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@Muzna

There is little difference between eastern and western values when it comes to this subject. You will find people who adhere to both viewpoints in both regions.

and people should think this way…
having and raising a child to the age where they become capable of looking after themselves requires compassion and effort.
once a child is old enough to practice and show respect, he/she should do so simply for the fact that he/she was looked after when he/she could not do it for him/herself.

granted the child does not owe his/her life to the parent, the parent also does not owe their feelings of gratitude for this “privilege” to the child; those feelings are reserved for Allah, the Creator that provided this privilege. the parent also does not forfeit the right to respect from the child simply because Allah deemed them worthy of the privilege.

if the parent is asking for respect for their role in bringing this child to a point where they are capable to look after themselves then they are owed respect for that.

Yes…this is a lovely sentiment. Unfortunately it doesn’t always hold true.
There are enough examples in our everyday lives where we do not get the respect we deserve because someone’s opinion of how we should behave differs from that which we hold virtuous. Or someone decides for whatever unrelated reason that they will withhold that respect.
So yes…lofty, utopian concept but not always true.

As I explained earlier, if you have done what you are duty-bound to do (i.e. provide for a child’s needs until they are able to care for themselves) then you deserve some level of respect for that effort. Granted it may not be the same respect for a “jerk” than for a “good” father, but respect nonetheless.

The way people see it here is that you chose to have the child and the child did not choose to be born, it is our duty to raise and provide for the child and what are we owed for doing our duty. Providing and caring is not considered a burden that an offspring has to bear as the society takes away the child from a parent unwilling to provide and care for the child and will have it adopted by many nice and caring couples waiting in queue for several years.
I have seen many parents who scream and yell at kids and beat them, that kind of behavior often destroys the children’s lives so why should a man who destroyed someone’s life be respected. We just heard about parents getting arrested for spanking a 14 yr old. The court did not respect the parents