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^ hey ur the one always telling women to be strong career-wise … so yeah … i need a backup … stealing this dudes career plans 
but the kind of back up you’re possibly referring to … that’s only you dahling … only you 
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I'm your back-up? Hai Allah.
:(. Now I know what it feels like to be a guy. I feel suffocated jab larkiyan peechay par jaa thi hain.
Stoppit... Saying the same stuff what other's been saying wouldn't make you any smarter even if you word it differently - stick to the point, and where did I mention she'd have me back or I want her back.. she is in a bad place because of her stupidity and the choices she made... not that I physically lifted her and put her in the bad place... gawd
How obnoxious of you. This happens to people, at least she is not giving up. Listen, maybe she was just NOT THAT INTO YOU, huh? so either forget about it, or give her props for her tenacity.
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It only happens to those who make stupid decisions.. but if you can't grasp the simple fact then good luck to your peanut size brain.
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alot of gorey females stay at home yet we dont see them complaining about it...for some reason its us pakistani females who are up in arms about almost everything...
^MC12IT is it so hard 4 u to get that u were not good enuf for her ??? dun try 2 comfort ur hurt ego by bringing her misfortune in.
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If an agile person goes through an obstacle, then it's a life lesson for them and guarantee you he/she will gain ground once the thick clouds are gone.. people with low strength of mind or will tend to do more deterioration to them selves by engaging with (A) wrong crowd (B) Illegal venture (C) Of the wall decisions... in this case she got involved with a criminal and even helped him pay his lawyer fees.. then living in a wrong area with bunch of drug dealers .. she is going down n down because of the choices she is making.. this is plain absurdity on her behalf.. by applauding her like that would only make her sink further more since such people are already thinking that they are doing nothing wrong.
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There are different ways of thinking about this whole thing. There are women who want career and children. Those who can handle both successfully are truly blessed. And probably set a great example for their children.
There are other women who - educated or not, career or not, want to be home with their children - most especially in their youngest years. I was that way and hubby was in complete agreement. In no way do I feel subjugated or less of a person. Actually, I think being a stay-home mom is a far tougher job than managing trading floor technology. I'd not trade it for all the tea in china as they say.
So...if you want a stay-home mom then marry one who feels the same way. If you want a career-minded wife then marry one who is capable of both. Otherwise, you're asking for heartache and resentment on both sides of the marriage.
Ask. And be sure.
dun u get it that she must hv her own reasons abt which u dun hv a clue. who r u 2 judge on her actions? wat I find intrsting is the holier then thou attitude like we hvn’t ourselves ever taken any bad decision in our lives. this is life, v learn this way so let her live her life. If u can’t do any thing abt it then stop wasting ur time on thinkin abt it n move on. If u can’t then u hv more serious issues then her
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What I see here is a blown up ego based on nothing. There are people telling you repeatedly that you probably just didnt strike her fancy after she talked to you. You're not striking our fancy either after reading your posts so Im not really all that surprised.
The flaw here is in the way you are thinking about her...like she lost you. She She may have gone through her own trials and tribulations but thats her business. Who died and made you God, the Judge of All Humanity?
If you really cared about her, you would have done something to help her by now already. You would never have created this thread to gloat over her misery and pump up your majorly deprived ego. Its gross how you seem to be feeling a sense of victory over something that happened sooo long ago and STILL holding on to it.
This is disgusting.
p.s. - you remind me of the character of "silensor" in the movie Three Idiots.
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I think you have more issues than all of us combined .. repeating the same thing in a bloody pink over and over.. couldn't you get attention any other way.. barf*
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Right...real mature there...
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I wanted the best for her, she refused to participate in it.. it was her decision.. I never asked her to sit at home do nothing, I would have gladly asked her to help me with my business .. I would have given her the initiative to take charge of her own life without even asking me for anything I would have asked her to continue her education, etc etc.. she didn't take the chance hence the result is obvious.
