***I went on to say if the comments had a recurring fashion then one must "read between the lines. ***
“Lots of people are good at sugar-coating their innate snide-ness .”
I for one would not tolerate anyone’s mean-ness or rude-ness if the only excuse that one can make for their behaviour is a flimsy "dil ka tho acha hai " …dil ka kya mein achaar daloongi 
As far your concerned Chachu Jaan then yeah you already know my answer to that question 
And NO you cannot be rude to me , you know that is injurious to your health 