves her for who she is and sees her as a complete, whole person because that is what she deserves.
everyone want a normal life, a life with spouse and kids. I wonder what would be the reaction of a girl if some guy with disability approached her? So plz don't say guys don't have balls i see no girl having them too.
This girl is lucky to be alive. Rupture of the intestines can kill. Her parents should be thankful that they have their daughter, even if she doesn't have her ovaries. She is not a useless woman now. Women aren't breeding machines, but I realize that most Muslim men want to have their own biological kids to continue their name blah blah. First her family must be upfront about her inability to conceive. There is no way that hiding this information from the guy's family is forgivable. I know there must be some compassionate and noble guy out there who will marry her despite her situation.
^ I agree. It may be difficult especially when they tell people she can't conceive ... but if she is able to find someone who genuinely loves her and cares about her, he mostlikely will stand by her.
OK THAT MAKES ME REALLY MAD TO THINK PPL WUDNT MERRY A PERSON THAT SUCH AN ACCIDENT HAPPEND TO!
OK O IT HAPPEND U CAN'T CHANGE IT..... BUT THINK ABOUT ALL THE OPRPHANS THAT DON'T HAVE PARENTS. SHE CAN ADOPT TOO.
SHES A PERSON TOO
will someone marry her knowing that she cannot conceive. If the parents don’t tell the in laws about her condition, what will happen if they come to know later.
it makes me so mad to see that ppl think like thAT OK SO SHE HAD AN ACIDENT, NO ONE CAN HELP THAT.
SHE IS STILL HUMEN AND think abt all the oprphans out there, they need parents too! she can adopt too.
Allow me to be a complete a$$hole here. Lets look at the bright side:
1- She will never loose her figure!!!!!!
2- No money spent on contraceptives!!!!!
3- No headaches about not to get pregnant!!!! Sex anywhere, any time!!!!
4- She can adopt the most beautiful babies!!! No pregnancy and labor pains!!!
5- She can have girls or boys!! Will count as a sawab!!
6- No chances of PCOS or ovarian cancer!
Hello! we r suppose to marry women that can bear children first...girls who want to have kids. would u marry I guy who cant impregnate you...im not talking about a guy you love or have been dating...basically a guy ur parents have chosen for you...a typical arranged marriage?
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