Ok, I saw this earlier, but decided this needed a well-thought out response sitting down over the weekend.
Here's the thing. You suggest that you secretly would like someone to give up their job and sit at home, YET, you contradict yourself here by saying that she could help you in YOUR business.
One thing I can suggest to you, as a woman, is to avoid seeing women as tools to further your own life and career. Marrying someone is different than hiring a servant or hiring someone to work in your company. You marry a person, you do so because you love them for who they are - their virtues, personality, and even throw in the attraction aspect.
So, if that same woman comes with a career or not, is really a minor issues, or at least SHOULD be these days, with the way most women have shown they can handle the balance.
Decisions about what to do when babies come into the picture - all that can be worked out if both parties are reasonable. The solution is irrelevant - whether she chooses to give up the job or hire a babysitter or ask relatives for help - all is irrelevant, because at the end of the day what really IS going to effect the way your children are brought up is that woman's personality and values. NOT whether she spends 12 hours in the day with them or 24. THAT is truly irrelevant.
Many kids are raised by both mom, and naani, and daadi, and aunties, and dad, and what that mixture is and what time each family member is devoting means NOTHING. **What does matter **is if the mother of your kids is the woman that GS User Zobia describes (she feeds off your income, sits at home, and buys diamonds, and cars, and watches TV all day) or a woman who has worked for her own survival, understands how the world works because she has been an active member of it, understands finances because that's what her degree is in, understands how to work with others and how to negotiate, and compromise, etc and can pass on the lessons she learned in her life because she just has so much more life experiences to draw from.
But what I don't understand from this post of yours is - why is it not ok for her to carry on with her work in whatever company she was employed in, but it IS okay for her to work FOR YOU? Either way she is working, so that's obviously not the issue. The issue seems to be that you want your eyes on her at all times. If she works with you, she can't cheat on you at work, because you'll know, obviously. If she works for you, she can't possibly make more money than you, because you control that. If she works for you, you also control her more than if she worked for another company. If she works for you, it helps YOU. At the end of the day, YOU benefit, not some other company. It's about YOU, YOU, YOU.
Not sure which one of these is really the bottom-line cause for the above statement of yours, but obviously there is more to it than wanting a wife who will pay attention to her household duties, or wanting to provide the most relaxing environment for your wife and providing her luxuries. Because obviously, you'd be open to her working FOR YOU, but NOT for someone else.
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Yeah, and just be careful of talking to people like this. Also does not make you an appealing candidate for a husband. Learn from guys who have proven to be great husbands - they would never talk to a girl like this.
Plenty of great examples here to learn from.
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No pcd.. I want my wife to be her own boss.. run her own company rather then taking smit from her boss all the time... I want to give her the respect she deserves.. there's nothing wrong with that.. it's amazing how people here on GS twist words to have fun .. eheh
Yeah, and just be careful of talking to people like this. Also does not make you an appealing candidate for a husband. Learn from guys who have proven to be great husbands - they would never talk to a girl like this.
Plenty of great examples here to learn from.
and a woman should talk like you pcd.. you??
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Ok, so that is more understandable. Clearly, you know that one has to work like a dog to get to that kind of position - either that or they need to be a brilliant businesswoman to take capitol, and start a company and not drive it to the ground in the first two years, which most small businesses eventually end up doing...
It's honorable that you want her to be the best she can be - now why don't you communicate THAT to any future women you speak to, and you'll see, they will be more open to talking to you without hanging up while you're in mid-sentence.
Hell YEAH! Dude, I’m not some floozy. I don’t want to boast, but I’m doing ok. I can teach women quite a bit and rule number ONE is don’t mess around with BS talk. Talk to the point, and make sure you get what you want in life. :k:
None of this weak haan ji, theek hai ji crap.
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Mc12 - just like this girl lost her job and found herself working in a crappy job bcos she had to, you could have just as easily found yourself in the same circumstances, it makes no difference whether you are a man or woman.
You cannot guarantee that you will always have a good income to support a wife.