Experience!

Lifestyle Relationships
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Not just me genius, whoever in my position would have thought the same way.. she made the wrong decision and now living with consequences...

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If I lost interest in a guy and he starts offering me the sun, moon and stars...doesnt make me any more or less interested.

You may have a lot going for yourself...but that doesnt mean she necessarily wants it.

If you're glaoting over her misfortune in life...then I can tell you something right now...she isnt missing much.

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See wrong decisions are a perspective...

Some people think I'm foolish for being a stay home mom, but my kids and husband and I don't. At the end of the day, I don't really care about what aanyone else thinks.

So you may see her as having made a bad decision, but she is content, and some guy would probably want someone like her.

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content!! You for real?? Losing your job, house and a fiance makes you content?

I wish I didn't see her like that yesterday.. I would have been much happier if she was in a happy place but she wasn't... she now lives in the worst part of the city and I heard taking drugs too.. for crying out loud, she rejected me for her career and she didn't even fulfill her own expectations.. that's what bothers me.

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But don't worry about her...some people need to learn by making mistakes or just getting varied experience...

You surely can find a good wife elsewhere. There's enough women in the world I tell ya!

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I don’t talk to thick people.. please ignore me.

thank you :aliyish:

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Hai rabba, how do you know she is “thick?”

Very bad :nono:

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eheh.. I'm not even looking at the moment ( oh well never say never) but I truly wish I can help her you know.. and no my intentions are not to get back to her.. once i'm moved on, I can never looked back.. but I wish to help her in any way possible... but don't want to face her, maybe indirectly

let's see *sigh

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You like her :chai:

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Oh no, thank YOU. Considering the source…thats almost a compliment.

I smell something burning…:whistling:

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you like her
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gawd, I only met her twice.. that's it.. lol uno what when I met her the first time we were in a cafe, so at the end I paid the bill... so she got mad in the car while I was driving her home saying " don't you ever pay my bills, I can take care of my self.. this is not Pakistan etc.. etc" red light was flashing then n there but I completely ignored it.. oh well, wa me do ey.. dem girls!

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Erm no. At that point in time, I doubt she would have had any idea that she would lose her job and have such misfortune - it's not a likely outcome. It could have been just as likely that she married you (or anyone) that she thought was a decent guy and he could have turned out to be a wife beater.

Oh and plus, if she was really a career oriented woman, even if you proposed to her now I bet she'd tell you to go jump. Just because she's in a bad place, if she didn't like your point of view then, why would she like it now?

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If you really feel for her, get back in touch with her and reach out as a friend. Doesn't mean you need to marry her, FYI. You can help someone of the opposite sex without getting in bed with them.

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Stoppit... Saying the same stuff what other's been saying wouldn't make you any smarter even if you word it differently - stick to the point, and where did I mention she'd have me back or I want her back.. she is in a bad place because of her stupidity and the choices she made... not that I physically lifted her and put her in the bad place... gawd

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No.. I don't wanna see her or want to speak to her or have anything to do with her.. I'd ask her friend if she needs any help..that's it.

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I wouldn't mind if I was asked if I want to work. To the guppans who said that there needs to be a difference in the roles of men and women- I don't think it's wrong if a woman works. We need to get the education and work experience in case if God forbid, but we end up married to men who lose their jobs, are abusive, etc. I personally, believe that most women have a sensitive heart and when we have children, we will any day, give more priority to raising a child over a job. If a husband makes more than enough money and the wife still desires to work, her desire should not be crushed.

So this is the careless decision. Her hanging up and not calling you back- an indirect refusal. Perhaps she didn't know that the guy in England had a criminal history? Maybe that's the reason why the engagement broke up- he couldn't move to the US and she found it was bc he was a criminal.

she hung up and didn't call back to apologize for her behavior. it was pretty much a "no," all you did was actually say "no."

Her refusal and the ex-fiance have NOTHING to do with her losing her job and house. This is the order of events: she moved to Chicago and found a job. Was able to get a house, probably because she found a good job. She got engaged. Then she lost her job, so less money in that bank account. Less money, meaning can't afford the house anymore. Fiance has a criminal record and can't come to the US, lose him too. End up working in the mall. So what was the wrong decision here? The answer to this is her losing her job. If she was laid off, that's not her fault. If she lost it because of her own work ethics, then that's her fault. Her refusal did not mean she was going to lose her job and house.

Awww, I knew you had a heart! Maybe you could have offered her security, but there's no guarantee she would have been happy. You two seem incompatible. You have to understand that her present state has nothing to do with the refusal. You can say that if she married you, you would have made enough money that she would not need to work at a mall. don't make it sound as if working in a mall and "begging" for people to sign up for a credit card is demeaning.

I think you like her :) The girl's lost so much and if she's doing drugs then that's even sadder. I hope she doesn't do anything desperate. Like I've been saying, if you want to help, the LEAST you can do is pray for her and wish her well.

I tell my guy friends not to pay my bills at a restaurant, but they do it anyways. Deep down, I'm not mad, I'm flattered because that's gentleman-like.

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I will add this point... I can see why you think that she made a bad decision by turning you down. I tried to see this from a guy's perspective. If any guy saw a former prospective bride in her situation, he would most likely say "If that girl married me, she wouldn't be like this today"- but that is only referring to security. I want to emphasize that security is not everything and guys, please, don't give yourselves that much credit. Compatibility, love, trust, etc.- these things matter too. So if she married you, for all you know, you two would have gotten divorced (let's say because of the red lights you saw in her personality)- then the same events could have followed- her losing her job, house, next fiance. The root of the situation would still be losing a job.

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I didn't read the other posts. Reading 4 pages of mostly crap isn't my thing.

YOU stick to the point. You're trying to say she would have had a better life if she had married you compared to her current situation. WHICH has nothing to do with 'her stupidity', just her bad luck. We don't have a looking glass to the future.

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hey Mc121T!! … i’m more interested in your job/business-plan … what do you do for a living? :khumar:

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Farrah is working on her back up plans.