so how do u deal with ending a 6,7 years friendship that is one sided..like the girl likes the guy…she never said it…but the guy has the idea from her actions and obsession with him…now the guy wants to end this friendship before its tooo late and anyone gets hurt…
how shud the girl deal with it…shez just obsessed and can get over it in a while or so…but facing the rejection at the moment is being so hard for her…
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end it as soon as possible.
she'll get over it.
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What was he doing for the past 6-7 years...taking advantage more like :(
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no not taking advantage at all...they have been very good friends and he is a very good person infact...n i feel maybe he is interested too and is just reluctant...
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^ What makes you think he can be reluctant? What for?!
I think he is only being wise cuz in this situation its not a good idea to remain friends...well ideally it shud be a good option but realistically it will only create problems.
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i myself feel it is the best for both of them n hez just being wise..
hez being reluctant because of the family problems that may arise...bcoz girl belongs to a conservative family n he doesnt...
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he has not been friends wid anyother girls and therez no one else in his life at the moment
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have u met nadz123?
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^NO WHY??
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ending something that never started?
sadly there is no anesthesia to get out of it painless. She can minimize the pain by keeping herself busy in things she likes to do.
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This girl needs to discover shoes.
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and handbags. JImmy choo <3
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wow, this girl needs to find someone else and you port the obsession on to this other person, problem solved
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How can I make a long term friendship with girls? Like this? 
Well, it is said that if a guy is truly interested in a girl......he'll show it (even the shyest among them). He'll go after her. Such is the view of Greg Behrendt; author of He's Just Not That Into You.
Although.....LOL.....perhaps desi guys contradict the expert's belief. There have been several stories on here where a guy starts a relationship with a girl and then drops her because he realizes that Mummy and Daddy won't approve of the match. More power to those who persist.
^But I guess even in these situations.........the guy AT LEAST makes it obvious that he has an interest.....so that a relationship (even one that doesn't make it to marriage) takes place.
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Lost Angel,**
If this guy has an interest in the girl........he'll let her know. At least this guy is not leading her on, that's a cruel thing to do. You said that the guy has been able to sense that the girl is "OBSESSED" with him. Now, I don't know if you're exaggerating, but that's a pretty strong word. And to know that person is obsessed with you would make most people uncomfortable. So, I would advise that the girl stop acting "obsessed." If she's always lingering around him, if she's emailing him or calling him several times during the week, she needs to quit it.
In general.....it's never good to even unintentionally send out a needy/desperate vibe to the opposite sex. Don't chase after the guy. Let him come after the girl. It seems that he's already received more than a subtle hint that girl is interested. He's aware of how girl feels.........and now the ball is in his court. If he chooses to pursue her, he'll give a strong indication of that. If he is not interested, he hopefully won't encourage her by maintaining a distance from her.
Even if the guy later changes his mind about the girl..........he'll make it known to her. But she shouldn't be waiting around concentrating on nothing else but him. She should keep busy..........pursue a class, hobby, develop herself, etc.
When you're concentrating on other goals in your life......you'll feel a greater sense of fulfillment, you'll feel more confident, more secure about yourself. And this stronger and more positive attitude will reflect in your body language and you'll appear more attractive. Who knows? In the process of moving on with her life and focusing on herself..............she'll get to understand herself and her needs better.............and she might end up finding a better guy than the one she's crushing on.
Anything can happen. I don't want to raise any hopes cuz it can be painful if things turn out differently. But it's possible that if the girl BACKS OFF, the crush might develop an interest. It's also possible that she'll become a more confident person and find a better guy. But either way................backing off/moving on.....although unpleasant and challenging to do......seems to be the more practical solution.
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Redness
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I so disagree with you, how could you even say that??
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ur life is more than just a guy..go search urself n what u wana do with this life..dunt waste it being obsessed over something ull forget in 10yrs n regreting u wasted those years over something...discover urself..i read ur previous posts u need to take a new undiscovered road in life make a consious effort to solve ur problems..each n every one of them with strength n confidence (both of these qualities r inside u just have to let them out) dont just keep praying do something about ur life urself!
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Dude my two cents ... if therez a will therez a way ... if hte guy is really into the grl he'll atleast try to make things happen ... if hes not trying then hes not worht it ... and trust me you get over everything and everything just comes back to normal cuz a good thing about life is ... it goes on
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If one party is not interested(Doesnt matter about the reasons) Simple solution
Let them go....U cant hold on to someone who is not willing to be hold on to if you know what I mean, I am sure it will be hard for both parties but be selfish just think of yourself....If the guy is reluctant now he will be reluctant in 10 years down the line...Just be glad you havent wasted more of your time.
And I know it is hard to move on when the other person hasnt done anything bad but sometimes some relationship just reach their expiry date and we have to chuck them out no matter how perfect they look because they are not good for us in the long run.